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Merry Christmas -- Greetings from southern hemisphere    

By Meg
3881 Views | 9 Comments | 12/25/2013 3:08:35 AM

Must be Happy
              --- Greetings from southern hemisphere

 

Time flies. Many things are just like happened yesterday, next chapter of life has begun before you haven’t got  time to remind.


I got immigrate visa in April, landed in Australia in July; it seems that everything goes well with plans, and it also seems everything is completely exceeding my expectations. Life is just like a kaleidoscope, I see the scenes, not only the transmutation sweet circle, polygonal evolution, but also more charming fireworks.

 

For him, I would like to be far-off skyline

 

Leaving the family whom I have been living with for decades, saying goodbye to the freemasonry of friends, giving up the career I have been working hard, it’s not easy, but I did, without any hesitation.

 

Landed on KINGSFORD SMITH AIRPORT, my love was waiting for me there. We drove home together – it’s a completely new home for me. The scenes along the way attracted me, just like the TV play The Thorn Birds which I watched during high school, but more green grassland with fat and strong cows and horses, not harsh desert, I feel like this land without any special reason.

 

Study --- from ABC

 

The first week:

Rest, met family, relatives and some friends.

 

The second week:

Applied different kinds of certificates and cards, asked teachers to help to get my Chinese driving license and Certificates translate, chose study course in TAFE, and made friends from all over the world, invited friends to learn taiji with me.

 

The second month:

Learn Traffic Hand Book, practised driving. Here without a car, just like without feet when you go out.

 

The third month:

The first two months study was quite difficult for me, all courses are English versions, advanced workbooks and computer technology, with local economic politics and laws, and so on, from ABC, I would ask any question at home and then asked the teachers again in school. After two months, I tried to translate the workbooks, understood any word and sentences, finally, I found the feelings.

 

The fourth month:

I finished Business Administration Certificate III, and passed all subjects tests and assessments.

 

The fifth month:
I enrolled to study NSW Real Estate Certificate of Registration Program, plan to finish in three months. With TAFE teaches recommended, I got a chance to attend the English Teaching Training in TAFE, then now teaching English is my first casual job, and as a volunteer English teacher, I will help TAFE teachers with teaching new immigrants or refugees basic speaking English skills. At this time now, I also try to look for a new job, hope I can find a new job when I get back from Chinese Spring Festival.

 

Except study, I am interested in the social community organizations, too. I joined Multi-culture Ladies, learn the local customs, take part in different kinds of activities, visit age-care, visit immigrate friends, or refugees. It’s interesting.

 

In TAFE, friends and teachers asked me not to study so hard, learn to enjoy the beautiful environment and life, just relax. I smiled and thought that my reason is so simple, without studying, my life will be like the lack of blood circulation; I cannot make my life stop moving and renewing.

 

Love --- need to be cared carefully

 

From earliest meeting, knowing, understand each other till accept each other, I think, most couples would be rational. But, life is not dreams, not romantic themes, sometimes the “beauty” which distance makes is just like the sudden flash lighting, or it will disappear like the soap bubbles. After all, life is reality; we must stand on the firm land.

 

When you land on a new world, what do you need?

 

The Hierachy of needs theory of psychologist Maslow may not fit to you now, and maybe your first need is no longer the “love” you have longed for, perhaps, all demands order will be completely disrupted.

 

PS:  The Hierachy of needs theory of psychologist Maslow
1. Physiological needs: Basic needs required for life, including needs for food, water, air, rest and shelter 
2. Safety/security needs: Need for safety from injury, illness or danger; a state of security, harmony and predictability 
3. Acceptance/love/needs: Need to belong, to be accepted by others. Belonging needs: (individuals and groups). Need for warm human relationships, to give and receive care and affection 
4. Esteem needs: Need for self-respect, to have feelings of personal worth, adequacy and competency. Need for approval from others 
5. Self-actualisation: The desire for personal growth and self-fulfilment. The need to strive to reach our full potential.  


Try to imagine, two persons from different culture backgrounds, different family backgrounds, own different life values, how do you communicate? How do you coordinate? And how do you understand each other and accept each other with your hearts?  As a spectator, you cannot understand it unless you really join it.  Of course, every person will have his or her personal wanting.

 

There is a friend immigrating to Australia last month, her English is quite poor. She calls her husband, LAO GONG, and her husband doesn’t know much Mandarin either, but he knows LAO GONG means husband. For his wife and her family, he tries his best to help, though he is not rich, his car is old without air conditioner, and the temperature here will be about 40dgrees in summer. I met them twice, seeing he answered his wife with happy smiley face and eyes, I felt, the couples share their life with their hearts. They are lucky and happy.

