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Imi was born and raised in Europe, Hungary. After finishing his school years, he moved to Canada to search for a better life. He lived in Toronto for 13 years and currently resides in Vancouver. He is a romantic at heart with a strong desire to always do the right thing. He would like to give hope to the Chinese and Asian ladies with his story and send a message that love eventually finds everybody.
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My Love for Lily 我对百合的爱    

By Imi
7037 Views | 19 Comments | 12/6/2013 6:04:40 PM

Much in the vein of Zoe's recent blog series which captivated us all, we now bring you a similar series about a relationship that has developed between a Western man and a Chinese woman, but this time through the eyes of the man. We offer to you Imi, and his brilliant biographical blog series entitled simply "My Love for Lily". And in the spirit of her own blog offering the men a chance to experience the thoughts and feelings of a Chinese woman, in order to ensure that the Chinese ladies can use this opportunity to experience the thoughts and feelings of a Western man, Zoe has generously agreed to translate Imi's story for the Chinese ladies. Any member who doesn't follow this series really doesn't understand what a fabulous learning tool she or he is missing.  Please welcome Imi and enjoy!

My Love for Lily

Today is a beautiful day here in Vancouver, it's late September, the summer has just finished a week ago, but the sun is still in full power showing me one last time what I am going to miss during the fall and winter. I still can see fluffy white clouds over my head in the blue sky as the sunlight caressing my face and makes me feel lazy and sleepy. Even the geese and ducks in the near by pond seem to enjoy this quite, perfect day. I closed my eyes as I was sitting on the park bench and enjoyed this wonderful day, remembering the road that has led me here to this park, to this beautiful day.

As a child I grew up in Europe, Hungary. I moved to Canada in 1995 to search for a better life. I was 26 years old at that time and started my adventure in Toronto, the biggest city in Canada. I went through the “usual” immigration process, including preparing my papers for Canadian citizenship, going to school at daytime to learn a new language and going to restaurants at nighttime, working as a dishwasher, just to make some extra money to be able to pay my lawyer. It had been hard, but eventually, I'd got my Canadian documents and became a Canadian citizen.

After a while I'd got a good job in hardwood floor business and I was full of hopes for my future. As I was growing financially, I was glad helping my mother and sister, who lived back home, in my original country. Years were passing by too fast and one day, I realized I still lived alone without any family on my own.

Throughout my Canadian years I had met and dated girls, but I felt that I had no real connection with them mentally.  I decided to go back to Europe to visit my mother and might be able to find a nice woman from my home country.

To make a long story short, I found someone during visiting my mother, brought her to Canada, she got her Canadian papers and then left me for another man. She had taken 4 years out of my life and in return for her papers, she had cheated on me twice. I had to sleep numerous times in my car in the garage because I wasn't able to listen to her lies.

The only good thing that happened during our time together was moving to Vancouver together because we both liked mountains and nature.

I love Vancouver with all of its beauty and flaws. There is too much rain in the winter, but when spring comes I literally feel like I am in “Paradise”. Since, I moved here I had found myself to be attracted to Asian women. No wonder I like Chinese and Asian women when they are so different from the women in North America. Not just in appearance, but in the way they think about relationships.

After my failed relationship with the woman from my country the word, “faithful”, became very important to me and I knew that if I wanted to have a woman in my life who would give me respect, as long as I respected her, I needed to go all the way to China.

At age 42, I had registered to an Asian and Chinese dating site for the first time in my life hoping to find my love.

It was early August and I had been on the site for two weeks. I was just getting familiar with it, but I noticed that there were a lot of beautiful Chinese women searching for their potential life partners. I was looking for a natural beauty who wasn't afraid of showing her real face in her photos. I didn't really like the photos that were made in photo shops. They looked fake to me. Of course, I like when a woman puts a little bit of make-up on just to make herself more beautiful, but I don't like the airbrushed photos with too much make-up on the woman's face.

One day, I was checking the profiles and photos quickly, page by page and as I clicked the arrow for the next page, something had caught my eyes. The page had already turned so I needed to go back to the previous page to see, what that was. I went back and there it was, a pair of beautiful eyes that belonged to a nice face with silky long hair. She was a very attractive Chinese woman. The photo was an airbrushed head shot, but at that moment I didn't really care, I was captivated by her eyes and felt butterflies in my stomach just to look at them.

I studied her profile and found out that she was 35 and had a son and they lived in Shenzhen.

Unfortunately, the profile also said that she was not sure about moving to another country.  Generally, in this situation I would have moved on, but I wasn't able to give up on her just yet. I might be able to convince her about moving to another country.

“I can't lose anything by asking her about it” I thought to myself.

I wrote a short message to her and started hoping that she would answer me one day.




我出生在欧洲,在匈牙利的一个小镇上长大。1995年来到加拿大,那时我26岁,梦想着一个美好的未来,开始在加拿大最大的城市 – 多伦多打拼。我准备了所有材料,通过了移民所必须的程序,这期间,白天在学校学语言,晚上在餐馆打工,只为能支付的起我的律师费。过程很艰难,也很苦,但最终我成为了加拿大公民。


来到加拿大的这些年,也曾有跟当地的女孩子拍拖,总是觉得什么地方不对劲,好吧,通俗一点说,不是一路人。 我决定回匈牙利,我的根在那里,也许在家乡能找到一个跟我相通的女孩。












(本博客中文翻译者:Zoe  非常感谢伟大的工作!)

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#2013-12-06 19:28:19 by lhui @lhui

Great article! another beautiful but maybe a tortuous or a little sad love story?... exquisitely , the author play a man with gentle heart ...looking forward to the next chapter.

#2013-12-06 20:26:30 by qdphoebe @qdphoebe

i guess it is a beautiful love story like the beautiful day, hope so .

#2013-12-06 20:59:17 by panda2009 @panda2009

Zoe 翻译得太妙了,完全是文学范儿.

#2013-12-06 21:48:46 by 99moonriver @99moonriver

吓一大跳! 还以为作者的中文好得魂都飞了!哈哈

#2013-12-06 21:54:14 by 99moonriver @99moonriver

nice writing. Go on.

I just can't stop wondering why so many sad stories of marry-move-green card-divorce? How to avoid, or saying how to open two eyes before marriage n then close one eye after that?

#2013-12-06 22:16:04 by Loveym @Loveym

A good article, a period of twists and turns of the emotional experience, it seems that every man and woman will have a story! The Chinese!

#2013-12-06 22:16:32 by panda2009 @panda2009

Zoe, you are the best lady on CLM. You deserve a good man.

#2013-12-06 22:27:17 by Marrisa @Marrisa

The first blog I begin reading on this website is zoe's story. Though the story is very sad, I am touched deeply by zoe's passion. In my opinion, no matter how old one is, love is something with this kind of passion. Now, I love this story at once from the very beginning. Hope this time, it is a beautiful story with a happy ending.

#2013-12-06 23:38:57 by SunnyME @SunnyME

It is, in a word, so exquisite! Really enjoy the style of article, I am looking forward to your followed series, cheer you on.

#2013-12-07 00:32:18 by JulyChen @JulyChen


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