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Our Inescapable Ultimate Destiny    

By Barry Pittman
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#2017-04-01 07:23:19 by melcyan @melcyan

@anonymous15915

 

Some men learn a lot about themselves after experiencing a painful relationship breakup. Some men learn very little and only become stronger at playing the blame game. Based on your comments about women in general and Chinese women in particular, I think it is fairly obvious which group you belong to.

 

What is your knowledge of what it takes to create a great relationship? A great relationship requires a great amount of effort and work. You think a man who puts a great deal of effort and work into a relationship is whipped. You could not be more wrong.

 

The secret is that in a great relationship all your hard work and effort does not feel onerous at all. In fact, you feel a sense of debt to your partner. You are constantly trying to repay that debt. Your partner feels the same sense of debt towards you. The rewards of a great relationship greatly outweigh the effort. In a great relationship, you will never have one person saying that they do more than the other. You will have two people believing that they do not do enough for their partner and they are both constantly trying to do more.

 

Good luck trying to find your perfect woman who compensates for your inadequacies and allows you to live your life without you having to change anything. The only constant in a well-lived life is change. If you are not prepared to change then you are one of the “living dead”.

#2017-04-01 17:53:31 by Barry1 @Barry1


@paulfox1

 

"Get yourself out there, find yourself a woman who does a wonderful impression of a 'sheela na gig', and start enjoying yourself."

It sounds like good advice you've given me Paul, but I don't know what you mean by sheela na gig?

#2017-04-01 18:04:19 by Barry1 @Barry1


@melcyan

 

"Good luck trying to find your perfect woman who compensates for your inadequacies and allows you to live your life without you having to change anything. The only constant in a well-lived life is change. If you are not prepared to change then you are one of the “living dead”."

 

Hello Melcyan.

 

In all honesty, I think you're being a bit tough on our friend, @anonymous15915.

 

He's a good hearted man who operates from a different perpective, a different life vantage point, compared to you.

 

I feel calling him a zombie ("living dead") is a bit strong, don't you think?

 

Remember the good ol' saying,

"Judge not lest ye be judged".

 

There's another saying also

 

"Walk a mile in my shoes and maybe you'll change your mind"

 

What do you reckon, Melcyan?  Neither of us know the background of @anonymous15915.  Nor do we know what life experiences he's had to endure.  Maybe he's been through things that would surprise or shock you.  Maybe he's had to deal with ladies far more conniving and deceptive than you've ever thought possible.

 

I say @anonymous15915 is a breath of fresh air on this forum.  I say freedom of expression should be encouraged here.  I say lighten up, live and let live, Melcyan, what do you think? :^)

 

 

#2017-04-01 22:41:32 by anonymous15925 @anonymous15925

@melcyan "Good luck trying to find your perfect woman who compensates for your inadequacies and allows you to live your life without you having to change anything. The only constant in a well-lived life is change. If you are not prepared to change then you are one of the “living dead”." 

When a read this I could not stop chuckling...at least you show you still have a pair of balls left..not big balls mind you but balls....

cuse me now I have to go find some "brains" to eat, being the living dead is hard work....lol

#2017-04-03 13:01:15 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


@Barry1

 

Barry. You said.....

 

"Get yourself out there, find yourself a woman who does a wonderful impression of a 'sheela na gig', and start enjoying yourself."

It sounds like good advice you've given me Paul, but I don't know what you mean by sheela na gig?

 

Is your search engine broken?.................. 'Sheela Na Gig'.....Google it !

#2017-04-03 14:24:32 by melcyan @melcyan

@Barry1

 

At least anonymous15925 and I are laughing. My use of “living dead” was a moment of me dropping my guard. That is a term that I have previously only used in conversations with my children.

 

After reading your comment  “I do think some of the guys on this forum can be best described as being pussy-whipped. It's true. It's damn true.” my comments could have just as easily been directed at you. My comments were in fact directed to all men with a limited view of what it takes to be a real man.

