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Barry from Australia is a questioning soul who looks at social issues from an alternative point of view and instead of asking, “Why?”, he asks “Why not?” He’s convinced that many of his previous incarnations were spent in China. He feels drawn to the people there; attracted by their rich culture and way of life. If given one wish from God, he’d reply, “I want everyone on Earth to be the same colour, speak the same language, and treat each other as they themselves would like to be treated.”
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Our Inescapable Ultimate Destiny    

By Barry Pittman
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#2017-04-14 15:13:39 by melcyan @melcyan



It took me considerable time to write my last comment. I can see from your last comment that you have taken the time to read my previous comment with care, thought and respect. Thank you and best wishes to you too.

#2017-04-14 16:36:06 by melcyan @melcyan



Don’t worry, I can write left-handed without smudging. However, it used to be a lot trickier in the days of pen and ink. When I first started school many cruel attempts were made to force me to switch from using my left hand to my right hand. When those attempts failed they reverted to insisting that I use perfect mirror image right-hand writing technique. I have since often marvelled at and felt sorry for left-handers that twisted their hands into the most unsightly positions to write. I realise now that they were the lucky ones.


You are right that left-handers are inventive and resourceful in finding ways to do tasks that offer right-handers a natural advantage. I have a left-handed corkscrew. I don’t get to use it much these days now that corks in wine bottles are being replaced by screw tops. However, I used to have a lot of fun with getting dinner guests to open the wine for me. Right-handers never succeeded. Some of them actually forced the cork into the wine. Left-handers always succeeded. After a short time, they switched to using the cork-screw the opposite way, removed the cork and some even apologised for their “clumsy” start.


Don’t worry about my partner. She is a full-time carer for her 90-year-old mother. She has a right to be excused for sometimes lacking patience with me. I love her completely. Despite the way her words might sound at times, there is never any doubt that she loves me 100%. When a Chinese woman loves you 100%, she never wants you to suffer or endure any “unnecessary” hardship.


Final word for left-handers. You have two hemispheres in your brain - a left and a right side. The left side controls the right side of your body and right controls the left half.  It's a fact. Therefore, left-handers are the only people in their right minds. (We also have clear evidence here that two people can be in their right mind and still disagree.)


#2017-04-14 22:06:22 by Barry1 @Barry1



"right now there are not enough hours in the day, or enough days in the week, for me to complete what I should be completing."

I must admit that I'm concerned for your health, Paul.  I have been for some time.


You smoke cigarettes, you probably don't get enough rigorous physical exercise and you're overworked and overtired, by your own admission.


I hate to sound melodramatic, but some would say you're a ticking timb bomb.  The very sad events re the tragic and quite unexpected passing of our friend Gareth Humphris a couple of years ago still ring loudly in my head.  Under no circumstance do I want the same to happen to you.


Can I seriously suggest you reduce your workload and give up smoking.  I know you've advised previously that you've tried to kick the addictive habit but can't.  Why not try e-cigarettes, electronic cigarettes?  The cigarette companies themselves are now promoting these as a useful adjunct to normal tobacco smokers, proclaiming they are far less dangerous.  They seem to be a logical alternative to normal cigarettes, right?


I also suggest it's time to reduce your frenetic workload.  Money isn't everything, once you've met your monetary goal, which I know you have already well and truly exceeded.  Slow down a bit mate and smell the roses.   (f)(f) 





#2017-04-15 10:41:02 by Barry1 @Barry1



"Some people are mentally stronger and can sort their own thoughts, mistakes, results by themselves, because they do not seek counsel does not mean they are wrong"


You're dead set correct here, Anon15972. 


Counselling is a good idea for some people but not for others.  I myself would find it a bit embarrassing spilling my guts to a stranger, telling him or her how miserable I felt.  I'd prefer to venture through the valley of desolation and depression by myself  - battling my own demons in my own way  - rather than pour my emotions out in front of someone I'd never met before, who by the way, probably would charge big money for the service.


Psychiatrists and psychologists don't come cheaply, nor do I imagine would regular counsellors. Let them pay off their mansion mortgage or help buy themselves a new car using someone else's dime!


