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Barry from Australia is a questioning soul who looks at social issues from an alternative point of view and instead of asking, “Why?”, he asks “Why not?” He’s convinced that many of his previous incarnations were spent in China. He feels drawn to the people there; attracted by their rich culture and way of life. If given one wish from God, he’d reply, “I want everyone on Earth to be the same colour, speak the same language, and treat each other as they themselves would like to be treated.”
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My China Trip - Day 15 我的中国之行—第15天    

By Barry Pittman
9802 Views | 46 Comments | 6/9/2014 3:26:20 PM

Awaking in the Jinyi Hotel as usual this morning, it was hard to believe I was up to day 15 already. Things had to be done.  Discussions needed to be had. Decisions needed to be made.  Time waited for no one, especially a somewhat unsettled Westerner in a strange land, waking up in a strange bed, in a strange place surrounded by strange people.

Tina had to go to work today.  This left me free to take another walk around town.  I was starting to slowly understand the layout of the streets.  I was still being peered at by many people that I passed.  This didn't trouble me at all.  Au contraire, as often as I could manage it, I smiled at everyone and gave them a nod or a wave.

I still hadn't seen a single Westerner in Shawan.  Nor had I yet sighted anyone taller than me.  I needed to constantly watch the door entries of shops or rooms, to avoid being clunked on the head by a low hanging door portal or archway.

My weight was now down to 75 kgs.  Normally it hovers around 80 kgs, which is slim for 188cms in height. Physically I felt great.  My legs felt particularly strong.  What a novel way to diet - visit a foreign country with strange albeit nice food.  Most people would tend to eat less than normal.

After work, Tina and I went for our usual afternoon hike in the foothills around Shawan.  One needed to cross the bridge to reach them.  For whatever reason, as soon as I reach this bridge, I feel compelled to jog across it.  Tina’s given up doing this, she simply strolls across.  I don’t abandon her however, for as soon as I reach the other side, I then walk back to join her and we complete the bridge walk in unison.

I saw something strange on the bridge today that I hadn't seen before.  Halfway across, a bus stopped in order to allow a woman to jump on board.  She must have hailed it and caught the driver's eye. Very deftly, like a monkey she clambered over the railing separating the traffic from the pedestrians, in order to reach the waiting bus.  The cars behind the bus had simply stopped, waiting patiently for the clambering woman to complete her mission.  Only in China would something like this happen.

Our hike went for three hours.  At all times, it was interesting to view the terrain we traversed across.  Little rustic farm houses surrounded by curious little vegetable patches, mostly growing green veges I’d never seen before.  Corn, lettuce and cabbage were the only crops I recognized.

Being summer, It doesn't get dark here till between 8.00pm and 8.30pm.  Walking along the little tracks and trails in these foothills is extremely interesting, way more so than spending the equivalent time on a treadmill, even if you did as I do, which is to either watch TV or listen to music.  Treadmill training is great however for inclement weather situations such as heavy rain or summer heat, as it can be done in the comfort of an air conditioned room, at any time of day or night.  Back home, sometimes I'd exercise on it around midnight.

My home town of Brisbane in Queensland, Australia is a rather nice place yet is mostly flat compared to the likes of here.  Athletes don't have many hills to cross.  There also aren’t many convenient forested trails to power walk or jog around either.  Plenty of parks and walkways exist, but they're nowhere near as interesting as the many mysterious tracks and trails in the hills around Shawan.

“Why don’t more people from town come up into these hills, Tina?  They’re so pleasing to walk around.”

She replied, “I don’t know, Barry.  Maybe not so many people like exercising?”

Maybe she was right.  I don't know, nor do I really care. Whatever the reason, I was mighty glad Tina and I largely had the forested tracks around Shawan to ourselves, apart from the farmers who actually lived there in their quaint little cottages and who tirelessly worked their precious plots of land.

Tina was proving to be an exceptionally unusual person.  What other Chinese woman placed such great importance on her health and well being by venturing out on two hour hikes by themselves, nearly every day of the year?  Though she didn’t just do it to maintain her fitness, as good as it was.  She loved the solitude; the cleaner air there; the little friendly chats to the implacable farmers that she met along the way.

