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Originally from Seattle, USA, I've lived in China for 27 years now, 22 of them in Taiwan. For those 27 years I have been teaching English to Chinese people of all age levels; kindergarten, primary school, junior high, high school, College, University and many business managers. I have traveled to many countries, enjoy cycling very much, enjoy reading and studying and love Chinese Art Museums and walking through Nature. My favorite musical instruments are 古筝。。 古琴 。。 琵琶。。 二胡 。。 笛子 。。 (guzheng, guqin, pipa, erhu, dizi).
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By WarmLife
1599 Views | 8 Comments | 3/21/2016 9:03:39 AM

This blog post I wrote ... before John accepted me to write a blog.  Actually after reading more blogs and comments I wish to revise and edit this lengthy rambling blog post.  I am worried and concerned that many Chinese members can not easily understand it .  However, I feel frustrated with how some foreigners seem to have a habit of complaining about living in China.  So I will share this ... hopefully those who view and read this blog post will understand -- this was my way to deal with my frustration with those who have complain about living in China.  Thank you for your patience and consideration.  

I happen to have no trouble at all with "squat" toilets simply because I have been using these for too many years now.   Especially since I have been exercising more and more than I did during my time living on taiwan.  So I don't have the trouble I used to have when I was chubbier than I am now.  And today when a really good Chinese friend told me about the tutorial video teaching foreigners how to use one... I felt confused ... since it is a rather simple task ...  Yeah, in the beginning I complained about having to use this style of toilet simply because I was too lazy to squat and was used to sitting on "the throne" instead.  

Which brings me to an interesting point ...  could it be that many foreigners simply complain about living in China due to their attitude?  due to their fantasy of hauling their accustomed Western style living into China?  both sides of this issue seem to forget common courtesy ... Yeah, there is the -- We have 5,000 years of history and your country has only 300 years (usa) ... however, I just smile and ask a simple question ... Is this lengthy history contiguous?  grin grin grin ..I am an American so many of my american friends say  -- We have the best -- We are the no#1 economic ...  no #1 this or no#1 that so your country should embrace and adopt our style simply because we are the land that boasts having more than enough freedom to become morons ... ( this is tongue in cheek - if the PC brigade or the ethnocentric honor guards get their feathers ruffled too much ... well ... enjoy staying where you might be)

I can't imagine Trump or Palin ever getting much support over here .. but then again there was that intriguing Chongqing incident that definitely had a dramatic ripple effect upon the waters of governing powers that be ...  it is amazing to me that foreigners seem to believe that there is only one monolithic governing power with no factions ... lol

I have lived in enough places .. to experience the boonies.. or out in the sticks ...out in the Villages... i am very familiar with many of the comments made in various blogs here ... However, I really do not wish to write about such living environments unless it belongs within a positive or humorous adventurous tale ...  

I believe that common courtesy and having healthy respect for different social and cultural living styles is necessary for anyone living anywhere .  It would be all too easy to dig up many deteriorating and decomposed skeletons from my official country.  What is the validity of doing this?  

it would be sure folly and utterly ridiculous to assume that I have always enjoyed my experience living in China.  This also applies to my previous life experience back in the usa as well.  I have also visited numerous countries and have friends that hail from many parts of this World.  I remember one blogger saying that he wished to live in a environment with fresh air and lalalalala ... well then my advice is ... move .. asap .. Personally, I know that I could live in any city in China ... otherwise I would not be living here .  The new french teacher in my school said ... omg I can smell the polluted air .. i can even taste it ... ( my first reaction was to laugh loudly -- but i did not -- because i knew that she would think i was being really weird )  me?  either my nasal sensitivity is not as good as her... or i have been breathing this air for decades so i do not notice it at all.  would i prefer to move to paris? or another city in France simply for this fresh air?  definitely not ... there are too many factors in choosing a suitable living environment for anyone ..  suitable?  i can imagine too many foreigners telling me that there are really few suitable reasons for living here in China .  well, fine hunky dory ... leave ... move back.. never arrive .. blow your horn loudly ... enjoy ...

