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Barry from Australia is a questioning soul who looks at social issues from an alternative point of view and instead of asking, “Why?”, he asks “Why not?” He’s convinced that many of his previous incarnations were spent in China. He feels drawn to the people there; attracted by their rich culture and way of life. If given one wish from God, he’d reply, “I want everyone on Earth to be the same colour, speak the same language, and treat each other as they themselves would like to be treated.”
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By Barry Pittman
2566 Views | 3 Comments | 2/20/2014 3:19:51 PM

Confucius, one of China's most celebrated sages.

1.  Have you heard the old Chinese saying  -  sisters are like fat thighs, they stick together.  But Chinese brothers are like hungry mosquitoes, hard to find when you want them and rather irritating when you do.


2.  Why is it that if I go to bed at 9.00pm, I'm still awake til after midnight.  But if I go to bed at midnight, I fall to sleep immediately?


3.  I wonder how many people who quote the ancient Chinese proverb,  "A bird does not sing because it has an answer.  It sings because it has a song", really know what this fully means?


4.  Sometimes I open my mouth and embarrassingly nothing comes out.  Other times, I'm screaming to say something, yet know that I must keep my big trap shut at all costs.


5.  Why is it that time after time, a computer page refuses to load, until that split second after you've just hit the "close page" button?  Is life always supposed to be this damn annoying?


6.  Why don’t more people realize that the best way to change things around you, is to first start changing things within you?  So before blaming others, a wise person blames himself.


7.  Stupid people tend to talk a lot.  Smart people tend to talk less.  I reckon things would be a helluva lot better if it was the other way around?


8. Why is it that with your very closest friends, few words need be exchanged between you when you meet up after a long absence?  Yet for ordinary friends meeting like this, you feel as if you need to chatter furiously together like a pair of frenzied monkeys?


9.  When I'm on a diet, I'm always hungry.  But when I'm not on a diet, I'm never hungry.  So if life was fair, I should always eat LESS when I'm not dieting, right  -  and therefore never in fact need to diet!


10.  Why don’t more Chinese ladies realize that a sweet smile is far more beautiful than any amount of carefully applied make up?  And for that matter, men should realise this also and stop looking like a sourpuss much of the time.


11.  When I was a child, I was a bit of a dreamer and hoped that one day I'd be wise enough to know reality.  But now that I'm older, reality scares the hell out of me.  


12.  Why is it that some people you see have a light in their sparkling eyes that illuminates your soul?  Yet other people’s eyes portray a feeling of desperation and despair, despite the smile that may be on their face.

13.  Confucius said that if you're patient in one moment of anger, then you'll save a hundred days of sorrow.  Is this the same as saying that even if you remove a nail hammered in rage into a fence post, the scar in the wood will remain forever?

14.  Ever wondered why smart people have fewer social media friends and contacts, and stupid people have bunches of them?  Does this reflect the old adage that "Empty vessels make the most sound"?  Does the fact that I have very few Facebook friends make me smart?   Or merely antisocial?

15.  Why don’t more people follow Abraham Lincoln’s wise words, when he said, “I dislike that person. I really must get to know him better”?

16.  Why is it that the world's most prized and magnificent animals such as polar bears, tigers and rhinos are treated the most cruelly, being hunted down almost to extinction?  Yet feral pests remain unfettered and free, breeding like well, pests.  Why is it that only parts of the most outstanding animals seem to have aphrodisiac powers?  Why can't some of the ferals also possess these powers, such as hoof of wild boar, nose of sly fox or tail of dirty rat?

17.  The Chinese proverb that says dig the well before you're thirsty is good, I guess.  But won't the well be dug with much more determination, zest and zeal if you leave doing it until you're really thirsty?

18. Why don’t Chinese scientists forget about silly things such as shooting rockets into space, and work on more important issues, such as cross breeding a mosquito that sucks FAT out of your body, rather than blood?

19.  If God is Love, why does He allow so much abject cruelty, suffering and pain on Earth?  And why don't many people take more responsibility for their own actions and their lives, rather than simply "praying to God" and hoping for some sort of supposed divine intervention?


20.  Why do some people say, “Thank heaven it’s Friday, you bloody beauty!” to their unfortunate friends who they know have to grudgingly work shifts every weekend?


