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My China Trip - Day 22, Part 5 我的中国之行-第22天,第5部分    

By Barry Pittman
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#2015-05-06 15:19:59 by Barry1 @Barry1

@surpurisena

"建议你到农村生活一个月或多些,你会更加珍惜你现有的生活,这将是你一生美好的回忆"

"谢谢你的评论, 上一次的中国之行对我而言,比较以往任何一次旅行更让我着迷,因为这次旅行我大部分时间远离了大城市。
我认为小城镇里有更少的犯罪行为,更少的污染以及街道。那里没有乞丐,有很少的小偷和骗子。人们更友好以及随处可见的农村田园。

村民比城市居民更少钱,但是他们的生活更充实。在整个旅途中,我最为快乐的事情是背着沉重的背包攀登10000步的阶梯,我的感觉是精疲力竭但是却倍觉兴奋。我迫不及待的想回到中国再次去爬山!

祝福你,我的朋友。 (f)

#2015-05-06 20:30:30 by Barry1 @Barry1

@belle777

"I think many Chinese men are cold hearted by some reason, and they are obsessed with the idea to become rich, they think if they are rich, they can do whatever they want, and it seems western men are more caring and soft hearted on the poor people than many of the Chinese men"

Thanks for your astute observations, Belle777.

I must say that I do agree that from my observations, I noticed many Chinese men seem to be a little tough or hard hearted. I don't know them well - this is a general feeling only.

Small things make me think this way. Such as how many act towards the poor in the streets. The way that they do not seem to smile so much when I nod to them in the streets. The looks on their faces generally.

I remember watching some men in HangZhou throwing stones at a dog and laughing. They thought it was good fun, especially when a rock hit the frightened animal. I felt like running up and telling them what cruel, heartless people they were.

I held back though because it was not my place. Not my country. My first time ever in China. But the memories of this disconcerting event lay restively within my mind to this very day, nearly ten years later.

#2015-05-06 23:25:42 by anonymous13357 @anonymous13357

In my time visiting China I have seen beggars, not very many, mostly old folks. I have also heard of the beggars mafia. I am also aware of the "teahouse" scam and I am very vigilant in whom I speak with when in China. I still feel safer on the streets of China than I do in my own city as here they are much more aggressive in seeking money from unsuspecting victims. Quite often they will have 2-3 men and women surround you and intimidate you into giving money. Very few are actually homeless, most are druggies looking for money to buy drugs.

Well done Paul but a suggestion keep your eyes open wide for the next while as the beggar and his monkey may come back with reinforcements. My gf tells me even beggars can lose face. Like you say as foreigners we stick out like a "sore thumb".

Personally I would have reacted the same as you did.

Cheers....

#2015-05-07 10:32:31 by xingyu66 @xingyu66

@paulfox1 and @belle777
paulfox1所遇到的老年乞丐,在全国各地都有,他(她)们手里拿着一个碗,碗里有少量硬币,边走边抛动碗里的硬币,见人就把手里的碗申过去,有时还一直跟着你,这种乞丐在街边、车站、饭店随处可见。
belle777说的看起来象学生的青少年,在各个城市也不少见,他们一般是跪在一块写满字的布前,布上写着他遇到了什么特殊困难,乞求人们给予帮助,为了证明他们是在校学生,地上还放有他们的学生证,以及盖有学校公章的证明。他们刚开始出现时,我也给了一些钱,但后来发现,同一个乞丐在不同地点多次出现,才意识到自已被骗了。
既然说到乞丐这一话题,我想跟大家讨论乞丐是否值得同情?我认为真正的乞丐是值得同情的,每个善良的人都会同情弱者,问题是我们无法分辨真假。在网络上我们常常看到有的乞丐月收入过万,住的是别墅,甚至出入高级洒店,他们把乞讨当做一种职业,每天上班时穿上破衣褴衫装可怜,甚至装残疾人(象演技不错的演员)到处乞讨,下班后换一身衣服却花天洒地的挥霍。还有一些老人,家里有子女完全能供养他们,可他们不在家享受天伦之乐,却偏偏要去乞讨,因为他们乞讨的收入高于他们子女劳动的收入,正因为如此,有些年轻人也逼着家里的老人去乞讨。我还看过一个报道说某地有一个村庄,每年农闲时,村里的人成群结队的去外地乞讨,结果家家都盖起了洋楼别墅。
随着这些现象的频频暴光,使善良的人们感到自己的善良被人利用,也就开始变的冷漠。其实,并不是所有的乞丐都是骗子,也有真的年老体弱、无依无靠、居无定所的人,这些人是真正需要人们去同情的,可是在乞丐的人群里人们很难分辨出谁是真正的可怜人。
据我观察,大多数乞丐都使人感到讨厌,因为他们从来不顾别人的感受,向别人要钱时总是紧跟着别人,不给钱就不走开,不管别人是否愿意给他们钱,好象别人欠了他的似的,有很多人都是出于无奈给点钱他们。我想那些慈善机构是干什么的?难道他们只知道座在办公室里收钱吗?他们收到的善款都用到了什么地方?对那些流浪的乞丐,慈善机构是不是应该管呢?