 

Another strange friend has different “fate”, I met her once only in TAFE, I ever planned to make her in the study groups. But it’s pity, I has never seen her again since July. Her friends said her situation was quite complex and she takes drugs with her partner, sometimes, she’s not in safety; and her friends also said she never cared the prices when she went shopping, spent too much money. Her situation makes us worried.

 

“以人为镜,可以明得失”,《旧唐书•魏徵传》。 = yi ren wei jing, key i ming de shi, in English it means to take a person as a mirror, you can know what you will gain or loss. This is an old saying from Tang Dynasty. I like to tell my love about the lively stories which I hear or I see, though he knows much more than me, he would like to share his thoughts. He is happy to see me going out to study and make friends, he takes me to his big family get together, his old schoolmates reunion, and his company Christmas party; and he supports my study and work. I told him, "my friends envy me, they said you would like to cook porridge with fish, corns for me, it is not easy; and for helping me to look for my car “black rose”, you ran to Sydney with me while you are busy with your job; etc, etc."  And he always said he was very happy to do anything for me and for all family.

 

However, his last words make me feel lucky and feel worried as well. My mum is a typical example. She didn’t realize she was wrong till she got serious ill. She said she should take more care of her health and life quality since long time ago; she shouldn’t work so hard, she should make certain space for her kids to grow up independently. I do hope my love can learn from it.

 

Life is really like a kaleidoscope, every image is so vivid and wonderful. However, the image really belonged to you is only one. More interesting is, once the image disappears, it will take several centuries to make the same combination, so, every moment is worth appreciation, every second is worth to cherish!

 

Merry Christmas to you all, my dear friends!  And have a great new year!

 

一定要幸福
            --- 来自南半球的问候

 

时间飞逝,很多的事情就好像发生在昨天,还没来得及回味,生活的下一篇章又必须得继续。


从今年四月份拿到移民签证,七月登陆澳洲,一切似乎就在计划中,一切又好像完全出乎意料。生活,就像一个万花筒,让我看到的景象,不光有圆的甜美、多边形的嬗变,更有烟花般的魅力四射。


选定了他 --- 我愿意远走天涯


离开几十年一起生活的亲人,跟惺惺相惜的好朋友说再见,放弃曾经精心经营的事业,真的不容易。但是, 我做了,而且,毫不犹豫。


降落在悉尼机场,我的爱人早已在那里等候。我们一起驾车回家 -- -对我来说,那是一个完全陌生的家。一路的风景吸引着我,中学时期看过电视剧《荆棘鸟》,印象中的风景似乎还能隐约可见,只是更多的是绿色原野和肥壮的牛马,而不是荒漠。莫名的,我感觉这是我喜欢的土地。


学习 --- 从零开始


登陆第一周:
休息,认识家人和朋友。


登陆第二周:
办理各种手续和证件,寻找老师帮助翻译中国的驾照和资格证书等,选择学习的专业并且开始学习,同时认识并结交来自世界各地的朋友,诚邀朋友一起学习太极。


登陆第二个月:
学习交规,练习开车。在这里,出门没有车就像没有脚。


登陆第三个月:
开始的两个月不容易,全英文的课程,先进的教材和电脑技术,当地详细的经济政策法律等等,从零开始,每一个问题我都要在家问了家人,到学校又问老师。经过两个多月的磨练,把课本翻译,理解,终于找到感觉。


登陆第四个月:
完成商业行政管理三级证书的学习,顺利通过所有的考试评估。


登陆第五个月:
注册学习新州房地产证书,计划三个月内完成。经老师推荐,参加免费的英语教师培训,开始第一份临时的工作,还是我的老本行,英语教师。同时,作为一名志愿者教师,我还准备和TAFE 的老师辅助一些新移民和难民,帮助他们学习掌握基本的英语口语交际能力。也是在此时,我开始搜索工作,发简历,希望在春节回来能找到一份新的工作。


除了学习,当地的一些社团组织也吸引着我,我参加了一个叫做“多元文化女士”社团,学习本地的习俗,开展丰富多彩的活动,跟社友去看望老人院,拜访移民朋友,一些难民组织等等,感觉很有意义。


在TAFE, 朋友,老师都说,“那么美的环境,鸟语花香,你怎么不多多休闲享受呢?”我的理解很简单,没有学习,我的生命就像缺少了血液循环,我不能让生命停止运动和更新。


爱 --- 需要精心的呵护


从最初的相遇、相识、逐渐相知,到相互接受,我想很多伴侣还是比较理性的。不过,生活不是梦幻,不是风花雪月,有时,距离所产生的“美”只是瞬间,有的甚至恰如肥皂泡。毕竟,生活是现实的,必须脚踏实地。

 

当你真正空降到一个全新的世界,你的需要是什么?

