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My China Trip - Day 21, Part 4 我的中国之行 – 第21天,第4部分    

By Barry Pittman
8033 Views | 45 Comments | 11/25/2014 1:06:35 PM
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#2015-01-10 08:50:34 by melcyan @melcyan


Superficial chat relationships are unecessary once you start a genuine loving relationship. However, quality friendships are difficult to acquire. One should not let them go easily. I think you can gain a good insight to another by looking at the quality of their present relationships with friends and family.

If you try to persuade a partner to end a quality relationship you are courting disaster. As a couple's relationship grows it changes both people and as they change it is inevitable that all their other relationships will change as well.

I recommend that you do not try to force the change. Let your growing relationship takes its natural course.

#2015-01-11 04:40:23 by Barry1 @Barry1


" This function does not seem to work very well. I vote on most articles but the result is rarely recorded."

I'm with you, bmccull.

I also vote on various articles but have found my vote is only registered about half the time.

I wonder what's wrong with this spasmodic voting system? One would think it either works or it doesn't work - but to have it intermittently working is a bit odd, I agree. :^)

#2015-01-11 04:49:30 by Barry1 @Barry1


To clarify a little upon my earlier comment, once an agreement has been reached that your relationship will be a serious, committed one, I think it shows a respect for the Western man, if the Chinese lady voluntarily agrees to stop chatting to other men, except on an occasional basis, for example, on their birthday or some other celebratory period.

On the same basis, the man should do likewise. He should stop regularly chatting to other Chinese ladies, if only as a sign of respect.

For a lady to keep regularly chatting to other men even after entering a supposedly serious relationship with you, I would not be entirely comfortable about.

Yet by the same token, you shouldn't have to demand that she please stop chatting to others - she should voluntarily choose to do this herself.

If she doesn't, then there's something not quite right here, in my view.

Cheers mate. (beer)

#2015-01-11 11:21:37 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot


We have to agree with both of you that this software does not function very well. We have our eyes open for something better and will happily replace this when we find a suitable option. If you or any other readers know of something please point it out to us.

#2015-01-13 01:09:39 by anonymous12762 @anonymous12762

Hi Barry, thanks for your reply and the other replies as well, interesting viewpoints. If two people are serious about each other they should be respectful of each others feelings whilst developing the relationship. I agree that each other should voluntarily stop chatting others as it can only cause distrust and hurt. On the other hand I would never demand that she give them up.

Women know that the fastest way to get a result from a man is to let him know there might be others interested in her so don't dilly dally. If the man does this same thing back the woman will cut the mans balls off...

Maybe I am old school but I was a bit shocked and worried when I read that Tina wanted to keep in contact with George and with your permission chat with him on New Years eve.... This could not have felt good nor be a good sign for you. Pray tell would Tina react if you wanted to continue contact with a former flame? Would she be happy to hear this?

I find it amazing how we as men continue to allow things(red flags) to happen in our own relationships that we swore we would never let happen again....please note I said "we" which includes me...

Chinese women like to say " I trust you don't you trust me?" My answer is as follows:

"trust but verify" the only significant contribution to society by former president Ronald Reagan.....

I really would like to hear feedback from our Chinese sisters here as well as the men here

Barry you are a good man and deserve love, respect, peacefulness and harmony with your woman....

Cheers mate...(beer)

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