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Imi was born and raised in Europe, Hungary. After finishing his school years, he moved to Canada to search for a better life. He lived in Toronto for 13 years and currently resides in Vancouver. He is a romantic at heart with a strong desire to always do the right thing. He would like to give hope to the Chinese and Asian ladies with his story and send a message that love eventually finds everybody.
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My Love for Lily 我对百合的爱, Part 5- She is Worth Kissing, but She is Not Easily Kissed    

By Imi
8735 Views | 35 Comments | 3/3/2014 4:18:30 PM

Many Chinese women are very slow to surrender that first kiss.

The next morning after my shower Sally called me and said, she was going to pick me up with Lily and after we go for breakfast together. And there it was again, eating so much good food for breakfast, but I liked it. I told them after breakfast though, if I was going to eat like this every morning I would be a fat man soon and Lily wouldn't like me anymore. They both smiled.



“I would like to go today and buy some healthy food for myself. I will still be eating Chinese food, let's say half of the day, and I will eat healthy food the rest of the day.” I suggested to them.



“Chinese foods are healthy” said Sally.



“Yes, I know and I love Chinese dishes, but I know myself, if I like a kind of food, I can hardly stop myself from keep eating them. I am getting old and I need to eat healthy, no one wants to be with a sick old man.”I replied.



“You are not old.”



“Not yet, but I will be in 10-15 years.”



Sally translated everything to Lily and she said,



“You don't like Chinese food!!”



“Lily, of course I like it and I promise, I will eat your food and we'll still be eating out in restaurants, but I need to control myself around food because I want to live a long healthy life. Would you believe me if I told you that I eat seven times a day when I am in Canada and I don't get fat?”I asked them.



“No!” they said. “Seven times?”



“Yes, sometimes eight times.” I said.



“Anyway it's a long talk and I don't want you to get bored by it. I assure you during these two weeks for dinner I will always eat Chinese food with you, not because I have to, I will eat it because I want to. Believe me!”



I didn't think they understood what I wanted to explain to them by healthy eating and living, I saw it on their faces. Anyway, they were going to see it if they didn't understand.



After that day, Lily always picked me up at my hotel in the morning at 8. We didn't go to eat breakfast in restaurants, we went to her home, I prepared my healthy food for myself and she prepared her breakfast for herself. We ate together, after that we cooked together or went to the city with Jeff and visited places. She showed me around in her city.



After a week she spoke a better English with me. If she didn't understand something, we used translator in her laptop or I showed the word to her in my Chinese dictionary. We were getting to know each other  better, day by day. She said I was a good man. She never saw a man who cooked, cleaned and helped around the home like I did.



For me, it was normal. The chemistry between us was growing, but I knew after I talked to Sally that Lily was a Buddhist and nothing was going to happen between us sexually until we got married. She also told me that in public Chinese people, especially Chinese women, don't show their feelings, no hugging and kissing. It was alright with me. In the past, if a girl was too easy I never respected her in a good way. For me as well, I needed time to get to know a girl first, I needed some kind of connection with her mentally and spiritually. It had taken a week or two, but never longer than that. The problem was, I felt a very strong connection between me and Lily, but I had to respect her beliefs. It was very hard for me though, not to touch her hair or hug her, whenever I wanted to. I am a very touchy feeling guy and I like to express my feelings towards my lady, not just in words but in simple, innocent touches. About the hugging and kissing in public, I don't kiss in public either, but I like to hold the hand of my love and being proud of her, when we walk together.



She let me do things like hugging her, not in public, but in her apartment. Every morning, when we arrived to her home, we hugged, I kissed her forehead or her hair, she put her face against my chest and said she felt good and safe there.



After a while she wasn't afraid of holding my hands in front of Jeff either, when we were watching movies together. He didn't care, anyway.



