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Imi was born and raised in Europe, Hungary. After finishing his school years, he moved to Canada to search for a better life. He lived in Toronto for 13 years and currently resides in Vancouver. He is a romantic at heart with a strong desire to always do the right thing. He would like to give hope to the Chinese and Asian ladies with his story and send a message that love eventually finds everybody.
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My Love for Lily 我对百合的爱, Conclusion - Square One 结语 - 心殇    

By Imi
16940 Views | 72 Comments | 9/12/2014 4:47:43 PM
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#2014-09-16 14:10:37 by jenny2013 @jenny2013


#2014-09-16 14:28:59 by Grace172 @Grace172

Your next romantic story will end with the HappyEnding I believe!
Best wishes(f)

#2014-09-16 15:46:01 by melcyan @melcyan

Your comment, comment number 25 on page 3 of these comments, is one that all CLM members, and not just Imi, should carefully read.

“Friendship and trust always are the necessary and good base for having true love.”

These words of yours were definitely true for me and my partner. We knew each other as friends for a long time before we became life partners. We each knew the other was a good person, a trustworthy and reliable person and a person with a good compassionate heart. At 58 and 56 years of age we took “risks” with each other that we had never taken with any other person before. We discovered that we could “fly” as one, secure in the knowledge that there was a “safety net” below us. I will end with another metaphor popular on this site at the moment. Our "tall building” of love was built on a solid foundation of friendship and trust.

#2014-09-16 17:26:15 by destiny1 @destiny1


#2014-09-16 17:40:00 by destiny1 @destiny1

Lmi, I'm glad you finally have the courage and delete lily, at least, that's a good start. Though it is that love, believe it will soon be over. Good luck to you!

#2014-09-16 17:50:03 by shirley9183 @shirley9183

@lmi Yes, dear Lmi, it is for sure we need the trust and friendship as the base at first, after it, we just can talk about love, it is very ridiculous and strange to talk about the love when the things are still on the surface.

As we need friends and the friends also need us so that we can find them in very big scale and only some 4-5 peoples, it even can be more than 10-20, among them, with the chating, writing, calling, visiting, checking and many actions to make sure who is the best and most suitable one finally. At the beginning of the whole process, there is no promise, no confirmation, no love for sure, the love at first sight is very rare and also very unreliable, only the time can tell you who are fitting for you for sure.

Without the big burden of saying love to whom and you can search, making friends, sharing your life way and life style with anyone else who you have the good sense because your both are only friends and it has no limitation for mind and it let both can be comfortable and freely know well about the whole and real situation under the surface of sea.

After having the rich knowledge and experience about each other, there is something stronger just can work out. Sometimes, I really admire the traditional way of Chinese old style's love, there is no speed, never in a rush, no pressure and go naturally to moisturize things in silence, anything in a rush is a shit for sure, please let me say the hard word here, because for our middle aged guys, we need the trustful, reliable, secure, 100% sure things to say love out finally and any risk for us is a very big risk and everyone need consider to avoid it especially for the long distance love.

I had never admired any fast any easy marriage because before I also had experienced 1 time and it told me it was a rubbish and I will never try it again. First, we really need find out the "Friend in need is the friend indeed!" After it, we need cast the time and energy to let the strong feeling work out and it need both sides to work on it and only side is useless.

Nothing is easy especially the true love, it always need experience the hard process to get and please keep the confidence and willpower for it! I really hope you to have the good luck and god bless you to own the true love finally because you really work a lot on it and deserve to own it. I make sure it only need a little more time now.:)

#2014-09-16 18:02:19 by shirley9183 @shirley9183

@melcyan Yes, we are in the same boat and have the same understanding about how to reach to true love.

I can not speak out "I love you!" to any men for knowing them only a few months because it is still too short and it make sure the whole thing still have not been found and appeared, we all need the stable, none-risk and peaceful life in future so that it is very necessary to cast a lot of time and energy to let the things work out naturally. I do never mind about the flying time because I need avoid the big disaster as my ex marriage again, and now I know I need to have the nice, caring, warm-hearted, healthy and balanced in the mind and body's guy to spend my left life with and such kind of man is not easy to find during such impetuous term so that I put the very big patience and willpower to wait for him and I think I can reach to the target after my hard working for sure, it is not easy and sometimes it is suffering from waiting too, but it is for sure the beautiful result can let us think all are deserving finally.

Congratulation for you almost reach to your target and best wishes to you and your partner!

#2014-09-16 18:08:33 by shirley9183 @shirley9183

@lucyove3 Yes, lovely young lady, time is the best thing to check many things, especially the love, it also can cure your hurt before you had.

Without the long time's knowledge about each other, how can we know well about others' real character, heart, habit, shortcoming, strengths and problem? It is a big joke to say love to each other without long time's contact and love is never light as a feather, it is a heavy thing including many promise, many action, many inspection, many task to each other so that do not say love so easy because it is not easy and it is a very serious and heavy weight thing.

Good luck and hope to hear your good news soon! God bless you!

#2014-09-16 19:30:06 by melcyan @melcyan

Hi Imi
Thank you for your words. The level of support that you have from others here is amazing. Many comments repeat the theme that you need to make your own well being your top priority. You can do this and make genuine friendships at the same time.
In your reply to shirley9183 you said “The reality is that there are very few percentage of Chinese women think this way on dating sites.”
I am sure you could get 5 Chinese women on CLM who were interested in developing a genuine friendship with you. So what if you have to contact 50 women to get a total of 5 friends. I know from experience that genuine online friendships are possible and very helpful for developing a better understanding of cross cultural issues. If you develop very honest friendships you will also grow as a person and strengthen your own well being. You enjoy writing. These friendships could be primarily email based. I think there are enormous benefits for you to switch your focus from a single relationship to many friendships.

#2014-09-16 22:17:24 by haifeng @haifeng



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