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Love In The Right Place Part 2    

By Paul Fox
1030 Views | 3 Comments | 1/11/2019 12:59:01 PM

Love, being one of the secrets of the universe, should be thought of in terms of energy, frequency and vibration. Was Tesla onto something?

Part 1 of this blog was published early. By that I mean I hadn't finished writing it at the time John published it. Therefore it's become a 'two-parter'. At the end of part 1 I said that the answer to finding love in the 'right place' is a matter of 'frequency'. So, I guess I should start part 2 by clarifying what I mean by that.

Nikola Tesla was arguably the finest 'genius' of our time, yet we're never taught about him in school. He 'invented' free electricity for every person on Earth, yet his findings were destroyed/confiscated, and he died in a hotel room.

When Albert Einstein was asked 'How does it feel to be known as a genius?', he allegedly replied, 'Ask Nikola Tesla'.

Whatever your beliefs, it's quite easy to research Tesla and his work. Tesla stated that if we want to understand the secrets of the universe, think in terms of frequency, and it's that frequency that's so important to us as human beings - especially if we want to find that 'perfect relationship'.

In a previous blog I said that the true meaning of 'love' is when each partner puts the wants, needs, and desires of the other, above their own. My parents have been doing that for 65 years, my best friend, and his wife, have been doing that for 35 years. In fact, there are dozens of examples I could cite that demonstrate this to be true. So what's their 'secret'? Again I say, Frequency!

How many times have you heard someone say, 'We're on the same wavelength'? In reality, they probably mean that they are thinking alike, and agree on a certain topic. That said, let's look at the blindingly obvious.

If you're driving in your car listening to 92.9 on the radio, and you don't like a certain song that's playing, maybe you retune to 94.5. Does that mean that 92.9 has 'gone away'? Of course not. 92.9 is still playing, but you're not 'tunedin' to it, so you can't hear it.

Same with TV. When you switch channels, the other channels don't stop broadcasting, it's just that YOU are tuned-in to another channel.

So why is it so crazy to believe we don't do this with other people in our lives? How awesome would life be if we could simply choose to 'tunein' to another person's frequency? The truth is, we can! We just have to learn HOW! 

...and therein lies the challenge!

For the most part, we tend to choose a partner who has similar interests to our own. That's the easy part, but what if our partner's opinions on those mutually-agreeable topics seem to differ? (Well, there's a wonderful topic for a sensible debate between the 2 of you).

The problem is that we tend to judge people on their outer appearance. We become attracted to a potential mate depending on how good they look. I'll be the first one to admit that I've done this. In fact I can state, quite honestly, that the most 'beautiful' people I've met in my life have not been outwardly attractive at all. Conversely, some of the most beautiful looking women I've met have turned out to be horrible. So, where does that leave us?

Sure, there has to be SOME physical attraction, but I've learned that beauty is only 'skin-deep'.

Look around you. How many of your friends are happily married to a person that 

you don't find the least bit attractive? They may not be attractive in your eyes, yet your friend certainly has a 'connection' to that person that perhaps you don't understand, otherwise they wouldn't be together, right?

There's a couple of 1st-Century Greek scriptures that say, 'Ask and you shall receive', and 'Knock, and the door shall be opened'. I've come to learn that both these statements are true. They are both talking about 'frequency'.

Let me try to approach this from another perspective, using examples. Mrs Smith is a manic depressive. She spends her whole life moaning and groaning

about anything and everything. In doing so, she's sending out 'negative energy'. In return, she's receiving 'negative energy' that makes her even more depressed. It's a never-ending cycle that she can't break free from.

Mr Brown is 'happy-go-lucky'. He's always there with a smile on his face and 

everything seems to 'go his way', no matter what. No matter how sad he feels, he refuses to allow life to get the better of him, and he always comes up 'smelling of roses'.

In short, what we 'give out', (by way of frequency), is what we get back. I have a friend who created a 'vision-board' when she was 15 years old. On that board she put a picture of everything she wanted to achieve by the time she was 25. There were 12 different things. By the time she was 24, she had achieved ALL of them! She hadn't 'worked' to achieve them, she was just 'sending out' positive energy / frequency, and they all just 'fell in her lap'.

There's a great book you can read called 'The Law of Attraction' that explains all this in detail. I read it up to the point where it talked about how to attract wealth, and that's where I stopped, but the basics are there and it's easy to understand.

It's all about FREQUENCY - just as Nikola Tesla said it is. If you're happy, you create happiness. If you're miserable, you create misery.

On a final note, please consider this - You're lying in bed at night and it's pitch black. There's a fly in your room. How do you know it's a fly? Maybe there's a mosquito or a bee in your room. Just from listening, you can tell the difference between a fly, a bee, or a mosquito. How?

Because all of those insects don't use air in which to fly, they use FREQUENCIES! Therefore, however you do it is up to you, but remember, if you want to find 'love' in the 'right place', listen to the words of Tesla. Look in terms of 'frequency', and try to make a 'connection' on a whole new level. 

Believe me, it works!

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#2019-01-11 13:49:55 by anonymous18942 @anonymous18942

Change is the only constant in life. "Tuning" into the changing frequency of our partner requires constant work and change. The idea that there is a single frequency for us to lock onto with our life partner is a myth. Real life long relationships require lifelong work and change. Fortunately, our endless work and full embrace of change offer us the reward of endless love and joy.

#2019-01-16 15:00:42 by anonymous18945 @anonymous18945

Paul is describing unconditonal, unselfish, perfect love, God's love or agape that is explained in greater detail in I Corinthians 13. Cambridge professor CS Lewis' seminal book, "The Four Loves" looks at the four Greek words for love: eros, phileo, storge and agape. I highly recommend reading it. Used copies in good condition are available at

#2019-01-18 06:53:52 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Exactly right. I wrote a blog about 3 of these types of love. WarmLife then wrote another blog on the same subject which, sadly, was a poor attempt to take the p*ss out of my blog.

Having said that, on a more positive note, Warm Life's derision only demonstrated people's ignorance of the subject; an ignorance that cannot be overcome unless it is acknowledged first.

There's a series of books that I also highly recommend reading. They are free to download, (or read online), and can be found by simply typing 'The Divine Secret Garden' into your search bar.

Thanks again for your comment.

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