21.  You can learn more about a person by the way he treats a stray dog on the street, than listening to a whole mountain of words from him.


22.  Why don’t the dog eaters in China who have the misfortune of suffering from a bad back, realise that if they owned a dog rather than eating them, they'd never have to painfully bend down and pick up food from the floor again, if ever it was dropped?


23.  To all the dear Chinese ladies out there that I talk to either now or in the future, please be aware that I'd rather be disliked for who I am, rather than loved for who I am not.  Please don't think I'm some sort of dreamboat.  I'm a normal person with many faults and failings, I'm afraid.


24. How can you love a person who only really wants you when you look your best, more than someone else who'll love you, regardless of what you look like or what your personal circumstances are?


25.  Why so often is fear the natural reaction of many people as they approach the Truth, rather than satisfaction at finally finding it?  Don't you all reralise that it's the Truth that will ultimately set you free from the invisible shackles that bind, the traumas that trouble, the burdens that bereft?


26.  If life's too short to worry about stupid things, does this mean it’s too long to be concerned about important things?  Remember that imperfection is not a personal problem, it's a perfectly natural state of being for us all.


27.  If birth is the beginning and death is the end, does a Buddhist who believes in reincarnation, consider that death is the end of the beginning, or the beginning of the end?  Do they realise also that death itself is not so important, but the real tragedy is what we let die within us whilst still living, or the cowardly inaction we observed, when duty and effort had been stridently called for?


28.  Why is it that the simplest of things always tend to be the most complex, and the most complex things always tend to possess an inherent simplicity, as brilliantly demonstrated by Albert Einstein in his amazing theories of relativity.


29.  If love is the greatest power  -  desired by all, transcending all boundaries and uplifting everyone who feels it, why is it so often in such critical short supply?  And why do so many people say they love you, when if the truth be known, it's affection they feel, rather than love?  Why in fact, is the word "love" bandied around so loosely, when it should be reserved for those very special moments when you're with that very special person?


30.  Why is it that when you take a bath or shower in the afternoon, then make a decision as to wear either your regular day clothing or your casual evening nightwear, it ALWAYS turns out to have been the wrong choice?


31.  Why don’t more people realize that the word “listen” is an anagram of the word “silent”  -  and that often, the greatest gift you can bestow upon someone close is to be quiet....  to simply shut up for a while and LISTEN.


32.  Why don’t more people realize that “dog” spelt backwards is “God”?  If more Chinese realised this and thought about it, would the revolting Chinese dog trade diminish, I wonder?  Is the taste of dog meat so special that it's worth the depravity involved in its cruel harvesting?


33.  Why don’t more people realize that the hardest words to say are not “I’m sorry” as is commonly believed, but “Goodbye” or "Farewell" to a friend for the final time?  Even more heartbreaking and poignant is when this is sadly done on a deathbed.


34.  Why don’t more people realize that one of the important rules in life is to NEVER talk badly about your wife or husband to anyone, unless for a very significant or genuine reason? Words have power. Don't abuse them.


35.  Why don’t people realize that you’re not just a drop in the ocean?  You’re in fact the entire ocean in a drop.  There's so much more to us all than meets the eye, after all.  Within your body is a soul. This forms part of a greater universal consciousness. But ah, this is a whole other story.  Perhaps I may describe it more fully sometime, if CLM management will permit?


36. A wise Chinese man once said that someday all of this'll make sense and that everything happens for a reason.  Sometimes I wonder if this person was actually so wise after all, as nothing ever seems to get any better and arguably, things are becoming worse?  Oh dear God, why hast thou forsaken so many of your subjects, animals and plants included?


37.  If half the lies they tell are true, does this mean that half the lies they tell are false?  So a false lie is a truth  -  and a false truth is a lie?   What about a half truth - is this a truth, or a lie?  Can there in fact ever be such a thing as a "half truth"?


38. What's better  - a lie that draws a smile...or a truth that draws a tear?  Is being completely honest less commendable sometimes than being a liar?  Remember though, actions lie louder than words.  John F. Kennedy once said the greatest enemy of truth was not the lie, but the myth - as pervasive, misleading and perennial as it was.

39.  Why do frightened people yell out in the dark if they hear a noise, “Is anyone there?”, and expect the thief, scoundrel or ax murderer to answer them? 


