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Marriage is the tomb of love? 婚姻是爱情的坟墓吗?    

By Xin73
13725 Views | 37 Comments | 11/17/2012 2:01:30 PM

Marriage and love is the human society the unique part of human nature.The marriage is the material in the form of the relations between the sexes, love is the spirit in the form of the relations between the sexes.

Love is the end? Marriage? Or marriage is the spread of the beginning of another love?Everyone for love "the next stage" concept is different,Some people say that "marriage is the tomb of love”, Marriage means that the cooling of passion and love disappear, this is actually dilute the responsibilities of marriage, misunderstand the true meaning of marriage. maybe a marriage gives us too much responsibility, or burden, such as family expenses, family things, each other's career, the other side of the relatives and friends, including children's life. owever,Implying for that kind of premarital have done would not exist in responsibility?But also as a person, an emotional person, how can you not learn to bear their own responsibility? Marriage is really so terrible? Responsibility is really that difficult to undertake?

Marriage reason why not a love that bright and romantic color,can only say that both parties don't know how to operate the love, believe that when two people decide to get married before, for sure be each other there feeling,just after marriage love becomes dull. Men and women are put down romantic love, input in real life. This is not love disappear , and to love the ignore.

In the life a lot of people don't know what marriage is,do not know what love really is. Why the original beautiful love,go to the marriage sacred hall,then become extremely so monotony? This existence what problem? Each person's marriage may not such as stagnant water as are calm, there must be many bumps, noisy,there is suffering, frustration, depressed, disappointed, frustrated , there is misunderstanding, a lot of regret and trouble intertexture. A lot of people addicted to suffering can't self control whenas choose to give up the marriage. I think, in marriage life,each a grief and disappointment is welcoming another new hope. Those not one's day in the marriage is just a small sideshow. Blaming others worried days;complain about the unfair fate;to have bad luck; love's gone,All just don't know the marriage of this knowledge the excuse.

When the romantic themes of romantic love attributed to wateriness,we need to adapt to after marriage the wateriness life of daily necessities. We have to take assume for marriage due responsibility. Love is not always to produce responsibility,but responsibility can in marriage care for love. Marriage in real life, there is always a low ebb when,reality of life in a variety of disappointments followed, at that time if choose to give up, that is for the marriage don't respect and irresponsible!

I think, the goal of marriage is not short of happiness, and should be long-term happiness. Have the responsibility but the lack of love marriage may not be perfect,but it is a complete and true;and there is love but not the responsibility of marriage, it will be short-lived, bound to be empty. Marriage have the sense of responsibility and mission, the marriage life to become happiness, harmonious and cheerful, can really realize the meaning of marriage. Marriage is the responsibility of each other because concluded,be able to maintain long-term,will be able to truly realize fall in love outlast even the heaven and the earth promise,Will be able to be loyal to a family commitment.

Marriage is the tomb of love? I think not! Marriage is love one of the most important coordinates, love because of romance and aestheticism,because marriage and sublimation,the romantic is admittedly the pursuit of love,stable wateriness is the love of end-result. Marriage is love in the process of the consummation and inevitable,rather than the tomb!This is my after the marriage ended in deeply sorrow lament .

Postscript:Can not retain the time to pick up the pace of the passage. Keep to the heartless years helpless sigh. The passage of the past memories,what was leave over is that are not afraid of the naive. Are we lost to time or years to fulfill our change qualitatively? Unload up infuriation words and by secular edification after the soul, whether I just the residual of the dreariness and ironic bones?










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#2012-11-17 19:57:39 by anonymous4749 @anonymous4749


#2012-11-18 02:52:07 by Puddyboy60 @Puddyboy60

Thank you, Xin73, for your insightful thoughts on marriage. I agree with what you are saying. When a man and woman love each other so much that they tell each other "I promise to love you, and only you, for the rest of my life" that is one of the most beautiful things in this world. Then, it is the responsibility of both people to maintain the excitement and desire they shared at the start. That is the way to prevent the marriage from becoming stale or monotonous. It can be as simple as surprising her with flowers or a gift for no special reason or occasion. It is simply a way to remind her that you love her and always will. If she is out for the afternoon, make the dinner for her even if you are a lousy cook. Then, when she comes home thinking she will have to make dinner and finds you have done it, she can relax. You have given her the gift of "down time" and you have found another way to say "Darling, I love you, and I always will." Do I sound like I am speaking from experience ? Yes, it is true. The end of my marriage was partially brought about by complacency. We got bored and drifted apart. If I am ever lucky enough to find another woman who I love enough to marry, she will know, every day, that she is the center of my universe and everything else is secondary (not the other way around, like the former marriage ended). Hindsight is 20/20, isn`t it ?

#2012-11-18 09:55:56 by anonymous4753 @anonymous4753


#2012-11-18 13:52:27 by anonymous4755 @anonymous4755

婚姻不一定就是爱情的坟墓 但,婚姻的开始决对是爱情的结束

#2012-11-18 20:58:36 by sandy339 @sandy339

Hi xin
Nice to know you here.

This issue really troubled me for quite a long time, but one day I realized it is not my personal problem: a lot of men and women have such kinds of problem, which is a big social problem, now I am reading Liyinghe " the history of marriage" I am quite shocked it is really a social problem (the controdition about love and marriage exits long before) if you are interested, you could refer to the book .
In a word, my opinion on marriage is we should make it a labor of love rather then of labor of labor....

Thanks for sharing your opinions here:-)

#2012-11-18 21:43:49 by Johnny @Johnny

Dear, i agree with most of your wrttings but !.... many ladies are LONELY ! ONLY because they are afraid and run away from real love ! including you ! (with all my respect to you) xie xie

#2012-11-18 22:51:57 by sisi0923 @sisi0923


#2012-11-19 00:59:30 by anonymous4761 @anonymous4761


#2012-11-19 02:59:14 by tage @tage

Nowadays if they looking for love , have a dreams about all benefits from to be together as money , sex , security ,support , social position or relocation as a base of life . There are strivings to find a contract for good times . Marriage , it`s a contract for good and bad times .

#2012-11-19 12:02:50 by xin73 @xin73

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