#2015-05-08 21:37:24 by Barry1 @Barry1

@xingyu66

"我认为真正的乞丐是值得同情的,每个善良的人都会同情弱者,问题是我们无法分辨真假。在网络上我们常常看到有的乞丐月收入过万"

在澳大利亚,乞讨是被禁止的,这是不允许的事情。

原因之一是,太多的骗子假装可怜,从善良的人那里骗取金钱。

第二个原因是,在这里,每个穷人都会获得免费的医院和医疗福利,每一个贫穷的人也可以定期的从政府那里得到钱(津贴)。

所以没有理由人乞讨。然而遗憾的是,这是在中国不是这样的,真正的穷人会饿死或死于严重的疾病,如果没有人照顾他们。

我希望,随着时间的推移中国的法制更成熟,政府效仿许多西方国家一样,禁止乞讨,让它是非法的。但在此之前,他们需要确保真正的乞丐不会饿死或死于疾病,因为他们太穷,或者生病没有钱去医院。

#2015-05-08 21:41:01 by Barry1 @Barry1

@anonymous13357

"My gf tells me even beggars can lose face"

Now I've heard everything! (rofl)

#2015-05-09 18:13:55 by HZDX6167 @HZDX6167

我们才是可怜的人哩,想做点善事来安慰自己那颗脆弱的心,可是又不知道那点钱不知进了谁的腰包。呵呵。。可怜啊,,,,,,,

#2015-05-10 14:02:23 by belle777 @belle777

Hi Barry,
I think maybe one reason for the Chinese man to be stoned mind is China is still a developing countries, it is true there are so many rich Chinese people now, but there are still so many people live in the poor condition, it is understandable that some people act like they are emotionless, because they are busy at earning money to support their family and struggle to live a better life.
I believe everything has reason there, and baby are born like white paper, the background affect their personality in the future, and no baby can choose to be born in a poor family or rich family, so by born already is not fair.
Most of the Chinese people are hard working, but you can see some people work very hard, but they still earn little money, mostly they do the labour work.
Many Chinese men are hard hearted, but there must be reason there, as I think, it is because the money worship for some years in the society, and I can see the society is changing step by step.
It is just like people eat dog meat in some area, which actually is their tradition for thousand of years, but now there are many dog lovers try to persuade those dog meat lovers to stop it, nothing wrong with that, it is just their tradition to eat dog meat, but with the changing of people's mind, things will be changed little by little.

#2015-05-10 20:25:37 by Barry1 @Barry1

@belle777

"baby are born like white paper, the background affect their personality in the future, and no baby can choose to be born in a poor family or rich family"

You are exactly correct here, Belle777.

Long ago, I realised that life was not fair. Children born with deformities or born into impoverished circumstances or where they are molested or any number of dire things, gives ample testament to this.

Let me repeat though, that many Chinese men I saw whilst there were no doubt very hard working, yet they were not the type of person I'd choose to be buddies with, even if no language difficulties existed.

Conversely, I found most Chinese ladies were generally much more friendly and open, compared to their male counterparts. No doubt many reasons exist for this, but I wonder if my personal observations here at least partially explain why there are no dating sites that I know of, where Western ladies are actively searching for Chinese men? :^)

As for the eating of dog meat, this is a whole new topic. My views here remain unashamedly hardline. It should not occur, end of story. Further details on this subject can be seen at my earlier blog at:

http://blog.chinalovematch.net/blog/article/Dogs-and-Cats-in-China-Cause-for-Concern-in-Some-Sections


#2015-05-10 21:10:32 by Barry1 @Barry1

当今社会的主要问题不是贫困,而是缺乏公正。

这不是仅仅渴求把钱装进自己的口袋,,而是在我们心中应该拥有真正的财富。

在现实生活中真正重要的不是我们前进了有多远,而是我们的灵魂多快可以实现他们的最终目标,来源于灵魂的终极开悟会彻底摆脱患得患失以及过度的担忧和关心,以及心随境转的困惑。

虽然在尘世中灵魂净化的过程是如此的漫长,但请记得最主要目标不是一定要成功或极致的快乐,而是 真正的无愧。无愧于他人,更重要的是无愧于自己,是否你已经尽你所能。 (angel)

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