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Barry from Australia is a questioning soul who looks at social issues from an alternative point of view and instead of asking, “Why?”, he asks “Why not?” He’s convinced that many of his previous incarnations were spent in China. He feels drawn to the people there; attracted by their rich culture and way of life. If given one wish from God, he’d reply, “I want everyone on Earth to be the same colour, speak the same language, and treat each other as they themselves would like to be treated.”
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My China Trip - Day 22, Part 2    

By Barry Pittman
10681 Views | 63 Comments | 1/12/2015 1:29:05 PM
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#2015-03-25 13:36:19 by anonymous13163 @anonymous13163

have no more time to read all Barry's articles, but I read this one carefully---I like to read Barry's blog, I could learn many new words:D
I don't understand why so many ladies so tough to Barry...Am I wrong? I could not find any clues to think Barry has no plan to marry Tina...of course, he did not tell us what day he would marry her, but don't means he wasn't serious....what dicssion they had make, that is their business, Tina is an adult, she would deal with it....and I don't think Barry had laugh at Tina's 小房子, he just described.
@Barry, you replaced Tina's picture, it means you really do not want to marry by now, I think....Let her know your thoughts. Good luck to you and Tina.

#2015-03-25 20:02:25 by belle777 @belle777

I don't like the idea that if the woman is in poor condition, then she expects a man will come and change her condition, we are not Cinderella
I heard several times from western men, some Chinese women asked the men to marry them before they meet, one man show me some emails from a woman, she asked this man to marry her and they didn't meet yet, this woman wrote in the email, come and marry me, live together, that is ridiculous and I totally can't understand what is that for

#2015-03-25 22:04:00 by anonymous13165 @anonymous13165

I really agree with anonymous13163. I thought Barry would marry Tina. But now, i am not that sure. Barry, i dont prejudge you. :)

#2015-03-25 23:31:53 by anonymous13167 @anonymous13167


#2015-03-26 08:38:22 by Barry1 @Barry1


"I don't understand why so many ladies so tough to Barry"

Thanks for your comments, Anon13163.

I think a big answer to your problem is the difference style of humour between Chinese and Westerners. Let me quote a little from an earlier comment I had made here.

"Unfortunately many (or perhaps most?) Chinese ladies cannot understand or discern Western humour when they come across it. Often it is taken as being insulting or rude, rather than droll or comical.

Most Chinese ladies when reading my words thus often take what I say as being gospel fact, when actually I'm speaking in a humorous or waggish vein, not wishing in any way to be serious. I lean toward trying to be entertaining or playful, rather than exhibiting pedantry or pedagogery.

The problem is that if I attempt a Western style witticism, almost certainly this will be misinterpreted by most Chinese ladies as being some sort of insult. Yet if I do not inject a little levity or fun into my articles, they'll tend to become dull and boring."

As far as replacing Tina's photo's, it was to give her more privacy on this site. I personally like them but I had to bow under the pressure of opinion.

Once again, thank you for your intelligent, constructive views here, Anon13163. (f)(d)

#2015-03-26 10:15:13 by Barry1 @Barry1



Xie xie for your comments, Anon13167.

你好,我的朋友。 Ni hao,wo de peng you.

What you've said here is quite true. I have been surprised how rude and intemperate some Chinese ladies are. I can only say this is more a reflection upon THEIR character, than it is my own.

I must correct one thing that you mentioned. You suggested I do not have the consent of Tina to write my articles, but in fact, I do. She understands and accepts that I have a story to tell and is kind enough to permit me to write it.


You mentioned also that some of what I write is philosophical. This is interspersed with a tale that reflects more of a travelogue than anything else.

Yes, you are quite correct. Let me explain this more fully.

My series of articles is NOT strictly a love story. Nor is it strictly a travelogue. Nor is it a diatribe about philosophy. It is in fact, a combination of ALL THREE.

Put another way, it's not a one dimensional tale, but a multi-faceted one.

I don't proclaim to know much about love. I don't proclaim to know much about China. I don't proclaim to know much about anything at all, really. I just describe things as they occur to me or as I view them at that moment.

So different people will take different things from my articles. Some will appreciate the romance that's injected into them from time to time; others will enjoy the humour; whilst others would value my personal reflections about life.

Once again, xie xie for your intelligent, constructive comments, Anon13167. You're a fine example of a great Chinese lady. (y)(f)

#2015-03-26 11:27:10 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

Chinese tradition?
Seems that some women want to hide behind it in the same way as an atheist may put an "I Love Jesus" sticker on his car
In the main it's hypocritical
Yes, traditions should be respected, but never upheld just because people think it makes them look good in the eyes of others
This is false, hypocritical and it fools no-one

#2015-03-26 12:19:41 by Yangyy0129 @Yangyy0129

Good point

#2015-03-26 21:27:54 by Barry1 @Barry1


"traditions should be respected, but never upheld just because people think it makes them look good in the eyes of others. This is false, hypocritical and it fools no-one"

Very interesting thoughts indeed.

This topic would in fact make an excellent blog topic, creating plenty of heated discussion, I reckon. If only Gareth were still here, I'm sure that with his vast experience, his input onto such a subject would be tremendous!

#2015-03-26 22:05:41 by Barry1 @Barry1


" I thought Barry would marry Tina. But now, i am not that sure."

Thank you for this, Anon13165.

It is great to see that the romantic mystery surrounding the ultimate destiny of Tina and I remains intact and undiminished. :)

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