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Barry from Australia is a questioning soul who looks at social issues from an alternative point of view and instead of asking, “Why?”, he asks “Why not?” He’s convinced that many of his previous incarnations were spent in China. He feels drawn to the people there; attracted by their rich culture and way of life. If given one wish from God, he’d reply, “I want everyone on Earth to be the same colour, speak the same language, and treat each other as they themselves would like to be treated.”
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My China Trip - Day 21, Part 4 我的中国之行 – 第21天,第4部分    

By Barry Pittman
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#2014-12-27 00:52:07 by YinTingYu @YinTingYu

@ Barry1
Hello B.,
I have just read the last several posts here and as a "glasses wearer" myself,... I wish to come to the aid of Lady T.
It is true that the lenses somewhat obscure the pupils but,...this only induces one to look deeper into the eyes.
Also the lenses can be a "God Send".
When the visual world becomes acute, one can remove the glasses and everything becomes "French Impressionist". Ahhhhhh.....
Perhaps Anonymous 12607 will appreciate this.
I sense he just wants to see deeper.
Gets a better idea of what / who he searches for.
It would be nice to see a tasteful photo of Tina without glasses, maybe she will allow but,...I sort of dig the spec's !
It's the "Librarian / School Teacher" thing for me.

You wrote "Tina and I could break up, rather than uniting? At this point, regettably nothing is firm or set in cement".
I know your tactics for next blog article,... keep the readers in suspense.
But,...Man,...what are you saying ??
You have the "gold" you have been searching for right in front of you.
Tina comes from a good heart centered family.
She appears (in photos) as sort of simple sub-urban girl but, her mind and heart are very deep and solid.
Buddy,...you could not get more lucky.
She loves you bro.
You both have acknowledged.
Accept it and allow accommodation.

As a suggestion and reminder ONLY,..try to slow down the overactive neo-cortex.
I endure and endeavor to do the same daily.
In Tina's words on the bus, " Barry, you are very trouble".
I sense we all like it !!

Oh,... thanks for stopping by my blog post.
Hope you will have time to "drop in" again.
There's more coming.

Peace and Blessings,
Gongji


#2014-12-28 12:38:28 by Barry1 @Barry1

"It would be nice to see a tasteful photo of Tina without glasses"

Thanks for your comments Gongji but no, Tina would not be amendable to a photo of herself without glasses.

"You have the "gold" you have been searching for right in front of you."

Yes, I hope this is true, but yet I'm very cognisant one cannot truly know another person until one has lived full time with them for at least several months. I'm too old now to become overly befuddled or blinded by short term romanticism.

"Barry, you are very trouble".
I sense we all like it !!

Do you mean you like it when I am being mischievous? Can anyone truly like someone who does the most enormous of farts in a public lavatory and then bursts out laughing at the sheer ridiculousness and hilarity of the situation?


".try to slow down the overactive neo-cortex"

The neocortex is usually associated with the conscious “thinking parts” of our brain. I agree that I can become a bit too rational and analytical in my behaviour. Sometimes maybe a bit more expressed emotion and romance would be good?

Your words are heard, appreciated and understood here, thank you, Gonji. (y)

#2014-12-30 13:16:11 by YinTingYu @YinTingYu

@Barry1
Buddy,
I really appreciate your sentiments.
I've been there a few times myself.
I was just trying to express some of my experience to a bro.
Emotion and romance seem to be received a little bit more positively with some women.
It's not always easy to for a guy to figure. :(
I'm going to go into it further in an upcoming blog but for now I just want to remind you of something I have learned that may be applicable in your situation.

In general,...a man wants his thoughts to be respected and,... a woman wants her feelings to be cherished.

I think this is true in many cases.
Really,... once understood by each, it's sort of beautiful.

Look,...you are a tough enough "cowboy" with plenty of life experience to go ahead and open your heart fully to this lady.
You have been carefully planning this interaction for many months.

I suggest you sneak into her jewelery box when she's not looking.
Use a piece of paper to determine her ring size.
Find some jeweler that has an acceptable item.
I don't think Lady T. will like gold,...silver, platinum, titanium, or niobium will probably be best.
Also find a small lightweight necklace chain in case she does not like to wear rings.
It would be best to hang slightly under her blouse collar.
Many "hens" and "roosters" like to have their hands and fingers unobstructed.

