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My China Trip - Day 22, Part 2    

By Barry Pittman
10681 Views | 63 Comments | 1/12/2015 1:29:05 PM
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#2015-03-25 13:36:19 by anonymous13163 @anonymous13163

have no more time to read all Barry's articles, but I read this one carefully---I like to read Barry's blog, I could learn many new words:D
I don't understand why so many ladies so tough to Barry...Am I wrong? I could not find any clues to think Barry has no plan to marry Tina...of course, he did not tell us what day he would marry her, but don't means he wasn't serious....what dicssion they had make, that is their business, Tina is an adult, she would deal with it....and I don't think Barry had laugh at Tina's 小房子, he just described.
@Barry, you replaced Tina's picture, it means you really do not want to marry by now, I think....Let her know your thoughts. Good luck to you and Tina.

#2015-03-25 20:02:25 by belle777 @belle777

I don't like the idea that if the woman is in poor condition, then she expects a man will come and change her condition, we are not Cinderella
I heard several times from western men, some Chinese women asked the men to marry them before they meet, one man show me some emails from a woman, she asked this man to marry her and they didn't meet yet, this woman wrote in the email, come and marry me, live together, that is ridiculous and I totally can't understand what is that for

#2015-03-25 22:04:00 by anonymous13165 @anonymous13165

I really agree with anonymous13163. I thought Barry would marry Tina. But now, i am not that sure. Barry, i dont prejudge you. :)

#2015-03-25 23:31:53 by anonymous13167 @anonymous13167

Barry的博客早就没看了,因为觉得文字唠唠叨叨,有点象王大娘的裹脚。不过这篇下面这么多五味参杂的评论,倒是想说两句了。
首先,不赞同一些过激的评论,诸如玩弄之类,他们都是成年人了,即便在一起睡了,也是两情相悦,没有必要横加指责。
至于Barry先生暴露那么多对方的隐私来满足自己的创作欲,倒是确实不应该,毕竟,并未征求Tina的同意。
Clm的读者,大都是冲着有缘千里花好月圆的故事来的,Barry走偏锋却又要夹杂情爱的文字,确实有吊胃口的嫌疑,好在发帖免费,对着马桶洋洋洒洒也能赚点击。
对于他们之间的关系,从来就没看好过,去年年中的时候,Barry先生好像还在发帖征集是否有女士可以和他同游西藏,却转眼去了沙湾,还创作出了这系列看起来结束不了的博客。
看的出来,Tina并不想外嫁,但是她非常希望闺女能出国留学,Barry也喜欢Tina,但是这和结婚根本就是两会事吧。
Barry先生其实只想从一个哲学家思想者的角度来写一篇游记,中间夹杂点暧昧当然就更好,虽然目前看来他的工作好像有点力不从心。
权当一篇有女主角的游记算了,女主人公都不介意,旁人就泰然处之好了。
至少,这个故事很健康,虽然不优美,但是,心平气和,没有歇斯底里,没有背后的刀子和算计,不管往哪个方向流动,都算水到渠成。

#2015-03-26 08:38:22 by Barry1 @Barry1

@anonymous13163

"I don't understand why so many ladies so tough to Barry"

Thanks for your comments, Anon13163.

I think a big answer to your problem is the difference style of humour between Chinese and Westerners. Let me quote a little from an earlier comment I had made here.

"Unfortunately many (or perhaps most?) Chinese ladies cannot understand or discern Western humour when they come across it. Often it is taken as being insulting or rude, rather than droll or comical.

Most Chinese ladies when reading my words thus often take what I say as being gospel fact, when actually I'm speaking in a humorous or waggish vein, not wishing in any way to be serious. I lean toward trying to be entertaining or playful, rather than exhibiting pedantry or pedagogery.

The problem is that if I attempt a Western style witticism, almost certainly this will be misinterpreted by most Chinese ladies as being some sort of insult. Yet if I do not inject a little levity or fun into my articles, they'll tend to become dull and boring."

As far as replacing Tina's photo's, it was to give her more privacy on this site. I personally like them but I had to bow under the pressure of opinion.

Once again, thank you for your intelligent, constructive views here, Anon13163. (f)(d)

#2015-03-26 10:15:13 by Barry1 @Barry1

@anonymous13167

"首先,不赞同一些过激的评论,诸如玩弄之类,他们都是成年人了,即便在一起睡了,也是两情相悦,没有必要横加指责。

Xie xie for your comments, Anon13167.

你好,我的朋友。 Ni hao,wo de peng you.

What you've said here is quite true. I have been surprised how rude and intemperate some Chinese ladies are. I can only say this is more a reflection upon THEIR character, than it is my own.

I must correct one thing that you mentioned. You suggested I do not have the consent of Tina to write my articles, but in fact, I do. She understands and accepts that I have a story to tell and is kind enough to permit me to write it.


Barry先生其实只想从一个哲学家思想者的角度来写一篇游记,中间夹杂点暧昧当然就更好,虽然目前看来他的工作好像有点力不从心。

You mentioned also that some of what I write is philosophical. This is interspersed with a tale that reflects more of a travelogue than anything else.

Yes, you are quite correct. Let me explain this more fully.

My series of articles is NOT strictly a love story. Nor is it strictly a travelogue. Nor is it a diatribe about philosophy. It is in fact, a combination of ALL THREE.

Put another way, it's not a one dimensional tale, but a multi-faceted one.

I don't proclaim to know much about love. I don't proclaim to know much about China. I don't proclaim to know much about anything at all, really. I just describe things as they occur to me or as I view them at that moment.

So different people will take different things from my articles. Some will appreciate the romance that's injected into them from time to time; others will enjoy the humour; whilst others would value my personal reflections about life.

Once again, xie xie for your intelligent, constructive comments, Anon13167. You're a fine example of a great Chinese lady. (y)(f)

#2015-03-26 11:27:10 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

Chinese tradition?
Seems that some women want to hide behind it in the same way as an atheist may put an "I Love Jesus" sticker on his car
In the main it's hypocritical
Yes, traditions should be respected, but never upheld just because people think it makes them look good in the eyes of others
This is false, hypocritical and it fools no-one

#2015-03-26 12:19:41 by Yangyy0129 @Yangyy0129

@anonymous13167
Good point

#2015-03-26 21:27:54 by Barry1 @Barry1

@paulfox1

"traditions should be respected, but never upheld just because people think it makes them look good in the eyes of others. This is false, hypocritical and it fools no-one"

Very interesting thoughts indeed.

This topic would in fact make an excellent blog topic, creating plenty of heated discussion, I reckon. If only Gareth were still here, I'm sure that with his vast experience, his input onto such a subject would be tremendous!

#2015-03-26 22:05:41 by Barry1 @Barry1

@anonymous13165

" I thought Barry would marry Tina. But now, i am not that sure."

Thank you for this, Anon13165.

It is great to see that the romantic mystery surrounding the ultimate destiny of Tina and I remains intact and undiminished. :)

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