But your loud honking has zero effect and influence upon my choices for living here .  Do I wish to live in Beijing?  I often make a joke of asking my friends who do live there ... Can you breathe?  hehehe  To my good friends living in Shanghai ... uh no thanks .. no interested in living in the NYC (big apple fame) of China ... To my close friends living in 东北 (NE China )  uh er hmmm  No thanks .. not fascinated with sand storms and extremely friggin cold weather for 6 months a year!  Then there is Chengdu, Changsha, Xian, Wuhan, Xiamen, Huangzhou, Yangzhou, Guilin, Kunming, Nanning, Harbin, Tianjin, Chongqing, and numerous cities in Guangdong and other provinces ... these are just quickly off the top of my mind ... not to mention Keelung, Taipei, Taoyuan, Dashi, Taichung, Tainan, Taidong, Hualien, Suao, Chudong, and before I bore you to death .. many other cities there ...  

I could easily repeat this for usa ... especially the West coast or the Pacific Northwest .

If you wish to live somewhere ... then by all means move there!  but what is the validity of whining or bitching or complaining or acting like a spoiled kindergarten brat ... concerning a place you move to???   I have met too many foreigners who say .... Hey I came from a Developed Country and now I expect this Developing Country to follow or emulate or imitate or allow me as an ethnocentric chrysanthemum to continue to have a similar lifestyle that I had and left from my previous living place.  

I told a really good Chinese friend today that I think this concept concerning Developed or Developing Country (when used to refer to China ) is B.S. (and I am not talking about Britney Spears either )  Would anyone living in the States say that they would love to .., would enjoy.. would prefer .. living in any place in America??  As if any place in usa is really suitable ?  Obviously, (to me at least ... ) People make Choices where they are going to live and how long ... what they are going to do there .. what they hope they can do while living there ... and so on ...  

Cycling?  oh my .. oh dear .. if you are paranoid enough to believe that some crazy guy in a car, taxi, bus, cement mixer will drive erratically enough to whack you while cycling on any road .. then well.. you might be correct ... surely there are those exceptions to the rule ( as seen in enough videos online -- cars, trucks, large vehicles simply brazenly and with psychopathic or sociopath mindsets ... smashing and running into and over pedestrians )  Which happens to be yet another good reason for my choice to live in 南沙 district of Guangzhou (Nansha )。  recently, i am very pleased and full of enthusiasm for the blacktopping (paving the road once again ) of major roads, streets and avenues around here ...  (in Taiwan it is very weird or amusing (depending on whether it is a good day or frustrating day) to observe the local government rebuilding the road surface -- making it a freshly paved smooth road .. .then after a few days to rip up sections of it for laying large pipes in the ground -- then quickly put some blacktop material making it lumpy ... yeah right )  

Here I actually cycle on the main roads ... I am careful not to argue with cement mixers or buses  ( there are even Wild Chicken buses in Taiwan)  or other vehicles ... I cycle up to 110km in a day... I have been to many parks scattered everywhere ... I have ridden at night time coming back from a long ride to Da Fu Shan park ... watching the traffic zoom by me with their headlights on ...   Yes there are cyclists in Gz .. along the Pearl River ..but there are too many pedestrians .. in some of the big parks .. too many people... University Island has enough roads ... I have cycled to and from the Nansha Ferry Terminal and 天后宫 countless times on every day of the week.   

My view of living in China is profoundly simple but complex ...

