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Imi was born and raised in Europe, Hungary. After finishing his school years, he moved to Canada to search for a better life. He lived in Toronto for 13 years and currently resides in Vancouver. He is a romantic at heart with a strong desire to always do the right thing. He would like to give hope to the Chinese and Asian ladies with his story and send a message that love eventually finds everybody.
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Our Lives Through The Keyhole 键孔里的生活    

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5326 Views | 69 Comments | 9/23/2018 2:12:07 AM
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#2018-09-29 09:36:40 by Barry1 @Barry1



Wonderful to hear from you again, Vanessa!


I am so glad things have worked out for you. We used to have many good conversations with each other and to see you happy and fulfilled as you are now is extremely good news indeed.  Giving hope to us all that a successful relationship between a Westerner and a Chinese is eminently possible.


Your detailed, intelligent advice to Imi I'm sure will be considered very carefully by him. I feel there will be a happy conclusion to Imi's situation, as I have an innate belief that the cream will always rise to the top eventually. Justice will prevail.


My sincere best wishes and congratulations to you, Vanessa.  (y)(y)



#2018-09-29 09:42:19 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@yuan2599 - This was a great comment. We really appreciate your adding your experience here. And we're so sorry that you are having so much difficulty with the immigration process. But you didn't tell us which country your husband is from. Could you please tell us that?

#2018-09-29 11:02:03 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@melcyan - I appreciate a lot how much you are trying to help Imi and I agree with most of what you are saying. But I do think you are being a little hard on Imi's lawyer. Some immigration lawyers are incompetent, just as some science teachers are incompetent, others are excellent, just as it sounds like you are.

I don't think we're in a position to know if Imi's lawyer is doing a good job. If he/she is gathering the right information, is aware that Imi and Janessa need to demosntrate they are sincerely and deeply in love, and is helping them to provide the best available information to do that, plus is properly addressing all the potential issues to be met because this is an appeal, then he/she is probably doing a good job. Do we know that he/she isn't doing those things? 

I also don't agree that the core process is the same for Australia, Canada and the US. I think the philosophy behind the process is similar. They are all looking for evidence that the relationship is one that is sincerely based on love, affection and mutual respect, and is not commercial in anyway. But I believe the processes are much different, and especially between Australia on one side and Canada and the US on the other side.

It is pretty well established that the Canadian and US processes are considerably more difficult to wade through than the Australian processes. In the former it is almost like a secret what they are looking for, and is designed to try to trip you up. That is my impression at least.

So you'll know I am in communication with Imi regularly and have discussed much of this with him. I am confident that he is mentally in the place he described in in his most recent comment above, where he says:

"What happened in March is nobody's fault but mine. Right now, I have to look forward and tell my story and also overwhelm anybody I have to face in the hearing with evidence, passion, and a heartfelt statement of my love for Janessa."

Re the immigration lawyer who was working with us, he is a US lawyer and would not have been willing to comment specifically on a Canadian case. I can assure you that he would generally have offered the same advice that you and I have been offering. In any event, he has changed professional courses and is no longer working with us or specializing in immigration law. So I am very reluctant to impose on him.

In my opinion the biggest factor in these cases, from everything I've seen, is the attitude of the individual immigration gatekeeper. Some of them are reasonable, caring, common sense types who leave their own prejudices at home, while others are bent on pushing their own social/political beliefs regardless of the actual policies they are supposed to be following.

One would hope that those who make it to the appeal level of decision making are the former. For Imi's sake I desperately hope that is the case.

#2018-09-29 11:09:24 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@QinQL - how nice to see your presence here on the blogs once again. You have been missed by us all. There is something I'd like to chat with you about but I am not finding you on my QQ. If you have me on QQ could you please contact me. If not could you please email me at and provide me with QQ or WeChat contact info and I'll try to contact you one whichever you choose. 

Thanks, John

#2018-09-29 11:25:46 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@Vanessa99 - Wow! What a great comment! Loaded with information and very helpful. Back in the days when we all knew you as dancingshoes you wrote some great blogs for us. For those readers who would like to read them, you can find them here:

First, congratulations on your coming childbirth. We hope all goes well with that and you have a bouncing, beautiful and healthy baby. 

Second, we wish you quick success with your application for a visa to Canada. It is hard to imagine you being rejected in the circumstances, but please do consider what we have been telling Imi. It is all about proving that your relationship is a loving, sincere one based on love and respect. Do eeryhting possible to get that across and leave nothing to chance.

Finally, this is not to pressure you, but we'd love to hear more about your current life and your thoughts and feelings about your new relationship and the processes you've been going through. Please consider writing about these things back on your blogs. Among other things, what you write there may become further evidence to help you obtain your visa approval.

Whatever you choose, it was great to hear from you here and to enjoy your presence again on CLM and the Blogs. Thanks for returning.

Cheers, John

#2018-09-29 11:53:28 by Imi5922 @Imi5922



I remember you, Vanessa, "dancingshoes." You have written a few articles here on CLM/ALM about your travel in Germany. And we chatted on QQ a few times.


First of all, congratulation for having a baby! 


Second of all, thank you for telling me your story. I hope you will soon be here in Canada.


Unfortunately, my wife and I have already started an immigration route, and changing that route would help us on no account. It would be ineffective, to say the least, if we, for some last, desperate reason, were to follow through with it. If she can't come as my wife, she won't be able to come in any other way, either. She will have a history at Canadian Immigration. And I cannot ever sponsor anybody from another country, either. The only solution, just to stay together, could be for me to move to China, but without a college degree and knowledge of the language, I would go no far.  


If I may ask, what city is your husband from?



#2018-09-29 12:52:21 by Barry1 @Barry1



"My fiancé and I decided on August 8, 2012 that the visa application was rejected in 2014, and the possibility of re-passing the visa is extremely small"


You made some extremely perceptive comments, @yuan2599. Obviously you're a sensitive, intelligent person.


But what caught my eye in particular was your statement,


"the possibility of re-passing the visa is extremely small"


Why is this so, I wonder?  I assume you're now married to your fiance, given the considerable time you've been together (since 2012). So after all this time, how on Earth could any immigration department in the world believe that your relationship is anything but extremely sincere and genuine?


In any case, a very interesting comment, thank you, @yuan2599.   (y)(y)



#2018-09-29 13:55:42 by Vanessa99 @Vanessa99


Thank you.

I have already had the visa to come to Canada that is valid for the same long as the validity of my passport.  As I said in my previous comment, this temporary visitor visa doesn't allow me to be covered by the insurance benefit of childbirth in Canada.  So I chose to stay in China for the moment and I am still working here in my current company and waiting for my baby to be born.  I am positive for my further steps with my husband.  I think Imi will also have a positive outcome with his wife.

I have been very busy with my work in the last many months that I have traveled a lot for business internationally and locally. Things started to be slowing down for me since August as my German boss reduced my workload and approved me to take a long holiday since September.  So things are slow here for me now and I will organize to write something about my current life and how the relationship and processes we have been going through ok.


#2018-09-29 14:21:54 by Vanessa99 @Vanessa99


Thank you Barry. I hope you found your true love and you are happy.


My husband is from a small town between Montreal and Quebec City.  He is 48, at the same age with you I guess?  He is the best guy I have met, with very good temper, not rich but has a lot to offer to me and I have never been spoiled by a guy like that.

#2018-09-29 21:42:22 by Imi5922 @Imi5922



感谢您的支持评论。 你特别喜欢你的。

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