One day, after all is prepared, tell her that you will have dinner ready when she comes home from work so she won't have to make a meal (buy it !!).
Some candles and flowers won't hurt but not too much so she won't expect.
Make sure it is just the two of you so she won't feel pressured by any "external witnesses"..
Then about 3/4 through the meal,...pull that heart gift out of your pocket and ask her to be your partner.
"Partner" is the critical word of choice here because the relationship is still new and often times female roosters (hens) don't like to feel pushed or tied immediately.
They need time to consider and adjust.
Just something I have noticed.
I sense she will be agreeable.

Damn,...I've crowed enough for now and remember please, these are only suggestions.
I don't want to become the CLM "Relationship Adviser, Soothsayer, or Astrologer" !! (rofl)
Oh, "rational and analytical" ??
You're talkin' to a boy that wrote a chapter in the book (hard bound) !!
Peace,
Gongji

#2014-12-31 07:42:42 by Barry1 @Barry1

@YinTingYu

"I suggest you sneak into her jewelery box when she's not looking.
Use a piece of paper to determine her ring size.
Find some jeweler that has an acceptable item.
I don't think Lady T. will like gold,...silver, platinum, titanium, or niobium will probably be best.
Also find a small lightweight necklace chain in case she does not like to wear rings.
It would be best to hang slightly under her blouse collar.
Many "hens" and "roosters" like to have their hands and fingers unobstructed.

One day, after all is prepared, tell her that you will have dinner ready when she comes home from work so she won't have to make a meal (buy it !!).
Some candles and flowers won't hurt but not too much so she won't expect.
Make sure it is just the two of you so she won't feel pressured by any "external witnesses"..
Then about 3/4 through the meal,...pull that heart gift out of your pocket and ask her to be your partner."

Thank you so much for the wonderful advice you gave me re the above, Gongji. It shows you really are a romantic at heart, a true salt-of-the-earth person that'll go far i life.

But really, do you wish to know the truth?

I had to stop myself from gagging as I read some of your words above. (puke)

All this romantic BS is just not me. Sorry mate, but if Tina wants me to be her partner, she'll have to accept me as I am, rather than my having to put on a masquerade, pretending to be a Don Juan type that I simply am not.

I sense that your heart is very much in the right place, but I feel that having to buy a ring (I hate rings) or necklace (I hate these useless things also) and then preparing a romantic dinner is simply not appropriate nor acceptable to me. It's all a sham - a pretence - in my view. I would rather win someone on my terms, not act like a simpering counterfeit.

Once again, I appreciate your advice Gongji but on this occasion, I'll say thanks but no thanks.

#2015-01-01 01:32:53 by YinTingYu @YinTingYu

@ Barry1
Hi B.
I want to thank you for your response because,... it leads to a good topic for another "Gongji Blog" article. I am so "with you" on the useless jewelry thing, paper marriage contract, etc...
It is my belief that there must be a deeper bond which stands beyond the common. I sense many of us sincerely wish / search for that as well.

I apologize for your "gag response". It was not my intention. Please remember the words I use, "reminder" and "suggestion". I just sensed from your writings that you may be going through some mental angst about how to approach Lady T. From my limited experience, the scenario described has proven beneficial but,... not necessarily in that manner.
One does not have to be the excessive "Don Juan" however,... just a little something to give the partner a solid reminder can make substantial impact. Perhaps a sincere heart felt embrace before they leave company saying, "Babe,... I'm so glad we found each other. You enhance my life. Love ya." Simple thing,... right ?
That sort of interaction can go a long way.

Certainly one wants to be accepted for who they are, warts, scars and all, but it does not take too much to be sensitive to the chosen partner.
It's not a "compromise" to one's integrity to use a little bit of sincere heart felt romance on occasion.
It is an "accommodation" we choose to make because,... we really care about our partner.
Sometimes, for a guy, a little bit of planned spontaneity is helpful.
You know what I'm "talkin', bout".