If You really want to come here and seek a living .. to have a job and a lifestyle here .. then accept what is here ... Otherwise .. move to another place ... there is no need for a lot of bitching and complaining ...  Deal with it !  You want Farcebook ?  You want bizarre dysfunctional Youtube ?  You are a glazed eye fanboy .. fangirl of Google is your friend ?   You gotta have your daily fix of these ?  Then either fork over enough money and get VPN that works more often than others ... or exit stage left ... How do I deal with these?  easy ... I have no addiction to any of the above .. Although I used to have super fast broadband in Taiwan (which has very fast internet by the way .. and within walking distance I could buy almost anything electronic -- which I could not do in Seattle or other cities in the Pacific Northwest -- the sales people would often tell me .. this gadget .. this thing doesn't exist... laughing at me .. chuckling at me .. considering me to be at the poached egg mental level ... then I would tell these "genius" folks .. I can buy it within 10 minutes at many shops near my home ... without the need to drive for 30-40 minutes through gridlock traffic etc... ) I am at times frustrated with Net speed I now have .. but it is free ... besides anywhere in any city if there are too many clients the bandwith quickly deteriorates rapidly ... I do not need most of what is in Farcebook or Youtube .. VK and other russian websites do quite well for my needs .. thank you .. Chinese websites used to have everything ... Now there is a scarf being tightly pulled around the neck .. but there is still too much ... my favorite music singers from the 80s and 90s is still available to listen to ... so go figure ..  I have easy access to what I wish to buy or purchase .. there is no need for endemic consumerism  either ... I enjoy walking through Nature's green environment ... there is plenty of that where I live .. Transportation to Gz central or Hong Kong is very convenient ..  95% of my social friends happen to be Chinese as well... I prefer living within this social cultural environment that has more than enough middle class level folks ... I do not need to worry about PC anything ... I have healthy respect for Chinese people and Chinese people have healthy respect and hospitality towards me ... I always tell foreigners .. You want to have a happy life living here ?   Make Chinese people feel happy and you will reap huge benefits ... Want to be an ethnocentric twit ?  Gong!  next contestant ...

  My first name is Jim ... My Chinese family name is 金 。。。  (no it is not a Korean name nor has anything to do with Korean!!)     see ya in a day or so ...   

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#2016-03-21 09:58:55 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

WarmLife - I really can't find anything to disagree with here, except to say that as Chinese cities go Guangzhou is far from my favourite. I have lived in Shenzhen for many years, Guangzhou for close to 2 years and Hangzhou for 3 years. Hangzhou was my favourite, Shenzhen is also dear to my heart but Guangzhou not so much. But as you so rightly say, to each his own. One man's pleasure is another man's poison.

For the most part I agree that there's no need to dwell on the flaws in a country, but there is definitely room to do so if it is done constructively. I you're just having a bitch fest don't bother, but if you are legitimately criticizing an aspect of a country in hopes of raising the consciousness of the natives, and creating positive change, then I suggest you should feel entitled to do so.

An example would be raising the standards in which animals are treated. For example there is a story on posted yesterday about the treatment of tigers in China whereby there are 6,000 tigers in captivity being brutally abused while slowly waiting the chance to have their bones used to create an expensive aphrodisiac for Chinese men who think it will improve their sexual prowess. There are only 3,000 tigers in the wild in China. The story can be found here:

I suggest that it is acceptable to raise this type of wrong, as Barry for one has done frequently in the past, in order to open as many eyes as possible to the total non-acceptability of such behaviour. If anyone is interested you might read the story and click on the link in a couple locations that lets join in a petition to the Chinese Government to shut these places down.

#2016-03-21 10:17:51 by anonymous14659 @anonymous14659

Your words are great to read.I have read the words of many Westerners living in China. I enjoy reading the words of people like you who live with humility on the "inside" of China.

#2016-03-21 10:21:45 by WarmLifeGz7 @WarmLifeGz7

I agree with your comments above ... Bringing to light abusive conditions should be done in a constructive manner ... Example -- Foxconn working conditions ...
I have visited Sz (Shenzhen ) more than several times ... But have yet to live there ... so I have no idea whether I would enjoy living there or not. However, The Sz Metro system is similar to Gz ... the big parks are great to visit ... friends have remarked that the beaches during holidays are overcrowded ... hehehe But I think the whole area Gz - Sz - Hk would be suitable for me .. I do not wish to live in the central area of any big City ... thus Nansha is very suitable for me .. You mention Huangzhou... someday ... I just found Chuishui in Baidu ... Marvelous scenery from the photos ... hehehe My goals are to promote the healthy aspects of Life in China ...

