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Barry from Australia is a questioning soul who looks at social issues from an alternative point of view and instead of asking, “Why?”, he asks “Why not?” He’s convinced that many of his previous incarnations were spent in China. He feels drawn to the people there; attracted by their rich culture and way of life. If given one wish from God, he’d reply, “I want everyone on Earth to be the same colour, speak the same language, and treat each other as they themselves would like to be treated.”
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My China Trip - Day 22, Part 5 我的中国之行-第22天,第5部分    

By Barry Pittman
4215 Views | 20 Comments | 1/18/2015 1:35:51 PM
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#2015-05-06 15:19:59 by Barry1 @Barry1



"谢谢你的评论, 上一次的中国之行对我而言,比较以往任何一次旅行更让我着迷,因为这次旅行我大部分时间远离了大城市。


祝福你,我的朋友。 (f)

#2015-05-06 20:30:30 by Barry1 @Barry1


"I think many Chinese men are cold hearted by some reason, and they are obsessed with the idea to become rich, they think if they are rich, they can do whatever they want, and it seems western men are more caring and soft hearted on the poor people than many of the Chinese men"

Thanks for your astute observations, Belle777.

I must say that I do agree that from my observations, I noticed many Chinese men seem to be a little tough or hard hearted. I don't know them well - this is a general feeling only.

Small things make me think this way. Such as how many act towards the poor in the streets. The way that they do not seem to smile so much when I nod to them in the streets. The looks on their faces generally.

I remember watching some men in HangZhou throwing stones at a dog and laughing. They thought it was good fun, especially when a rock hit the frightened animal. I felt like running up and telling them what cruel, heartless people they were.

I held back though because it was not my place. Not my country. My first time ever in China. But the memories of this disconcerting event lay restively within my mind to this very day, nearly ten years later.

#2015-05-06 23:25:42 by anonymous13357 @anonymous13357

In my time visiting China I have seen beggars, not very many, mostly old folks. I have also heard of the beggars mafia. I am also aware of the "teahouse" scam and I am very vigilant in whom I speak with when in China. I still feel safer on the streets of China than I do in my own city as here they are much more aggressive in seeking money from unsuspecting victims. Quite often they will have 2-3 men and women surround you and intimidate you into giving money. Very few are actually homeless, most are druggies looking for money to buy drugs.

Well done Paul but a suggestion keep your eyes open wide for the next while as the beggar and his monkey may come back with reinforcements. My gf tells me even beggars can lose face. Like you say as foreigners we stick out like a "sore thumb".

Personally I would have reacted the same as you did.


#2015-05-07 10:32:31 by xingyu66 @xingyu66

@paulfox1 and @belle777

#2015-05-08 21:37:24 by Barry1 @Barry1








#2015-05-08 21:41:01 by Barry1 @Barry1


"My gf tells me even beggars can lose face"

Now I've heard everything! (rofl)

#2015-05-09 18:13:55 by HZDX6167 @HZDX6167


#2015-05-10 14:02:23 by belle777 @belle777

Hi Barry,
I think maybe one reason for the Chinese man to be stoned mind is China is still a developing countries, it is true there are so many rich Chinese people now, but there are still so many people live in the poor condition, it is understandable that some people act like they are emotionless, because they are busy at earning money to support their family and struggle to live a better life.
I believe everything has reason there, and baby are born like white paper, the background affect their personality in the future, and no baby can choose to be born in a poor family or rich family, so by born already is not fair.
Most of the Chinese people are hard working, but you can see some people work very hard, but they still earn little money, mostly they do the labour work.
Many Chinese men are hard hearted, but there must be reason there, as I think, it is because the money worship for some years in the society, and I can see the society is changing step by step.
It is just like people eat dog meat in some area, which actually is their tradition for thousand of years, but now there are many dog lovers try to persuade those dog meat lovers to stop it, nothing wrong with that, it is just their tradition to eat dog meat, but with the changing of people's mind, things will be changed little by little.

#2015-05-10 20:25:37 by Barry1 @Barry1


"baby are born like white paper, the background affect their personality in the future, and no baby can choose to be born in a poor family or rich family"

You are exactly correct here, Belle777.

Long ago, I realised that life was not fair. Children born with deformities or born into impoverished circumstances or where they are molested or any number of dire things, gives ample testament to this.

Let me repeat though, that many Chinese men I saw whilst there were no doubt very hard working, yet they were not the type of person I'd choose to be buddies with, even if no language difficulties existed.

Conversely, I found most Chinese ladies were generally much more friendly and open, compared to their male counterparts. No doubt many reasons exist for this, but I wonder if my personal observations here at least partially explain why there are no dating sites that I know of, where Western ladies are actively searching for Chinese men? :^)

As for the eating of dog meat, this is a whole new topic. My views here remain unashamedly hardline. It should not occur, end of story. Further details on this subject can be seen at my earlier blog at:

#2015-05-10 21:10:32 by Barry1 @Barry1




虽然在尘世中灵魂净化的过程是如此的漫长,但请记得最主要目标不是一定要成功或极致的快乐,而是 真正的无愧。无愧于他人,更重要的是无愧于自己,是否你已经尽你所能。 (angel)

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