One day I tried to kiss her when I hugged her in the morning, but she pulled away. The next morning she hugged me and put her face against my chest. I kissed her hair, but I didn't even bother to kiss her again on the lips because I knew what the result would be from the previous morning. For my surprise, she looked up at me with her eyes wide open and waited, didn't say anything. I kissed her on the lips , just like you kiss someone on the cheeks. From that day on, she let me do that. I also really loved being with her in the kitchen, helping her preparing the foods, touching her hands, her hair, standing behind her and hug her while I was smelling her black, long hair. Sometimes she looked up at me and we held our gazes.



She was pulling me into her heart if not into her bed, I felt it. I respected her, but the truth was I wanted to be with her very badly. This Chinese woman was stealing my heart.



One day, Lily had to go to her brother's city. The brother who had the car accident. Jeff and I stayed in Shenzhen and spent the day together playing basketball, eating hot pot for lunch and go to see a movie in the afternoon. When we got home, she had been at home for awhile, she looked tired. She must have had a tough day.



“Why don't you take a rest? You look very tired.”



“I need to prepare some food for you and Jeff, I don't have time to rest.”she said.



“I'll tell you what. I will cook something for us and you go and take some rest.”



She looked happy by hearing this and that's what I wanted to see. Giving these small gestures in life, make a relationship stronger. Giving and receiving is a two way street.



“Come with me Jeff, let's cook something for dinner!”



Jeff made the rice while I was busy preparing a Hungarian dish that I really liked because it was easy to prepare and was very delicious. When we were done, I went to the living room where Lily was asleep on the couch.



I watched her face, she was going to turn 36 in a few months but she looked much younger. She looked beautiful. She had never put any make-up on since I told her I didn't really like it. She said, she just put the make-up on because of the photos, in weekdays she never wore any.



No one is perfect, neither was she, I could see on her face she had a tough life, but I believe that if we really love someone, we don't see that person through our eyes, but we see them from our hearts. Hearts don't lie, eyes do. In return, because I asked her not to put make-up on, she asked me to shave off my short beard that I've always had, usually 2-3 days old. I started to shave everyday for her. She appreciated it very much.



I gently touched her face with my fingers to wake her up. She opened her eyes and looked at me with those dark, almost black eyes.



“Dinner's ready, would you like to eat?” I asked her



“Okay...I am sorry...sleep...long.”she said



“No worries, you were tired. Let's go to eat because Jeff is already eating.”



I held her hand in mine and led her to the table. We ate dinner together, although Jeff was almost finished with his plate, when we sat down. He was a fast eater just like me. Sitting at the table like this, I couldn't stop noticing that we looked like a family. They liked my cooking and later when Mandy and Sally stopped by, so did they.



The days were flying by and I was getting restless, I didn't want to return to Canada, but I had to.



Only three days left in my holiday.



5 - 博得香吻一枚 也非易事



第二天早上,我刚冲完澡,Sally的电话打了进来,说一会她和Lily一起来接我吃早餐。和先天一样,又是好多好多吃的。不过早饭后我还是笑着告诉她俩,如果再这么吃下去,我就成个大胖子了,那时Lily就不喜欢我了。她俩都笑起来。



“我想买些健康的食物,然后一天里有一半时间吃中餐,一半吃我的食物。



“中餐是很健康的食物啊。”Sally说。



“我知道很健康,而且我也很喜欢中餐,但我了解自己,碰到喜欢吃的东西,就没命地吃个够,我得控制自己的饮食,否则我就是个又老又胖的老男人了。”我说。



“你不老”。



“还没老,但再有10到15年可不就老了嘛。”



Sally把刚才的话翻译给Lily听。



“你不喜欢中餐?”Lily问。



“Lily, 我当然喜欢,而且我可以保证我特别喜欢你做的饭,我们也可以去中餐馆吃饭,但我必须控制自己。如果我告诉你我在加拿大一天吃7顿饭却也没有发胖,你相信吗?



“7次!怎么可能?”