#2016-03-21 10:56:37 by Imi5922 @Imi5922

Well said! Finally, someone who doesn't bitch.

#2016-03-21 11:02:59 by Barry1 @Barry1


Thanks for another interesting article, Jim.

I welcome your take on China. Your viewpoint. Your reflections. What a boring place it'd be if everyone thought the same thing.

By the way, you said,

"Cycling? oh my .. oh dear .. if you are paranoid enough to believe that some crazy guy in a car, taxi, bus, cement mixer will drive erratically enough to whack you while cycling on any road .. then well.. you might be correct "

It's interesting that in a survey done in Australia, one of the main reasons people there didn't regularly ride pushbikes was the fear of being hit by a car. Yet I submit that the traffic in China is so much more congested and reckless than in Australia.

I thus feel you must be a very brave man Jim, to ride as you told us, up to 110km per day. It's something I wouldn't do. Although having said that, if I had a cycling buddy as keen as you who'd ride behind me acting as a type of wing-man, ready to take the fall when some crazy from behind ran up our rear, then maybe I would. Exercise is highly important, I jog for at least 5 kms most mornings around the local running track. Or walk for at least 10 kms.

I've seen colour photos of a cyclist run over by a truck. It wasn't a pretty sight. Downright revolting, in fact. Hence my surprise at your tales of riding in China at night time and so forth, when the danger levels must be high. I know that like me, you must've seen many times at first hand, how low skilled, impatient and/or inexperienced some of the Chinese drivers are. I don't think I'm paranoid by wishing to stay well clear of these types, were I on a bicycle.

Anyway, a good read, Jim. Thanks mate! (y)

#2016-03-22 09:21:36 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Hi Jim

Firstly, I also want to apologise for the fact your first blog became somewhat ‘hijacked’.

With this blog though, I found myself laughing out loud a couple of times.
There’s heaps of ESL web-sites out there where laowai’s have the opportunity to whinge and gripe about all the things they hate about China. One thing they have in common is that it’s the same whinging and moaning.
If they don’t like China, then why live and work here?
Many years ago I saw an influx of migrants into the UK. Over the years, the government pandered to their every whim simply because they felt the UK was not the same as their home country.....really?????
There are lots of Chinese people living in China, who would love to have the chance to live in another country - yet they don’t have that chance
I am lucky insofar as I have both UK and Australian citizenship, so there’s not many places in the world I cannot at least visit
I am sure that within a month or two of living in ANY country, I could find things to complain about - but what’s the point?
Accept it for what it is and get on with life - either that or leave!
But pointing out this simple fact to these ‘brain-dead-China-haters’ has become a total waste of time and effort because as soon as anyone says something positive about China, they are branded a ‘wumao’. Many of these sites are now just a ‘bitching playground’ for morons who moan that they can’t find a girlfriend or want to complain about the air-quality in Beijing.

Sure, China isn’t perfect and there’s lots that you can find to complain about, that’s also true for your home country, and every other country on the planet.

Fortunately, we don’t all have the same opinions. John said that he doesn’t like GZ and I also found it to be my LEAST favourite city in China - no reason, I just don’t like it so I choose not to live there - simple!

#2016-03-24 09:20:23 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

Yeah, I agree.......someone who doesn't bitch, write about controversial issues nor prosaic fluffiness - I'm sure Jim is a breath-of-fresh-air

#2016-04-11 21:59:59 by Barry1 @Barry1


"Finally, someone who doesn't bitch"

If reading articles with criticisms annoys you, why do you bother reading them?

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