The smell of the air pollution was noticeable to me today, yet Tina didn't detect it.  "This is normal to me, Barry", she said.

On my last two trips to China, I’d always been with ladies who lived in the big city.  Their idea of going for a hike was to walk to the local shops.  Whilst city living is very convenient, they don’t call it the “rat race” for nothing. People tend to become insular, separating themselves both physically and emotionally from everyone else apart from their own family and immediate circle of friends.  There’s no real sense of community. People jam themselves together on buses or trains like so many sardines, not looking at each other, just gazing blankly either out the windows or at their smart phones. 

Tina’s love for the outdoors is one major reason why we each felt attracted to each other. I’d been exercising regularly for the past fifteen or so years.  Tina had been doing this for about the past ten years.  Each of us had preferred to do it solitarily.  We also both possessed an instinctual need to be free from the rigors and madding crowds of the big city.

After our walk today, Tina asked

“Are you tired, Barry?”

I replied “No, I feel fine.”

She then asked, “Was this an easy walk for you today?”

“Sure, it was no problem at all.  Piece of cake!”

I felt sometimes that she was testing me, wondering if our fifteen year age difference was a potential problem or not.  So far, I think I've passed all her audits.

The only major point of difference between Tina and I that appears evident was my habit of watching TV back home.  I subscribe to cable TV and had access to over a hundred different channels.  My favorite ones were the documentary type ones, such as National Geographic; Discovery; A and E; History; and so forth.  Yet Tina doesn't turn on her TV here. Never. Nor does she allow her daughter Wendy to watch it either, as this would interfere with her studies.  She also has a ban on Wendy accessing the home computer via a password lock, so games or internet surfing aren’t allowed.  What a huge difference to many Western kids her age who by comparison, get away with murder!

I wondered how Tina and Wendy would feel, were they to live with me in Australia?  The hiking areas in Brisbane are comparatively flat and featureless; public transport is poor; and people were in so much more of a big city rush there.  The main areas of advantage that Brisbane had over Shawan was the relative lack of pollution and newer looking houses. Maybe also advanced medical facilities, such as MRI or CAT scan machines and so forth, that would be more difficult to access in China.

But back to the situation at hand.  I was finding out that online Chinese dating involved so much more than two people chatting on the net, then meeting in person, then making love and agreeing to marry each other.  There were so many other extraneous factors to consider.  Issues such as employment in the new country. Education issues for the child.  Retirement and other finance related issues from the many years of work already performed in China by the lady.  Language problems.  Family problems.  Culture shock problems.  Driving problems, from someone who'd only ever used public transport all her life. 

Given all of the above, even though Tina and I are close emotionally, I couldn’t help but wonder if she was strong and confident enough to flourish in a new country, a new culture? These and a thousand other little things needed to be considered. 

This is exactly why on day fifteen of my China journey, I still don’t know if Tina and I were ultimately compatible or not?



























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#2014-07-03 15:20:31 by yueming @yueming


#2014-07-03 18:16:31 by chengcheng72 @chengcheng72


#2014-07-03 21:38:04 by yeranyi @yeranyi

CT MRI 在中国早有了啊?!

#2014-07-03 21:51:12 by 1992fiona @1992fiona

hope one day got you will get married news post here.every your article let mey heart feel warm,that is very good life experience.

#2014-07-03 22:23:06 by Grace172 @Grace172

I would like you to suggest Tina let her daughter to watch TV on CCTV 9, CCTV10 and CCTV12. These are the good channels of the documentary type such as National Geographic; Discovery; History; .Law, social and legal affairs, They can really help children to get more knowledge outside of their school.

#2014-07-03 23:50:15 by prana @prana

Barry, your this idea is right.

I am now,

Often worried about, I went to the Europe later, I can adapt to where life, and cultural ?

You're a good man, Tina's conditions are very good, you do not give up.






#2014-07-04 00:14:22 by Belle77 @Belle77

Hi Barry, thank you for your interesting story.
I am just a bit confused about your confusion, did you and Tina talk about the future before you travel to China?
I mean, did you ask Tina, would she like to move to Australia to live with you, or you want to move to China to live with her?

