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Neil Yaun prides himself on knowing a little about everything, despite no formal college education. He is self-educated, with a love of Chinese culture focused on their history and traditions. Growing disillusioned with the direction America is taking and his negative experiences with American women he is seeking a new path in China. He plans to teach English in China. This blog is about the journey to China and all the pitfalls along the way.
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Ocean of Obstacles    

By Neil Yaun
2566 Views | 3 Comments | 5/14/2010 1:10:38 PM

The original Khan didn't have to cross the Pacific Ocean to break into China, he just had to get over this little thing. Photo courtesy of

8000 miles, that is all that separates me from my goal of reaching mainland China. It kinda makes me envious of the Mongolian hordes; all they had to do to get to China is go over the Great Wall. I have to cut through the red tape of two countries like a ninja secretary, and all the while balancing my life on the tightrope that I call a budget.

It would be much easier if I had unlimited resources, but where’s the adventure in that? At least when I stand victorious I will know that I accomplished this myself and managed to find my beautiful Chinese wife on my own merit and not just with money. I will say though that I have to thank CLM because if it were not for this site being so informative and encouraging, I would have probably just given up on my dream again.

It is very impressive for an international dating website to have given me the kind of service I have received here at CLM. I know this may seem like a shameless promotion but this comes from the bottom of my heart. I have never experienced a site that cares so much about all of its members. On most sites you are on your own. You just look at pictures of people who aren’t really people and pay to pretend to e-mail these “people”. Here though, I have gotten real feedback and even advice.

Ok, now that I have got that out of my system. I’ll talk about some of the Obstacles I’ll be facing in this crazy plot of mine. First and foremost is myself, I am my worst enemy and if anyone can sabotage my plans it will be myself. Secondly, there are my friends who want the best for me, but at the same time don’t want me to leave them behind. Then there is the more complicated navigation of the bureaucracies of both the U.S. and China. The U.S. passport system seems more of just a patience test, but the Chinese Visa, will be tricky. I will hold off on going into too much detail on that right now because I have not even gotten to that part of the journey.

Another test for me and most would think this is absolutely absurd, but I am terrified of flying. I don’t mean I’m afraid of flying or nervous of flying. I mean terrified beyond all reason of flying. I have been on one flight my entire life and it was a puddle jump from Ft. Lauderdale, Florida to Atlanta, Georgia. This would be a nightmare marathon of endurance especially from California to wherever my final landing would be. I am hoping to calm my fears by the time I leave for China but I may have to resort to a tranquilizer gun and hope they don’t tag and release me midflight.

I also have to pass my TEFL certification exam. This is the most important aspect of the paperwork that I will need for this trip, because without that piece of paper. I won’t be teaching anything to anyone. So far these are my main obstacles that I face on my quest, but I’m sure that more will pop up along the way. I just hope I can take them in stride and if they do trip me up, that I can get back up and dust myself off. It is a little early in this story to tell you whether it will be a smooth ride, but I can tell you it’s already been a chaotic one.

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#2010-05-07 16:15:48 by dearjasmine @dearjasmine

Hmm, a little love stroke symptom, nervous, butterflies in the stomach, ...It is quite natural when you are leaving your comfort zone, leaving all the things behind. I just read in a blog: when you were 15, you felt it was so difficult to learn to swim, then you gave it up. And when you were 18, one ppl you had feeling for invited you to swim, you had to turned him/her down. When you were 18, you thought English was not one of your favorates, and you left it behind, then you got a wonderful job but required that you speak English. You had to say, oh, my English is poor. If in the earlier stage of life you do not bother to take the trouble and in the later years, you gonna miss many things.
Look yourself into the mirror and tell youself you can make it, and YOU CAN MAKE IT!

#2010-05-07 23:51:14 by jingada @jingada

Don't be nervous~everything will be OK ~O(∩_∩)O~

#2010-05-22 21:38:54 by happyatlast @happyatlast

the flying is nothing to worry about. just take a few valium Lol.
no, seriously, go for it because we are not getting any younger, and how would you feel one day,thinking, I wish I had done that.
my story was much like yours, I had already met my future Chinese wife via the internet, and decided that I would come over here. FLY OVER, I know your terrified, but It's great man.
I have been living here about seven months now, the culture takes some getting used to.
I must agree with the comments from the ladies above, don't be afraid to live your dream.
it was a very big step for me too, one day I just woke up thinking, to hell with it, I'm going to China to meet this lovely woman who had written me over 800 emails during our long friendship.
I have no regrets.

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