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Re CLM eMagazine Article    

By John Abbot
3822 Views | 9 Comments | 5/14/2010 1:10:38 PM

This is a summary of a full length article that I've posted in CLM eMagazine under the topic of "Online Dating". We can't yet add links in these blogs but will be able to shortly. Meanwhile I'd suggest that you go to the eMagazine and read the letter that the Scammer, a Nigerian pretending to be American, sent to at least one Chinese woman member. I say one member because only one forwarded the letter but more than one complained about the Scammer, whose username is "john123" and who now resides in Scammer Prison.

The photo here is one of the photos posted by john123 on his profile. Another one is published in the full article. in the article I invite members who are honest and sincere Nigerians and Ghanans to provide comments on the fact that we are seriously considering simply banning all citizens of Nigeria, Ghana and several neighbouring African countries because the bad ones are outnumbering the good, and it is extremely difficult and work intensive to sort out one from the other. We don't wish to throw out the few good apples with the many bad ones, but we feel we may have no choice.

We also welcome all other members to comment on this issue and have posted it both here and in the forum to ensure that all members get a voice. I have to say that if no constructive and workable suggestions are put forth on this issue that allow us to weed out these scammers, who are by far the majority of scammers trying to access CLM, we will very soon be taking drastic measures even though we would prefer not to have to do so.

While you are welcome to raise issues of political correctness, I must advise that such arguments will not sway us. We are not going to allow innocent and sincere members of CLM be scammed out of their money for the sake of political correctness. We need real answers on how to solve the problem?

Please comment below and thank you for your time.

Copyright owned jointly by Author and CyberCupid Co., Ltd. Breach of copyright will be prosecuted.
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#2010-04-23 20:01:23 by geograph @geograph

dear john abbot
1 first thank you for such an excellent site, and your efforts to ensure quality will not go unrewarded of that i am sure. I think too for us out here that use c.l.m. it is a constant joy to see scumbag scammers and their ilk dealt with and exposed, scammer prison is far to good for these lowlifes because they do represent a side of the human race that is repugnant and totally unacceptable,
do not relent ,,, thank you once again, r.p.w.o geograph

#2010-04-26 19:50:21 by donovan427 @donovan427

Great Idea,I second the motion,those low lifes try to scam people all over the world, including me.

#2010-04-26 20:36:48 by thedragonb1 @thedragonb1

I'm in total agreement to completely block ALL African countries. I'm suspicious of Russia and Philippines too. It's not worth the risk. It is sad that a bad few spoil for the whole bunch, but at least you are safe. Also, the photos of these scammers are also FAKE. I have had MY PHOTOS copied from online and used on various dating sites by scammers. Women would tell me they saw me on a particular site with different profile information. I have to contact the website admins and have the profiles deleted. I'm sure my pics are being used elsewhere. So do know all photos of all scammers are fakes as well. They use photos of men and women of all ethnicities. So beware everyone. If I hear the words...Africa=Blacklist, Russia=Blacklist, Philippines=Blacklist. It is just not worth the risk.

#2010-04-26 21:27:49 by jag2990 @jag2990

Good Morning John:

Thank you for the blog post and the article, the unfortunate consequence of all of this, is the legitimate men of colour whom are simply looking for an asian partner are painted with the same brush as the 'scammers'. I am not sure what the best option is I applaud CLM for its continued pursuit of the scammers, however I must admit it has been taxing trying to find a partner where in the back of there minds they are thinking the worst. At the end of the day I suppose the only option left for CLM is to deny access. Keep up the good work,


#2010-04-27 03:34:13 by richman2be @richman2be

If anyone is concerned about the few who are honest, then maybe there could be much different criteria from someone of those origins before their profile can be approved! But even then, I believe they will find a way around it!!! The funny part is that the mass majority of the scammers are pretty obvious! Most of the time they say the word "love" in their profile name... or they accept all nationalities for potenial mates... or they are almost all a "god fearing" people. LOL! And their English skills are horrible!!! Maybe just a big warning each time someone logs in so someone serious will not make that mistake, and the honest ones can still be on the site!!

#2010-04-27 04:52:11 by neodymium @neodymium

Hi John. Love the site, and these chinese women are FABULOUS!

For people registering from any suspect countries, you might like to consider something like

There is a small fee payable for each verification call made , but may be well worth it in the long run, if it will keep the site scammer free.

Another added security option would be to only allow users from suspect countries to connect from the IP address they registered on.

So this would possibly stop them logging in from different machines, in different places.

The admins at this site (URL excluded) hate scammers, and I'm sure they would delight in helping you with more suggestions.

#2010-04-27 17:41:42 by tbriandon @tbriandon

Do not block the African countries. Continue to make this situation known through constant attention and spreading information.

Seriously though, "caveat emptor" are wise words to remember. Anyone who could not see through this bunch of baloney DESERVES to be scammed.

Sort of like the CW who told me in order to have a relationship with her I would have to (1) marry her, (2) buy her a car, (3) buy her a house, (4) pay her daughter's private school tuition. I told her that if she found an AM who would do that she should marry him immediately but under NO circumstances have a child with him. She asked me why and I told her that if she did the child almost certainly would be born with severe mental retardation. She hung up on me and I never heard from her again.

#2010-05-01 03:52:11 by kalzorch @kalzorch

As Abraham Lincoln once said: "Whenever I see someone coming towards me with the express intention of doing something for me, I turn and run in the opposite direction just as fast as my legs will carry me."

It is admirable that you want to make CLM a safe place, but really, these are adults that we're talking about. What part of "Don't send money" do they not understand? The world is a dangerous place, and if you do succeed in stamping out all the obvious scammers, some people will be lulled into a false sense of security and become prey for the more devious scammers. There are no guarantees in this business, and anyone doing internet dating should be aware that they have to watch out for bad guys.

#2010-05-08 12:31:51 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

We'd like to thank all of you who commented and those who chose to send letters instead. There seems to be two camps into which most persons commenting fall. 1. Ban all members from the bad countries and take all other steps to protect members from Scammers, or 2. Members are adults and need to protect themselves - do what you can but mostly "Let the buyer beware". We haven't made a final decision yet, but one thing we've noted is that not one member from any of the countries in question chose to comment or to write. We believe that we must never assume all members are internet savvy and know how to play the game. The ladies, many of whom are new to both the internet and the world outside China are the primary target of these scammers. Can we attribute the wisdom of Mr. Lincoln to them?

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