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Imi was born and raised in Europe, Hungary. After finishing his school years, he moved to Canada to search for a better life. He lived in Toronto for 13 years and currently resides in Vancouver. He is a romantic at heart with a strong desire to always do the right thing. He would like to give hope to the Chinese and Asian ladies with his story and send a message that love eventually finds everybody.
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My Love for Lily 我对百合的爱, Part 2 - Beginnings 开始    

By Imi
4661 Views | 8 Comments | 1/1/2014 8:04:34 AM

Language exchange can make or break your new Chinese love.

Her answer came two days later and I was happy reading it because it said she was willing to get to know me better, and if everything went well between us she would be even open talking about moving to another country.  I asked for her personal email address in my reply and went to work with a happy smile on my face, suddenly very excited about my new experience with online Chinese dating.

For the next couple of months we had been exchanging emails every other day, sending photos, telling our life stories. I had learned that her English name was Lily. She got married when she was 20 and had her son, Jeff, when she was 21. When she turned 24, her husband cheated on her but they had stayed together for another 2 years for their son's sake, without any intimacy between them. When she was 26, her husband left her and his son for the woman he cheated on them with. She has devoted her life to raise her son in the last 9 years. Now, her son turned 14 and he would understand it better if she met with another man. I admired her devotion to her son.

I wanted to know her better and asked her if she would be alright talking to me face to face on Skype. She said yes, but recommended chatting with me on QQ because her English was very limited. I installed QQ into my computer and we started another step in our relationship.

We agreed to see each other on QQ with camera on, on a Saturday for the first time, when her son was still in private school in the morning. She looked different on camera than in the photos, but in a good way. She didn't wear any make-up and I liked it very much. I was able to see her real face and it excited me a lot as I was even more attracted to this beautiful Chinese woman.

“You look very beautiful and natural” I said.

“Thank you!” She answered with a very cute accent.

I tried to talk to her in slow English but she stopped me.  “ I am sorry English no good” she said.

“It's okay. Why don't you try to type first what you want to say and I will help you with the pronunciation” I wrote to her on QQ and translated it to her in Chinese.

We chatted for a while like this and I loved her accent. She was trying really hard and she did a nice job saying the words in English after me. She was giggling when she made a mistake and kept saying she was stupid. Just to make her more comfortable, I asked her to teach me some Chinese words.

“What words would you like to learn?” she asked.

“How about hello?”


“How about good bye?”




I repeated all the words after her and we were laughing when I was very awkward with the pronunciation. We had a really nice time together. After we said good bye to each other, I couldn't stop thinking about her, how cute she was on camera and how her Chinese accent sounded to my ears like music. I had felt very happy for the first time after my miserable last 4 years.

The next day I went out and bought a Chinese dictionary and looked up some sites in the internet about how to learn Chinese “fast.” I wanted to talk to my lovely Chinese lady using some words in her mother tongue and “impress” her with my lame Chinese. I was happy, very happy!

I took a deep breath from the crisp morning air, held it for one second in my lungs and exhaled. My lungs were dancing in my chest happily by receiving this load of fresh air. I came to this place for a run, around this lake that lies between mountainous lush forest. The tree line is coming all the way down to the water front and I had to follow this trail among the trees with the dark green lake lying on the left side of me and the mountain was towering me from the right.

The trail was stretching over 10km around the lake. Usually, there were a lot of people here, but on that day I came early to avoid the traffic. I was listening to my footsteps as I was running up and down on the hills and started thinking,

“Life is just like this trail here, sometimes going up, sometimes going down. Running down the hill is easy just like losing something or someone is easy. Running up the hill requires extra effort, just like building our lives, step by step, day by day, every day, working for the future.

Sometimes, unfortunately, life can be cruel to us and it keeps pushing us down. We might never reach the top of the hill, but we have to keep fighting back, no matter what, because this is who we are. We can never give up on having a better life or on our dreams. It doesn't matter how rich or poor we are, what matters is how we help each other climbing this hill that we call, LIFE.