I must stop now before I create another blog on your space.
Oh,...from this end,...no harm, no foul.
It's just a couple of "mates" discussing the "sheila quotient".
If you celebrate the New Year, I hope you have a safe one.
Peace to you both,
Gongji

#2015-01-01 11:45:33 by Barry1 @Barry1

@YinTingYu

"I apologize for your "gag response". It was not my intention."

No worries at all, Gongji - I'm a firm believer that a good vomit every now and then makes us all ultimately feel so much better, akin to a good tear session that many ladies enjoy going through.

Ladies cry - men vomit. Seems reasonable to me. (rofl)

In all seriousness though, I can't recall Tina ever wearing a piece of jewelery, whether it be a ring, brooch or necklace of any kind. She's just not interested in such things, that happily points to another area of interesting commonality between us.

Some would say my unromantic ideas mean that I may be a real "man's man" type of person. If so, this is okay - I guess this is better than being what Arnold Schwarzenegger would call a "girly man".
Or maybe even a lady boy man as found in the streets of Bangkok! ;)

As you may be finding out, I can be a rough, tough dude when I wanna be. Apologies in advance for any disappointment caused to anyone who may've erroneously considered me to be more of a sympathetic, caring and compassionate person, full of empathy and tenderness to those around me.

At last, the truth about my personality has been outed. Well done for finally being able to extract and reveal it to all, Gongji. (y)

#2015-01-03 06:46:57 by YinTingYu @YinTingYu

@ Barry1
Hello B.
Please understand that it was not my intention to "blow your cover", it just sort of turned out that way. I wish to give you a couple of music selections to start off the New Year. They might be considered as "Schmaltzy" but anyway, I sense they both express how we might feel in our approaches to this life.
Perhaps you already are familiar with these tunes. Both are Marty Robbins.
First is "Big Iron".

https://video.search.yahoo.com/video/play;_ylt=A0LEVve27qZUiGMAoUQPxQt.;_ylu=X3oDMTBsa3ZzMnBvBHNlYwNzYwRjb2xvA2JmMQR2dGlkAw--?p=marty+robbins+big+iron+lyrics&tnr=21&vid=CBC83EC7A79C21177517CBC83EC7A79C21177517&l=230&turl=http%3A%2F%2Fts1.mm.bing.net%2Fth%3Fid%3DUN.608047913593798692%26pid%3D15.1&rurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DRlvPnE0o7x4&sigr=11bpgkia3&tt=b&tit=Big+Iron+-+Marty+Robbins+%28Lyrics%29&sigt=1116kr193&back=https%3A%2F%2Fsearch.yahoo.com%2Fyhs%2Fsearch%3Fp%3Dmarty%2Brobbins%2Bbig%2Biron%2Blyrics%26ei%3DUTF-8%26hsimp%3Dyhs-001%26hspart%3Dmozilla&sigb=139jmkdt2&hspart=mozilla&hsimp=yhs-001

Damn,...that was long...but I think you may be able to open and,... lyrics are included. I have been to Agua Fria, TX many times.
I sense both you and I (including some other "Mates") share the "Arizona Ranger"qualities I like this and hope my perceptions are correct.
My choice of "hand artillery"(if needed)?...Colt Python .357 revolver. I know it is Old Fashioned and sort of medium weight but it really feels balanced for my hand and with hollow point flower rounds,...can make a good sized hole. But now days we use pen or keyboard and ONLY,... when necessary. :)
Second tune: "El Paso".

https://video.search.yahoo.com/video/play;_ylt=A0LEVjHkGadUa0cAQmEPxQt.;_ylu=X3oDMTBsa3ZzMnBvBHNlYwNzYwRjb2xvA2JmMQR2dGlkAw--?p=el+paso+marty+robbins+lyrics+youtube&tnr=21&vid=46c418a5df9b013e6587479831f4fa52&l=281&turl=http%3A%2F%2Fts1.mm.bing.net%2Fth%3Fid%3DUN.607990202133777192%26pid%3D15.1&rurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DspaPETdoRVM&sigr=11b0mdhfu&tt=b&tit=Lyrics~El+Paso-Marty+Robbins&sigt=10schf3lo&back=https%3A%2F%2Fsearch.yahoo.com%2Fyhs%2Fsearch%3Fp%3Del%2Bpaso%2Bmarty%2Brobbins%2Blyrics%2Byoutube%26ei%3DUTF-8%26hsimp%3Dyhs-001%26hspart%3Dmozilla&sigb=13gl5qjmt&hspart=mozilla&hsimp=yhs-001

Double damn !! That one was "long ass" as well. However, if you are able to listen, I think you will understand the messages.
I wish you a Happy New Year,
Gongji

#2015-01-04 14:21:32 by Barry1 @Barry1

@YinTingYu

Thanks for sharing the Marty Robbins songs with me, Gongji. I'm a Marty fan from way back - his smooth baritone singing is always a joy to listen to.

