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" I seems see some coldness and selfishness.This is from my sixth sense."
It's interesting that you sense these feelings, Lily, about Yan Zi's mother. My view though is that the poor lady is absolutely shattered from what's happening around her. All traces of joy, happiness or peace have vanished from her being at this time, hence she looks so devoid or bereft of emotion. God be with her.
The videos you referred me to were distressing indeed. I had to stop watching. Some things are just too painful to see.
You also said,
"I really want to be a vegetarian but I don't know how to start on that "
I faced the same situation back in 1982 when I first stopped eating meat. That was the answer. Just stop buying it.
But it's a personal decision, complicated if you have a young son. I advise my friends to allow their children and teenagers to eat meat. Their bodies are growing. But once the kids mature into young adults, they should then make up their own minds what to do in this area. Vegetarianism shouldn't be forced upon them, I think. Hopefully they'll weigh all the pros and cons and then do what their heart and mind tells them what to do. The right thing.
Best wishes to you, Lily. (f)
"i think the spirit of yang zi is still there, her life is short, but meaningful"
Thanks for this, Belle77. I agree wholeheartedly with you.
I believe Yan Zi has repaid a lot of karma both in what she went through as well as the inspiration she has given to others.
Like the ripples on a still pond, her influence will spread far beyond what most people would think. Our thoughts are now with her family, especially her mother, who must be now feeling utterly devastated. :(
My heart is hurting from half the world away..........(u)
"I am a grown man and it has brought me to tears"
Thank you for your comments, Anon11422. Yan Zi's plight has brought tears to many people. Born to a poor farming family, she would have had no idea that the story of her life would be circulating around the world, inspiring many to do better things with their lives. Her example clearly demonstrates to those thinking people around us how fleeting and precious life can be.
As for Yan Zi's mother, I am hopeful that the QQ group formed to help Yan Zi will now help her. China doesn't have any where near the level of social support systems that exist in the West, so life can be brutal for those with little money.
Thank you for caring, my friend. (y)
"Chinese culture...... they believe strongly in tradition family values, moral and the proper place of possessions"
Yes, I agree that in China, family plays a stronger role than in most other countries. We in the West could learn much from them in this regard.
Wherever Yan Zi's soul ends up, she will learn that the story of her life benefited many people, most of them strangers she'd never heard about. Who can read about her story and not be moved by her circumstances? Who amongst us can not learn invaluable lessons from her tale, as tragic as it is?
Yan Zi, thank you for helping me think and learn some things that I should've realised a long time ago.
Her death is a sad reminder to stop feeling regrets about that past, stop feeling futile in the present, and stop worrying about how the future might unfold. Happiness is a lifestyle choice not something hidden that you need to search for.
It really is amazing that someone would travel a few hours to take care of a total stranger. Kudos to both of you.
"Lately I am struggling both with being happy and being that person that I know that I want to be."
Thanks for your thoughts here, Jianada YangGuizi. Your comments are particularly relevant at this time given the very recent suicide of Robin Williams. This graphically highlights that no matter how talented or successful one is, the black dog of depression can still occur.
As for Tina who wanted to travel to a different town from where she lived in order to take care of a dying person, she was serious here. She wasn't kidding. If she'd been given the go ahead by the people involved, she'd have done it.
What an amazing lady Tina is. And what a sad ending to Yan Zi's life. Yet given her inspirational behaviour, Yan Zi didn't die in vain. She's taught many people to be more careful in their life choices. Appreciating every moment and not stressing out over small things, just for starters.
Cheers mate. (y)