40.  A person is never more truthful than when he says he is NOT always truthful.  Because show me someone who tells me he only ever speaks the truth - and I'll show you a liar.


But enough.  Time to stop.

I've merely scratched the surface here in this CLM blog article.  There are so many questions.  So few satisfactory answers. 

I innately know the Truth is out there.  Gandhi said Truth in fact resides within every human heart.  If so, my life's journey now is to find this rare diamond, this most precious of pearls.  Though knowing where it resides  -  and being able to properly extract it  - are two entirely separate things. And once captured, it must then be wholesomely and comprehensively lived, lest one run the risk of a life at least partially squandered. 

Am I up to this challenge?  Probably not.  But then again, he who dares just may win, if only for an instant. For in such a galvanic moment where one finally captures what's been sought for so long, a mere second may feel akin to a lifetime that's been lived less fully, one that's been blind or ignorant to the full knowledge and understanding of what's invisibly surrounding, enmeshing and immersing us all.

A single point of sudden, enlightened understanding like this can magically flood a whole existance with extraordinary and unexpected meaning. Never underestimate or deprecate these fleeting moments of immense, almost bewildering lucidity, as at these times, you're in almost direct communication with the very Creator Himself.  The thought of this almost overwhelms me, paralyses me with profound feelings of wonderment, joy and most important of all, utter humility in the ascendant, empowering knowledge of what I am, and sadly, what I am not.

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#2014-02-24 21:31:55 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Thought provoking stuff mate -

1) To the world you are one person, but to one person you may be the world
2) Confucious says - 'Man with hand in pocket feels cocky all day'
3) What about - Fat chicks can't jump ! ?

The English language is such a wonderful language in that it allows us to 'play' with words in so many ways

Why is it that if you feel STRESSED, you may want to eat chocolate cake (or similar) ?
Is it because the word STRESSED spelled backwards will read 'DESSERTS' ?

You mentioned religion/God a couple of times, so here's a good one for you -

If we are brought up to believe that if we are 'good' we will go to heaven where God will reward us - but if we are "bad' then we will go to hell and the devil will punish us

My question is simple - If the 'devil' is so bad and evil and rotten etc, and we live our lives the same way, then when we die and go to 'hell', WHY will the devil PUNISH us when surely, we are one of his MATES !

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS (unless you are paralysed from the neck down)

I hope you don't think I am taking the proverbial 'piss' - because that is my furthest intention - but words are spoken (or not, as applicable) often in order to provoke thinking or reactions which (hopefully) makes us a better person

Many years ago I used to own and run a property investment company here in Perth. One of my 'fortes' was the construction of investment properties (houses that were built primarily to let/rent to tenants, with the owner having no intention of living there)

Even after years and years of teaching this stuff, I would still see people 'cutting corners' in order to save (literally) a few bucks

My NUMBER ONE RULE was this - "How can you expect a tenant to live in a house that you yourself are not prepared to live in ?"

Many heeded these words and resulted in good tenants paying top dollar to rent a quality house
Those that did not, (mostly) ended up with low-end tenants paying less in rent

Some people I know refused to take my advice and found themselves having to sell their own home and move into the investment property that they built 6 years ago

Now they are spending no less than $50,000 in 'renovations' in order to bring the property to the standard they want - but if they had done this while the house was being built, it would have cost them around $10,000 extra

Moral of the story = You never know what is round the corner!

If you cannot 'love' YOURSELF, then how can you expect anyone else to love you ?

Great post Baz !

#2014-02-26 11:43:47 by pourquoipasamour @pourquoipasamour

@Barry1 Hi Barry, #6 is my favourite. I consider the greatest virtue one can have is to know his/hers own limitations ...

#2014-02-27 13:41:48 by Barry1 @Barry1


Thanks for the comments, Paul & Daniel. Great stuff.

Of the 40 points that I raised, many resonate with me but were I forced to choose just one, on this dating website at least, I'd choose number 23:

"To all the dear Chinese ladies out there that I talk to either now or in the future, please be aware that I'd rather be disliked for who I am, rather than loved for who I am not. Please don't think I'm some sort of dreamboat. I'm a normal person with many faults and failings, I'm afraid."

I hope my friends here read this and hopefully understand what I'm trying to say.

Best wishes to all.

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