I do regular DJ work and I always enjoy sneaking in a few country songs if given the chance. I'm surprised how many people don't like country music for some reason?

In any case, here are links to three country songs that I like. In turn, I hope you like them too! :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2omyFkuQjU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SMxoBEgHp-0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3wm-WbHyF2g

#2015-01-04 15:43:25 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@YinTingYu
@Barry1

2 things

First, I notice that this blog, like so many others in the series has a single vote for "Boring" by the readers. I'm sure we can agree this has to be the same person, and it is hard to believe this person is really simply bored, or he/she would simply have stopped reading a long time ago.

So whoever is doing this must have an ulterior motive. And that leads me to what I think is an obvious question.

Barry, are you sure Tina is not reading these blogs? (rofl)

Second, I have a small world moment to share. On December 27th we held a holiday party for a group of expats who have become good friends, We are playing music, of course, and I was trying to respond to requests from the 1500 odd songs on my iPod. Someone asked for Johnny Cash, which surprised me a bit, but I found a few.

Then someone asked for Marty Robins. I grew up a big fan of Marty Robins, but frankly I was startled to be asked if I had any Marty Robins. I don't think I'd heard the name come up in 30 years or so. But I looked and found on my iPod my two favourite Marty Robins songs. El Paso and Big Iron. The guy who asked for Marty Robins was stunned I had them.

A few days later there I am reading Gongji's introduction of those exact two songs in his comment to Barry. To me that's an amazing coincidence. Now I am stunned.

#2015-01-05 06:33:17 by YinTingYu @YinTingYu

@ Barry
@John Abbot
Hello Barry and John,
The "boring" thing in relation to votes I rarely pay attention to.
I have sensed the "synchronicity" before on this site.
Many times and especially with Panda,Lily, Barry, Paul, Melcayn, Sandy, Whui, Anniehow and JOHN,... I have experienced the same !!
I would be thinking of a certain response, and another would post first very close to what I had to say !!
Certainly there is no "competition" as to who comes first but, somehow I feel there is an "interconnectedness" going on here.
It seems we are all on the same page. I hope I assess correctly.
To me, this is very nice. :)

I wish to address the Old Cowboy "persona" please.
I really believe there is something of the "Arizona Ranger" (Big Iron and El Paso) sentiment that many of us hombres still relate with.
What was that ?
Ah,...I reach back in memory to the early "Western" movies I watched as a young fellow,...
Bob Steele, Ken Maynard, Alfred "Lash" La Rue, Bob Black, Hoot Gibson, Tom Tyler, Tim McCoy, Buck Jones, Johnny Mack Brown, Rex Allen, Gene Autry, Tex Ritter, Roy Rogers, Clint Eastwood, Steve McQueen, Richard Boone as "Paladin" and the unforgettable John Wayne,...just to name a few.

O.K.,... they were sort of "schmaltzy" but,...all were hero role models for me.
In general,...the "Hero"(?) was usually some sort of regular guy (except for the refined Paladin), maybe a little bit handsome in his own way but, tough and yet sensitive with the women folk, resolute for the job at hand, and willing to engage with the unfolding of events. Also, as the film would develop, it was discovered that he had a certain element of "spiritual truth" in his character.
Maybe it is more of a "Stand Up, Do Right Guy" thing but, certainly admirable from my mind.
And "El Paso", what sort of a fellow would wish to risk death for some chick he met in a cantina?
Insane but, on occasion,..... entirely understandable. (inlove) (rofl)
I sense y'all understand (hehe).
So glad this thread still runs through some of us.
I stop now before creating a mini blog,.....again.
Happy New Year and Peace to All,
Gongji

P.S. Marty Was "Cool". 8)

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