People come and go in our lives and everyone of them teaches us something, to become a better, stronger person ourselves, even if they did something bad to us”.

I reached the point where I started my run, checked my time....not good, I am getting old. I used to do this 10 minutes faster. I was happy anyway, at age 42, I was still in good shape and my life was going uphill and hopefully would continue to do that for a long time.

I was planning to chat with Lily in the late afternoon, which was early morning to her the next day. We had 15 hours difference in summer time and 16 in the winter.

She planted something beautiful into my heart and it started to grow fast. I liked her simplicity and her strong will to do the right thing for her son, Jeff. She kept saying that she wasn't a good mother because she couldn't give everything to her son what she wanted, but in my eyes, she was always an incredible mother and a beautiful person, no matter what she said about herself. My belief that my future lies with a great woman of China was getting stronger.








我用很慢的语速跟她说话,但她还是打断我,“很抱歉 … 我的英语不好”






“Good bye!”




我跟着她一字一字地学,有时候大概我的发音很搞笑,Lily被逗得直乐,我也跟着哈哈笑。这次聊天后,我的脑子里总在不停地想着Lily, 回想着她可爱的中国式发音,在我听来简直如音乐般悦耳。过去的四年,我过的压抑痛苦,这是长久以来我最开心的一刻。









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#2014-01-01 11:12:54 by panda2009 @panda2009

How wonderful Beginning is in 2014!
Thanks for your sharing such beautiful story to us!
Best wishes t you and Lily!
And thanks for Zoe's perfect annotation!

#2014-01-01 14:22:44 by Marrisa @Marrisa

Today is a good day, sunny and warm. And it is very nice to read this story. Warm and lovely. Like another version of "Love actually". So romantic.
I like the words "Sometimes, unfortunately, life can be cruel to us and it keeps pushing us down. We might never reach the top of the hill, but we have to keep fighting back, no matter what, because this is who we are. We can never give up on having a better life or on our dreams. It doesn't matter how rich or poor we are, what matters is how we help each other climbing this hill that we call, LIFE"
Thanks Imi for bring us this. I believe the future for you and lily will be definitely amazing happy. Looking forward to more good news.

#2014-01-01 15:40:43 by Aloes @Aloes


#2014-01-01 23:38:55 by Jennifercc42 @Jennifercc42


#2014-01-02 03:02:10 by JianadaYangGuizi @JianadaYangGuizi

For some reason this is very hard for me to read ...

#2014-01-02 19:33:17 by Imi5922 @Imi5922

Thank you for your comment!

I'm glad you liked that part! I hope you you are not sick anymore!
Thank you for your comment!

Thank you for the comment and I wish to find your happiness soon!

I'm glad you like my blog! I like your forum treads as well and I have to say that after reading some of them you are a very intelligent woman! If I understood it well you found your happiness and I am happy for you!

#2014-01-03 00:11:39 by QinQL @QinQL

How beautiful it is ! Thank you lmi sharing us the most wonderful stories . From it, I am recalling our dear sister Zoe’s exciting blogs as well. I always enjoy listening to someone's stories and experiences no matter the result is happy or sad. As you said “People come and go in our lives and everyone of them teaches us something, to become a better, stronger person ourselves, even if they did something bad to us”. from reading your story we can also learn much. You are a thinking man like most of western men here.

Thank you opening a window for our chinese women here to see a western man’s thoughts and feelings of love. It is so vivid.

I look forward to reading your next chapters of your story. (coffee)

#2014-01-03 23:22:37 by Jennifercc42 @Jennifercc42

Yes, your understanding very correct and thank you for your blessing!
also Wish you happiness!
I found the person who belongs to me. he is really a good man.
So I can understand your articles and moved.In fact, life really have a lot of let we touched of things, we are looking forward to a good result, though sometimes the result is not what we are looking forward to, we still need to cherish and move things happened in our life.Sometimes there are some things we are even willing to experience again.:)

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