Let me say though that I do like Melcyan.  I believe his heart in in the right place.  I applaud his good advice, the only proviso being that what is good for him may not necessarily be appropriate for everyone.  I appreciate his time and his trouble however, just as I thank you for your time, your support and your well meaning advice also, my friend.   (clap)(clap)

#2017-04-15 10:57:40 by Barry1 @Barry1



"I see you are back to your philosophical musings about the important matters in life."


It is good to see you here also, Nekko. It's even better to see that your marriage is still holding strong.  You really are setting a great example to the rest of us poor bastards out here (Melcyan excepted, whose marriage also appears strong).


I had a dream about Lily last night.  It seems I'm still subconsciously thinking about her, nearly a year after our breakup.  Oh well.


The references you pointed out to us are excellent.  As Eldon Taylor said:

"we'll live healthier if we release the anger, guilt, shame and fear that is healed by forgiveness"


Amen to that!


As for Neale Donald Walsch, I've read his wonderful book, "Conversations With God".  Incredible stuff!  Once again, you've hit the nail on the head with this excellent advice.


As for being alone Nekko, we shall have to agree to disagree.  I feel alone much of the time.  I am physically alone for much of the time.  In fact, I now choose to be alone most of the time.


Ergo, I AM alone  -  I was born alone.  I shall die alone. 


Even though I believe in an immutable soul that passes through multiple incarnations, even this soul, this spirit,  is alone.


I thus vehemently stand by the words from the tail end of my blog and will righteously defend them to the death:

"I know also know more poignantly than ever before that we’re born alone. We die alone. It was only through a wretched succession of ephemeral, illusory and often heart-breaking relationships in between these two extreme life points that so many desperate souls attempted to delude themselves that aloneness was not in fact their inescapable, irrefutable ultimate destiny"


Thank you, Nekko.  You're a very good person indeed  -  may God in His wisdom forever bless both you and your family!  (clap)(clap)(clap)








#2017-04-15 11:48:43 by melcyan @melcyan



Unfortunately my plans have just been dramatically changed for the weekend. My partner cannot come over this morning.  Her sister is sick and unable to take over looking after her mum. Instead of my partner arriving at my place in one hours time, I will go to her place after doing her shopping for her, in about 5 hours time.


Time is precious and precarious for us. My partner would disapprove of me writing this comment. She disapproves of me learning Mandarin. Why? Our time is precious and precarious.  If you give my partner at least one brief moment of empathetic thought, you will understand. My partner is a small picture thinker, high on detail. I am a big picture thinker. Most of the time that combination works very well.


We are committed to each other for life. You are judging me and my partner with little detail to go on. My comments to Barry were made on the basis of enormous detail given by Barry. Barry’s detail may well have been incorrect or highly biassed, but that "detail" was the foundation for my words to him.


Counselling is about helping a person choose positive actions fully aware of the world around them and their aspirations and the relationships they want to build. In a nutshell, counselling is about helping a person avoid being their own worst enemy. We all reach stages in our life when we need such help. Some like me, due to unfortunate life circumstances, reach those stages more often than others.


Why do I write on CLM? I need to learn and I also need to share my learning. That is just who I am. I think there are two men on CLM who understand me well and several women who definitely understand me very well. Why do you write on CLM?


(ps I enjoyed reading about your Mandarin learning experience and the language learning success of your 80-year-old grandmother)

#2017-04-16 12:36:22 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Thank you for your well-meaning advice, Barry.

Perhaps this juncture would be a good time to remind you of a conversation I once had whilst being interviewed for a job:


The interviewer asked - "What would you consider to be your greatest weakness?'

Without hesitation, I said, 'I'm too honest'

'Really?', came the reply. 'I don't think honesty is a 'weakness' at all'

To which I replied, 'I don't give a f*ck what you think!"

#2017-04-17 19:18:06 by Barry1 @Barry1



The interviewer asked - "What would you consider to be your greatest strength?'

Paul Fox replied, "The ability to not reject an idea out of hand".

Given the above Paul, may I refer you to the following website, where ten advantages of electronic cigarettes are listed:



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