“有时候是8次。”



“不过说来话长,如果你们有兴趣回头再详细说吧。请放心,这两周我会和你们一起吃晚饭,别误会,不是我在说客气话,而是我的确喜欢中餐。”



我知道她们并不理解我所说的健康饮食和健康生活,但我相信,眼见为实,她们会理解的。



这之后的每天,Lily都会在早上8点来宾馆接我吃早餐,没再去饭店,而是直接到她家。我会弄一些我自己平时习惯吃的,她准备自己的早餐。一起吃过早饭后,或者我们待在家里,一起做午餐,或者会带上Jeff出去逛,他们带我在深圳逛了很多地方。



一周后她的英语流利了很多,碰到她听不懂或说不明白的地方,我们就用她手机上的翻译功能,或者我在词典上找汉语翻译给她看,我们对互相的了解在一天天多起来。她说我是个好男人,她从来没见哪个男人像我这样可以帮着做饭,收拾家,而对我来说,做这些是再正常不过的事情。



我对Lily的感觉日益强烈。但Saly曾经告诉我,Lily信佛,这意味着在我们结婚前不会有性关系或者肌肤相亲。她还说,中国人不习惯当众有亲热的举动,比如拥抱和亲吻。这些我都能接受,我也不喜欢当众跟爱人接吻,在过去,如果交往的女孩子过于随便,我倒觉得不值得尊重。而我也需要先了解一个女孩,希望我们心通意犀,有身体接触最少也得在一两周的约会后。 而现在,当我对Lily有如此强烈的感觉时,却不能抱一抱她,甚至不能抚摸她的秀发,这对我,很难。除了用语言,我喜欢简单地用肢体来传达我的感觉,比如牵着她的手走在一起,会让我很骄傲。



Lily允许我做的也仅限于拥抱她,而且也只是在家里才行。每天早上,到她家后,我们会拥抱,我会轻吻她的额头和秀发,她会把头埋在我的胸前,告诉我,在那里,她感觉很安全。



后来,在家里看电影时,她也会在Jeff面前握着我的手,小家伙才不在乎呢。



有一天,我试图吻她,她却躲开了。第二天,她把头又埋在我的胸前时,我只是吻了吻她的头发,并不敢奢望接近她的嘴唇,因为我知道她的反应会是什么。让我吃惊的是,她却抬起头,忽闪着眼睛望着我,一言不发,望着我。我轻轻地吻了她的嘴唇,就像好友见面时亲吻脸颊。从那天起,她允许我这么做了。



我还喜欢跟她一起在厨房做饭,我可以抚摸她的手,她的头发,从她身后抱着她,亲吻她的黑色长发。有时,她抬起头看着我,我们深情对望。



她在引诱我走进她的心而非她的床,我尊重她,即使我很强烈地想拥她上床。



一天,她得到她哥哥那里去,大概跟那次交通事故有关。我和Jeff在深圳待着,我们一起打篮球,吃火锅,看电影。下午回到家后,Lily已经回来一会了,她看起来很累。



“去睡一会吧,你看起来很累的样子。”



“我得给你和Jeff做饭,可没有时间睡觉。”她说。



“这样,我来做饭,你去休息。”



听我这么说,她显的很高兴,这也是我希望看到的。在生活中,一些点滴小事就可以使一段感情更牢固,索取与给予是感情得以顺畅流通的来往双向公路。



“Jeff,走,我们来准备晚饭。”



Jeff做了米饭,我弄了一道匈牙利菜,我很喜欢吃这道菜,非常美味,但做起来又很简单。晚饭做好后,我到屋里去叫Lily,她在沙发上睡着了。我蹲下来看着她那美丽的脸庞,即将36岁的她看起来却很年轻,我在这儿的这些日子,她从来没有化过妆,因为我说我喜欢她不化妆的样子。她说平时她也不怎么化妆的,我看到的照片因为是写真照,所以才施了厚厚的妆粉。没有人是完美的,Lily也不例外,从她的脸上我可以看出她这些年的沧桑,但我们真正喜欢一个人的时候,看到的并非眼里的那个人,而是心里的她,眼睛可以撒谎,但心不会。我告诉她我喜欢她素妆的样子,她也要求我把小胡子刮掉,我就按照她的要求每天刮脸刮胡子。Lily很感激我为她做的改变。