 

Let me try to explain my term “living dead”. It is an in-house term that I used while raising my four children. I used it to describe people that I did not want my children to become. I see them all around me from all walks of life. They live for the weekend or the pub or the next big game. They find fault in everyone except themselves. They are very poor at building great relationships because they are always trying to escape the “difficulty” of truly living.

 

Sometimes a tragedy can metamorphize into a blessing. When my wife died 23 years ago, I knew it was my responsibility to raise my four children. I knew that I could not pass that enormous responsibility on to someone else. It is scary to face the task of raising 3 boys to be 3 good men and a girl to be a good woman. I learnt on the job how to become a good father (and mother) and how to become a real man.

 

Society makes it damn hard for men to reach their full potential. However, is not feminism or political correctness that is the underlying problem. It is the mythology of the advertising, sport, movie and entertainment world that is most at fault. They spawn male “heroes” that are pathetically inadequate at developing strong relationships with themselves and others. The false image of manhood that they provide keeps many men in an emotional straight jacket until their last breath.

#2017-04-03 22:19:21 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


@Barry1

"Walk a mile in my shoes and maybe you'll change your mind"

I love that saying......because afterwards, you'll be a mile away and he'll have no shoes, lol

#2017-04-04 10:25:19 by melcyan @melcyan

I just heard one of my favourite songs on the radio. Pink Floyd's "Time".

This matches my concept of the "living dead". I understand now that most people hearing the words "living dead"  would think of zombies. I can see the funny side to my use of these words. My children always knew that I was referring to people who were a long way away from living life fully.

Here are the lyrics-

 Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day

Fritter and waste the hours in an off-hand way

Kicking around on a piece of ground in your home town

Waiting for someone or something to show you the way



Tired of lying in the sunshine staying home to watch the rain

You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today

And then one day you find ten years have got behind you

No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun



And you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking

Racing around to come up behind you again

The sun is the same in a relative way, but you're older

Shorter of breath and one day closer to death



Every year is getting shorter, never seem to find the time

Plans that either come to naught or half a page of scribbled lines

Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way

The time is gone, the song is over, thought I'd something more to say



Home, home again

I like to be here when I can

When I come home cold and tired

It's good to warm my bones beside the fire

Far away, across the field

The tolling of the iron bell

Calls the faithful to their knees

To hear the softly spoken magic spell

 



"Time"

 



Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day

Fritter and waste the hours in an off-hand way

Kicking around on a piece of ground in your home town

Waiting for someone or something to show you the way



Tired of lying in the sunshine staying home to watch the rain

You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today

And then one day you find ten years have got behind you

No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun



And you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking

Racing around to come up behind you again

The sun is the same in a relative way, but you're older

Shorter of breath and one day closer to death



Every year is getting shorter, never seem to find the time

Plans that either come to naught or half a page of scribbled lines

Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way

The time is gone, the song is over, thought I'd something more to say



Home, home again

I like to be here when I can

When I come home cold and tired

It's good to warm my bones beside the fire

Far away, across the field

The tolling of the iron bell

Calls the faithful to their knees

To hear the softly spoken magic spell

 


#2017-04-05 01:26:12 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

I apologise for the delay in comments being posted. We suffered a glitch on the blogs about 72 hours ago and it has just been corrected. All comments have been approved now. My responses to many of them will have to wait until tomorrow.


#2017-04-08 09:15:50 by Barry1 @Barry1


@paulfox1

 

"Is your search engine broken?.................. 'Sheela Na Gig'.....Google it !"

 

You have missed the point of my question, Paul.

 

I was hoping you would explain what you meant for by this foreign expression not just for me, but for EVERY person who reads the comment.   By curiously declining to explain your meaning however, you are thus condemning everyone who reads it to do a google search.  Of course, most people wouldn't bother to do this, thus effectively your comment will largely be lost on most readers.

 

Whether this matters to you of course, is a whole different story.  :^)
 

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