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“Naked wedding "("Luohun"),do you accept it ?裸婚,你愿意吗?    

By Chengs
11238 Views | 34 Comments | 7/4/2012 2:18:54 PM

“Naked wedding "("Luohun")is a new Chinese internet expression ,which means getting married with zero cost : no wedding house ,no marriage ceremony, no wedding dress,no wedding ring , no honey moon .......
To Chinese , marriage is an event in life , an elaborate wedding ceremony epitomizes social position of his family. But in recent years ," naked wedding" is getting popular gradually among the young peoples after 80s . As one internet research,80% man support "naked wedding " because that reduce their pressures that make it possible and easier to get married at marriageable age. 70% women don't support "naked wedding ".The causes are manifold : Woman think "naked wedding " is with bigger risk without any security .No car ,no ring ,no wedding maybe is OK .But no house ,means you don't have home .Moreover, you will have a child after get married . In China ,under household registration system and exist college entrance examination system system (Gaokao) , no house means your child cannot accept normal education .And once the man doesn't love the woman anymore ,zero cost marriage make more easy to get divorce .Obviously,divorced woman is unwelcome on the market in China. On the other hand , as though they decare against "naked wedding ",many girls carry out their "naked marriage " helplessly when they met the beloved man . Perhaps the vast majority of man is not so wealthy .And the woman inborn is emotional who always believe in her man .
As personnel I am not in favor of "naked wedding " .As though ,modem marriage is based on the existence of love in which both sides fall, marriage should be based on a certain degree of stable financial as well . Pro bally,"Naked wedding" is helpless actually the performance that cite. Under the pressure of high housing price and high wedding cost , young people who don't have rich parents ,choose "naked wedding " helplessly.

"Naked wedding" ,do you accept it ?
裸婚”指的是不买房、不买车、不办婚礼、不买婚戒,直接登记结婚的一种节俭的结婚方式。自古以来,婚姻一直都被人们看做是人生的头等大事,而婚礼的隆重与否直接体现了整个家族的地位。然而,近年来“裸婚”风渐渐盛行,成为“80后”最新潮的结婚方式。
一项网上调查显示,80%男性赞成裸婚,因为裸婚减轻了压力并使他们在适婚年龄结婚成为可能。70% 女性认为裸婚不靠谱,原因是多方面的:女人认为裸婚风险太大。没车,没婚礼,婚戒都可以,没房就意味着没有一个家。而且,在现行的户籍制度和高考制度下,没房就没户口,你的孩子也没法接受好的教育。而且,一个零费用婚姻,一旦男人变心,无疑的离婚变得容易。而一个离婚的女人在传统观念里是不受欢迎的。
话说回来,尽管女性声称不接受裸婚,一旦遇上所爱的那个人,很多女孩们都无奈地实行了裸婚。也许,世上太多没钱男人,而且女人天生感性,都愿意相信自己爱的那个人。
我个人不是很赞成裸婚,虽说现代婚姻是建立在爱情的基础上;一定程度的经济基础也是需要的。也许,裸婚是一种无奈之举。低收入又没有有钱的父母的年轻人无力承受高房价,高结婚成本,只好无奈地选择了裸婚。
裸婚,你愿意吗?

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#2012-07-04 21:48:50 by EddieG @EddieG

Based on the title and before I read this I thought it was about a new fad of people getting married in their birthday suits. (stark naked with no clothes)..LOL.. I was wondering if the preacher, guests and every one else involved was "naked" too.

Yes, I know, get my mind out of the gutter...right?..LOL..

#2012-07-05 16:45:50 by anonymous3850 @anonymous3850

Wow, chinese marriage is so materialistic. I'm from scandinavia, and up here we believe in humility. It would be outrageous if a woman here were to demand a house and a car for their marriage. I can understand that with the hukou system a house is vital, but this system doesn't exist in the west. Chinese women should keep this in mind when seeking a western guy: If a guy indicates he wants a naked marriage (or a civil marriage as it is called in the west) it doesn't mean he doesn't value you or wants a easy divorce in the future, he just doesn't want a materialistic wedding. Also, don't ask him for a house and a car, he will conclude you are only interested in money and he will most likely leave you (which is in fact what I was forced to do to a beijinger back in april).