我轻轻抚摸她的脸,把她唤醒。她睁开那双深邃黝黑的眸子,看着我。



“晚饭好了,要不要起来吃饭?”



“好的。。。对不起。。。睡觉。。。长。”她说。



“没关系,你太累了。咱们去吃饭,Jeff已经开吃了。”



我拉着她的手到饭桌前,Jeff已经要吃完了,他跟我一样吃饭总是狼吞虎咽,速度很快。看着一起坐在餐桌前的我们,我觉得我们像是一家人。他们很喜欢我做的这道匈牙利菜,后来Mandy和Sally过来玩,尝过后,也说很喜欢。



日子飞快,我的假期就剩三天了,千万个不情愿,我还是得回加拿大了。


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#2014-03-03 16:28:19 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

Imi - I really admire your writing, but have to say that based on the glowing comments you keep getting from the Chinese ladies due to the romantic overtones of your blogs you are really raising the bar for all us normal "Sad Bastards" here on the site. I am glad I'm already connected, but feel bad for those guys out there still searching. Your very touching stuff is a tough act to follow for a typical online dater. :D

#2014-03-03 20:16:37 by Imi5922 @Imi5922

John - It's really hard for me at this time to reply to your comment without revealing the outcome of my story to the readers. Let me respond to this one at the end of my story!

#2014-03-03 20:45:19 by hellenwei @hellenwei

It is really nice writing , I can't wait part 6

#2014-03-03 21:29:20 by panda2009 @panda2009

@Zoe @Imi
I'm reading Japanese ancient long fiction The Tale of Genji now, Chinese translation by Feng Zikai. l really feel that Zoe's translation of My Love for Lily which has Feng's style. There is no doubt that Zoe is a professional interpreter. I have read lots of romantic works, always enjoy in the writers' excellent expression of affection. It is clear that both author lmi and translator Zoe are all temperament middleman(woman), either English or Chinese wording is very appropriate.
Regard!

#2014-03-03 21:51:30 by lilywaitingforu @lilywaitingforu

Life is a flower of which love is the honey .
When two eyes meet and hold strongly ,they are bound to meet again .

When I am alone with you
You make me feel like I am once again
When I am alone with you
You make me feel that come home
When I am alone with you
You make me feel younger
When I am alone with you
Let me once again feel the pleasure
......
This is your such wonderful love story I think .

Wishing every Happiness always be with you !

#2014-03-03 22:09:00 by Jennifercc42 @Jennifercc42

看到又出了后续,不能控制的赶紧打开想看究竟。
看后忽然觉得这个故事不能再看了,越看越有压着的感觉,上不来气,快要窒息了的感觉。:)

#2014-03-04 09:54:21 by heziling7727 @heziling7727

这个故事太值得期待了,而且让我又重新燃起了爱的希望,我希望尽快看到下一篇。期待他们有更美丽的结局!

#2014-03-04 10:37:12 by dancingshoes @dancingshoes

中文翻译的非常地道。故事很美。

#2014-03-04 13:42:09 by shellnong @shellnong

很好的故事。太棒了!(f)

#2014-03-04 13:53:38 by lydiawen @lydiawen

What means of the "traditional chinese women" ?, here Lily is,"Traditional style", at least so far.
"nothing was going to happen between us sexually until we got married. She also told me that in public Chinese people, especially Chinese women, don't show their feelings, no hugging and kissing. "
Not only in this sex point, but also in the family responsibility.

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