 

心理学家马斯洛设计的需求层次理论可能对你不太适用了,也许,此时,你的第一需要不再是“爱情”,也许,所有的需求顺序会完全被打乱。


附注:马斯洛设计的需求层次理论
1. Physiological needs:生理需求:基本需求的生活所需,包括需要食物,水,空气,休息和庇护
2. Safety/security needs: 安全需求:安全需要从损伤,疾病或危险;国家安全,和谐和可预见性
3. Acceptance/love/needs: 接受/爱/需要:归属需要,被别人接受的。归属需求:(个人和团体)。温暖的人际关系的需要,给予和接受关怀和爱
4. Esteem needs:  尊重的需要:需要自尊,有个人价值的感觉,充足的能力。对他人的需要
5. Self-actualisation: 自我实现:人们对个人成长和自我实现的。要努力达到我们的全部潜力。

 

设想一下,两个来自不同文化背景、不同家庭背景、拥有不同人生价值观的人,如何沟通、如何协调、如何相互理解?只有真正“入行”了,你才能体会,旁观者真的很难理解。当然,还得看你个人的需求。


有一位朋友上个月刚移民到澳洲,她的英文水平非常有限,她称呼自己的老公都是用中文“LAOGONG”,  她的老公也不懂多少中文,但是,明白 “lao gong” 就是丈夫。对妻子和她的家人,他倾馕相助,虽然他的生活没有那么富裕,他开的车是老旧的,没有空调,这里夏天有40度高温。从两次的见面和交流,看着他笑眯眯地应和妻子的招呼,我感觉,这是一对相依为命的夫妇,他们是幸福的。


另一位陌生朋友,我在TAFE见过她一面,我还曾经计划把她编入我的学习小组。可惜,很遗憾,自从七月份到现在我都没有再见到她。她的朋友说,她的情况很复杂,跟男友吸毒,有时甚至安全没有保障;同时,她的朋友也说,她购物从来不问价格,花钱大手大脚。她的遭遇真的让人揪心。


 “以人为镜,可以明得失” 《旧唐书•魏徵传》。我喜欢把自己听到的看到的活生生的故事告诉我的爱人,虽然他比我知道的更多,他也愿意和我分享心得。他很高兴我能独自出门去学习和参加各种活动,结交朋友,他带我参加他的大家庭聚会、老同学聚会、公司的圣诞聚会等等,而且支持我的学习和工作。我跟他说,我的朋友都羡慕我,说你为我煮鱼片粥、玉米粥,很难得;为了帮我找到我喜欢的车“黑玫瑰”,不顾工作繁忙,陪我跑到悉尼选车,等等等等。他总是说,他很乐意为我为家人做一切。


然而,也就是他的最后一句话,让我感觉幸运,同时,也让我心存担忧。我拿我的母亲做例子,她老人家辛苦一辈子,直到病倒了才醒悟,她很久以前就应该关注自己的健康和生活质量,不应该过渡操劳,给孩子一定的空间让他们独立成人。希望他能有所醒悟。


生活,真的就像一个万花筒,每一个影像都那么的生动美妙,然而,真正属于你的图案也许只有一个。更有意思的是,一旦某个图案消失了,要转动几个世纪才能出现同样的组合,因此,每一瞬间都值得欣赏,每一秒都值得珍惜!


最后,祝朋友们圣诞快乐!新年如意!

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#2013-12-25 03:17:50 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

What a great surprise it was to receive this Christmas update from Meg. For those of you who are new to CLM and ALM, Meg was one of our original bloggers, one of our favorite Success Stories, and one of the very nicest Chinese ladies to adorn our website. She was a great member, and is well deserving of the happiness she has found. On behalf of all members, Meg, please accept our thanks for this wonderful Christmas gift, and our happiness for you that things are going so well.

BTW - we are still awaiting your Success Story to post on the website. I know you wrote a lovely blog about it, but we need a complete Success Story for the SS section, in which you and Ross both give us a brief description of your meeting on the site, meeting in person, your marriage day and your future plans. Please write your part in Chinese. We hope you'll send it because nobody deserves more than you two to be on that wall of honor, and likely nobody had more people cheering for them to find such wonderful success.

#2013-12-25 11:31:37 by Barry1 @Barry1

@meg

Sometimes one intuitively knows when a marriage is to succeed. It's hard to pin down exactly how or why this happens, yet happen it does.

This is how I feel with Meg and her husband.

One reason for this is Meg's hard work and determination. Her general gritty attitude to life. Take a look at the following,

"Leaving the family whom I have been living with for decades, saying goodbye to the freemasonry of friends, giving up the career I have been working hard, it’s not easy, but I did, without any hesitation."