Furthermore, women should not value a man based on his material possessions.... and if they do, they have absolutely no right to complain about him being unfaithful. Wealthy men are used to being able to buy the things they want, they won't treasure you.

#2012-07-05 18:43:33 by xin73 @xin73

如果我现在是20岁,裸婚我是完全可以接受,想过好日子只有努力工作,当然只靠努力工作很难达到理想的生活水平,但是年轻就是资本和机会,想当年20岁我的运气挺不错的,在旅游局上班,在24岁自己承包一个旅游部门,一切非常顺利。在26岁自己拥有独立楼房。。。。。。离婚后再婚的情况下,裸婚是不实际的。所以我认为裸婚是要看实际情况而定。没有完全不可能的。

#2012-07-05 23:04:28 by destiny1 @destiny1

年青可以一切从零开始。后生无畏。

#2012-07-06 10:33:21 by aussieghump @aussieghump

Interestingly my friends have run into the Hukou issue. One child was born overseas and the other born in China. One child is considered 'foreigner' and cannot go to a local school (although they only speak Chinese and have lived in China for 99.9% of their lives) while the other is 'local' and can go to school. The result is the family has moved out of China so their children can go to school together at a reasonable cost (not high 'private school' fees').

I had always been told the 'must buy a house issue' was based on money/security, but if home ownership is the only thing that gives a child an identity in China then it is pretty important! Especially now the people are more mobile and moving cities for jobs and opportunities.

#2012-07-06 19:56:36 by candyyuxia @candyyuxia

i am not in favor of naked wedding,for it will cause many problem in their later life. even though in this way this wedding couple can save many money if they choose naked wedding, but i think that observing wedding is worthy for the couple to do this in front of so many friends and relationship and this moment will become their lasting remembrance .
the ring for the girl is not just a gift or not just object, it stands for a memory of her love.

#2012-07-08 02:10:24 by Lucky99 @Lucky99

我愿意。裸婚可能意味着没有豪华的婚礼、没有名贵的首饰、没有婚房豪车等等,但我想如果俩个人相爱,这些都可以根据共同的经济水平一切从简。有什么样的经济能力就对应相应的支出水平。那些物质性的东西,生活的必需品是不可少,但只要俩人努力,是不会缺乏的。至于奢侈品,看透了也就成为了可有可无的,人不必那样去攀比。再说,现在房价高,压力大一些,就租房子住也未尝不可以;租房也有租房的好处,小孩子教育需要搬迁也容易了;如果和心爱的人在一起,暂时不能负担房子,并不表示以后两人共同努力了也不能负担。俩个人在一起,最重要的是彼此相爱、互相照顾、扶持着走人生路。对于小孩子的教育,父母是小孩子最好的老师。品德好、友爱和睦的家庭氛围,相比于学校里的教育,对小孩的性格和发展影响更大一些。

#2012-07-08 17:53:08 by smile01 @smile01

Hi ,EddieG,Yes ,I guess if a foreigner before read ,maybe think "naked"as "stark naked with no clothes " ,but here"naked" that emphasizs chinese humor .

#2012-07-08 18:09:35 by smile01 @smile01

Anonymous Member , If all chinese marriage is materialistic, "naked marriage" won't get popular now .The pursuit of materialistic goals usually hinders the pursuit of happiness.

However we live in real life .there is only love exsist in marriage that the marriage is not stable enough to stand any severe test.

#2012-07-08 18:26:50 by smile01 @smile01

xin73 , 我同意裸婚是要看实际情况而定。裸婚毕竟是一种婚姻形式而不是实质。如果两个人足够相爱,对未来有足够的信心,对家庭有足够的责任感,裸婚也未尝不可。只是,在双方,或至少一方有起码的经济能力时结婚更好些(我并不是指非常富有)。

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