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Melcyan is a Water Dragon. He is also a retired Chemistry teacher and a lifelong learner. He met his Chinese partner for the first time in 2007 while ballroom dancing in Australia. Their relationship started in 2010 and they have been together ever since. His focus on CLM has been to learn more about the implications of his life-partner's culture and language for building a lifelong loving relationship.
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By Melcyan
5919 Views | 56 Comments | 4/28/2019 1:35:07 AM
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#2019-06-02 13:28:22 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@PaulFox1 - in your mind the blogs on Conspiracy Corner are all factual, but in the minds of most people they are wildly implausible. Anyway, we should take pride in being Conspiracy Theorists, not shy away from it.  

@Barry1 - I think you need to consider the source. If RoughDiamond takes the time to admonish you in his uniquely harsh and insulting way it is a sure sign that he deeply cares for you and wishes to help you cure some minor flaw in your character. I sincerely doubt there is a single reader of the blogs that has not experienced one of RoughDiamond's soul piercing arrows at some time, but most of us are the better for it. I have certainly not escaped RoughDiamond's ire, and I didn't refuse to publish his public humiliation of me.

Where should I start?

Where should I draw the line? 

#2019-06-03 18:35:37 by melcyan @melcyan

 If I posted this blog 3 years ago I am certain that there would have been several female CLM member comments by now. I wonder, is this the price we have to pay when CC comments are allowed to infect blogs and forum threads outside of Conspiracy Corner?

#2019-06-28 20:46:28 by anonymous20564 @anonymous20564

melcyan you saw you don't want to rush getting married to your partner. Make an honest woman of her and get married. My former teammate and good friend from Shanghai days has a room in her home that she calls her China room. We I visited she and her husband, I stayed in that room. It has many artifacts collected from her years in the Middle Kingdom. I've given her several gifts for her years of financial support. My own home has a couple of scroll paintings, gifts from universities where I've taught, "Journey to the West" characters, a Ughur painting, Chinese lattern, and a number of books about China in my personal library. I'm sure when I retire with my Chinese wife back to the States she'll add not only the feminine touch, but a Chinese one too.

#2019-06-29 18:42:47 by melcyan @melcyan


"you don't want to rush getting married to your partner" These words are far from true. My partner is a full-time carer for her mother. I will marry my partner any day she wants. If she says tomorrow, it will be tomorrow. My partner has told me that she will not marry me until after her mother dies. I think she also likes the idea of me pursuing her forever. When my partner looks at other relationships, both Western and Chinese, she likes what we have much better. I think she is scared that once we are married our special relationship may become ordinary.

#2019-07-07 16:39:24 by anonymous20574 @anonymous20574

@melcyan But isn't it considered somewhat scandalous for a Chinese woman to be living with a man without the benefit of marriage? I know you both live in Australia, so the morality has so deteriated (legal approval of gay marriage) that probably most Aussies don't care. But don't her friends and family look down on her and gossip about it? Especially her generation. The current one has adopted the lax morals of the West and don't see it as wrong. Postmodernism and moral relativism in which there's on objective foundation for morality and ethics outside the human experience for all cultures for all times.

#2019-07-08 17:24:41 by melcyan @melcyan



There is definitely no scandal. I am confident that the many Chinese women in China who are friends of my partner can see more than you. My partner’s only pressure to marry is from me and it is only gentle pressure. There is definitely no pressure to marry from her Chinese family and her Chinese friends. They only wish her the very best in life. My partner has an excellent reputation in both Australia and China. She is widely considered an elegant, dignified, classy and wise lady. I don't know any women who are more respected than she is.


My partner’s friends and relatives do not point the finger at her, not for one second. In fact, all of them are envious. Envious that her spirit is so compassionate and strong. Envious that her partner will do anything for her, any time, forever (including marriage). Envious that her partner allows her to be who she wants to be and lets her make her own choices. All of her female friends, both married and single, have said that they want what she has.


Her friends are all over sixty years old and most of them live in China. They all want to be respected and loved by their partner. They all want their voices to be heard and their true feelings to be acknowledged. It is nothing to do with being infected by lax western morals. My partner and all of her Chinese female friends want to be truly valued, respected and loved inside a genuine relationship (with or without a “moral” piece of paper).

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