"I finished Business Administration Certificate III, and passed all subjects tests and assessments.......... enrolled to study NSW Real Estate Certificate of Registration Program, plan to finish in three months....... got a chance to attend the English Teaching Training in TAFE, then now teaching English is my first casual job, and as a volunteer English teacher, I will help TAFE teachers with teaching new immigrants or refugees basic speaking English skills......... I am interested in the social community organizations, too. I joined Multi-culture Ladies, learn the local customs, take part in different kinds of activities, visit age-care, visit immigrate friends, or refugees..............without studying, my life will be like the lack of blood circulation; I cannot make my life stop moving and renewing."

Phew! What a marvellous example of how to succeed in a new country Meg graphically illustrates for us. She has determinedly mastered a new language, a new environment, a completely new way of life.

On top of this, she helps teach English to new immigrants; is involved in local community organisations; and continues to diligently study in order to further her career prospects.

Interspersed with all the above is an inherent wisdom and understanding of how things work in the real world.

"life is not dreams, not romantic themes, sometimes the “beauty” which distance makes is just like the sudden flash lighting, or it will disappear like the soap bubbles. After all, life is reality; we must stand on the firm land..........Life is really like a kaleidoscope, every image is so vivid and wonderful......... every moment is worth appreciation, every second is worth to cherish!"

Well spoken, Meg!

I take my hat off to you and feel that I don't really need to wish you success and happiness in life, as I believe that with your great attitude, intelligence and diligence - you'll create your own luck, your own good fortune, ensuring a wonderful future life ahead is a certainty, not needing to rely on luck at all.

So instead of saying good luck to you, Meg, may I merely say

"Shalom".

To those who are unaware, this is a Hebrew word that can be used as both a greeting or a goodbye, and means peace, completeness and prosperity to you.

Shalom to you, Meg.

#2013-12-25 13:46:03 by destiny1 @destiny1

wow,还能见到你的文章真好!世界上还有什么比这更幸福。祝你在澳洲圣诞节快乐!

#2013-12-27 19:57:33 by Marrisa @Marrisa

很喜欢你说的“生活,真的就像一个万花筒,每一个影像都那么的生动美妙,然而,真正属于你的图案也许只有一个。更有意思的是,一旦某个图案消失了,要转动几个世纪才能出现同样的组合,因此,每一瞬间都值得欣赏,每一秒都值得珍惜!”

#2013-12-28 09:19:35 by meg @meg

@JohnAbbot
We both read your words here, John. We thank you very much again for your warm-hearted help.


@Barry 1
Thank you for your reading, understanding, and wishes, Barry.

Australia is a country of immigrant, my husband's ancestors are from England, my teacher in Singleton TAFE (the lady on my left with a red necklace) immigrated to Australia with her family from England when she was very young. Every person or every family has their own special stories here.

As a new immigrat, I am just like a pupil. I need to learn,or I will be always a marginal person here. I have made some Asian friends here, most of them work too hard to study English. Two young Chinese men (about 20s-30s) have been in Sydney with their wives and kids for more than 3years, except "Hello, Thank you,..." , they can not speak any more English, they even can not spell their own names in English. Now they work far away from their family, after work, they walk around the town or have a drink in cafe, they said that they always feel strange here. My home is near TAFE and near their workplace is near my home,too, so we will have a chance to study together next year.

Every step is not easy exactly. But at least, we have enough courage.

Hope you have a really lucky new year, Barry.


@destiny 1

谢谢你的祝福!

澳洲的圣诞不是白色的,因为这里是是初夏,然而,人们的热情一点都不减,节日的气氛很浓。人们从12月初或中开始,几乎所有的单位、公司都提前2-3周庆祝圣诞。很多人家也开始开parties 庆祝节日,因为,有的家人远在他乡,不容易在同一天内相聚,所以,提前庆祝,这跟我们中国人过春节有点不同,我们几乎没有提前过春节的:)

在这里,我也祝福你早日收获爱情!


@Marrisa
You have a nice English name. :)
Thank you for your reading and understanding.
Best Wishes to you.

#2013-12-28 13:22:34 by SunnyME @SunnyME

Hi Meg, thank you for your warm greetings. It's nice to know that everything of yours is smooth when you are in a total strange territory. Hope you enjoy yourself, and for ever.
Happy New Year!

#2013-12-29 17:38:01 by meg @meg

@SunnyME

Thank you, Sunny..
Hope you have a great new year,too!

#2013-12-30 00:20:44 by Imi5922 @Imi5922

@meg

I am quite knew to this site and I haven't known you before, but after reading almost all of your blogs that you posted I have to say that you are a very beautiful soul and an exceptional writer.

I am glad for your happiness and Happy New Year down under!

#2013-12-31 09:27:07 by meg @meg

@lmi5922

Thank you.

Thanks to John, he gave me such a good platform to show my thoughts in life. And I am happy to feel the friends here are very kind and helpful.It's fantastic experience.

With a sincere heart, you will find what you have been longing for.
Best Wishes to you, lmi :)

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