#2014-07-04 05:27:59 by jhcmm @jhcmm


#2014-07-04 07:08:39 by Nekko @Nekko


As promised here the information regarding language learning.
Language learning is one of the endeavours in our lives that comes easy to some and is almost impossible to master to others. Why is that so? After all we all learn one language easily and without much effort, without studying grammar and all the rules of the language until we actually can have a conversation with another human being.

The language I am referring to is of course your mother tongue. You learn this language naturally and without conscious effort. You learn new words and their meaning without having to use a dictionary. You learn this language without knowing and understanding the grammatical rules of the language. You can have a conversation with a 7 year old child. The expression of the child is limited by the vocabulary.

However new words and their meaning can be explained using the limited vocabulary used by the child. I have never seen a parent explaining a new word to a child using a dictionary. Would be useless like an air conditioner on a motorbike.

Why do we want to learn a new language with a dictionary? Because that is the way you learn a language in school. That is how I was supposed to learn French. I was not very successful in mastering the language. How many people do you actually know that learnt a second language fluently with a dictionary?

Maybe there is another way to learn. Like we learned the first language.
The answer to that question is: “Yes”. This method is referred to as the Mother Tongue Method. Every person I know speaks at least one language after learning it using this method.

Let me give you some background information. Philips, the Dutch company, has a language learning system called PHILIPS LANGUAGE SYSTEM AAC 5000 or 6000 or 7000. AAC means audio, active, comparative. The program was put together by Hans-Werner Hunziker.

Hans-Werner Hunziker (1934) studied Psychology at Berne University (Switzerland) and Miami University, Oxford (USA) and took his PhD in Psychology with a thesis on
the psychology of problem solving.

In 1968 he acquired for PHILIPS the world rights of the famous "Language Through Pictures" self-study courses ( by Professor I. A. Richards from Harvard University) and supervised new studio recordings for release on language lab audio cassettes. His first book "Audiovisuelles Lernen und Kreatives Denken" appeared in 1973 and was used as a reference work by many developers of audiovisual media.
He later published a series of books on Learning Technology.

His bio is here
His website is here

The course was sold for home study. It used the cassette tape to record your pronunciation. I know the cassette is old technology. The impressive achievement was that the special language laboratory has both tracks moving in the same direction at the same time. What does this mean in English please? The teacher says a word or a sentence and you repeat after the teacher and record your voice onto the tape. Next you compare pronunciation and you can re-record as often as is needed to match the teacher’s voice.

Nifty. Also by the way, you learn new words by looking at a picture book. There is a story in the book and you learn new words and sentences seeing the picture and speaking the sound, or word. If you are lucky you will find this program sold on e-bay or similar sites for peanuts. New, the complete program (6 Levels) would be close to $ 6000 Australian Dollars. I sold this program hence my knowledge.

The program is now sold by a company in South Africa on CD’s or to download for next to peanuts. How times change.
The website is here

For the Chinese language course go to this site
This is a Mandarin language course.

For a used program in your local library you might try this site

For all other searches use Google.

If you have or any readers have any questions feel free to contact me. You want to talk to Mr. Hunziker personally his number is Switerland + 045 720 30 23. Consider the time difference.

I hope that this information is useful to many readers of the blog. My personal story is here

Barry, may the best in your past be the worst in your future. Happy translating this idea !

#2014-07-04 09:46:19 by Barry1 @Barry1


Thanks for your comments, Yueming.

On many levels, Tina and I are very compatible. We like each other a lot. Yet the more that I'm with her, the more that I'm worried that she may not fit in well with life in a big Western city.

She has never driven a car in her life; she loves going for long walks in the country; she doesn't like big cities. She hates visiting Chengdu, for example.

So the future between Tina and I is far from clear. It's be a difficult decision, knowing what to do. Of course, I'd love her to live with me in Australia. But whether she could be happy here is a troubling issue for me. One that I still don't know the answer to.

Best wishes to you, Yueming. (f)

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