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Melcyan is a Water Dragon. He is also a retired Chemistry teacher and a lifelong learner. He met his Chinese partner for the first time in 2007 while ballroom dancing in Australia. Their relationship started in 2010 and they have been together ever since. His focus on CLM has been to learn more about the implications of his life-partner's culture and language for building a lifelong loving relationship.
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By Melcyan
5918 Views | 56 Comments | 4/28/2019 1:35:07 AM
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#2019-05-21 13:43:11 by Barry1 @Barry1


"You cannot argue with stupid people"

I agree but in this case, the people aren't stupid.  They're simply ignorant....   there is a difference.  Please be patient with them, as not so long ago, both of us were just like them, happily sitting in a boat of ignorance flowing with a current of naivety upon an ocean of deception and lurking malevolence.        :^)

#2019-05-23 14:55:05 by melcyan @melcyan

My blog “Little China” is really about filial piety. I didn’t know that when I started writing it but looking back it is obvious to me now.


Everything about my partner’s house, “Little China”, is connected to mama. Why it was bought. How it was paid for. How it functions. All these things revolve around mama. “Little China” is all about mama.


When I first met my partner I knew nothing about filial piety, guanxi, face, yuanfen or Chinese superstition. Filial piety is by far the most important concept needed to understand my partner. Writing this blog helped consolidate my understanding of that fact. I am grateful for this awareness.

#2019-05-23 17:53:52 by roughdiamond @roughdiamond


you realy are a flacid left wing peter with a snowflake mentality

#2019-05-24 13:58:47 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

Yes I am way overdue for posting Paul's blog and moving the relevant comments. There are a couple of reasons for that but the primary one is that moving the comments is much more difficult than I expected. Normally I would ask our developer to do it because he likely would have a way of doing it without having to login using each commenter's login details in order to post each comment in their current order. But he is dealing with something that is much more urgent than this so I don't want to take him away from his current task.

I will ask him to resolve it as soon as we can spare him for the task. Meanwhile I apologize for the delay. 

#2019-05-31 12:05:14 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@paulfox1 @paulfox1 @roughdiamond @newbeginning @oldghost @Barry1 @all

I owe you all the moving of Paul's new article that is an expansion of a comment that he intended to be entered here but that I felt was more appropriate as a Conspiracy Corner blog. It is still coming but I remain too lazy or short of time or both to move the many comments from here over to there and our developer remains to busy with another matter to yank him over here to move the said comments.

In the meantime Paul has recently posted a new blog that is, remarkably, totally relevant to the purpose of CLM and these blogs to exist, so I am going to post that blog tomorrow for the weekend and hope by Monday our developer will be available to deal with the movement of comments on this blog.

Being Paul, of course while this new blog is totally relevant to long term dating between Chinese women and Western men, I expect that many members will not agree with Paul as to the conclusion he has reached and it should lead to a spirited and valuable discussion that will also be relevant to CLM and ALM. 

#2019-05-31 18:50:46 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Why spend time moving comments? I think most people would understand if you left them where they are. After all, they're not really 'conspiratorial', just 'contrary'

As for your comment, regarding my forthcoming blog, with respect to people not agreeing with me, I agree with you. However, I will address the 'naysayers' in due course.

#2019-06-01 12:32:16 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot


In response to this comment:

"Why spend time moving comments? I think most people would understand if you left them where they are. After all, they're not really 'conspiratorial', just 'contrary'"

I beg to differ. Here is what you wrote in an earlier comment, albeit responding to a comment by @RoughDiamond:

Have you ever heard about the Earth being 'over-populated'?

There are supposed to be 7 (+) billion of us, yet in 1900 there were only 1.5 billion (according to the official figures)

1.5 billion people would equate to around 750 million 'couples'

Therefore, in just over 100 years, no-one has died and we all have 10 kids.

The governments of this world are all corporations - they are businesses. They cannot AFFORD to pay our super/pensions because there are not enough slaves, (sorry, taxpayers) to make the 'books' balance.

We're forced to borrow fake money, (that doesn't exist until someone presses a button on a keyboard), and then forced to pay interest on that fake money. In return, when we retire, the govern-ment sends us fake money (that doesn't exist) from the fake interest payments that workers / taxpayers are forced to pay on the original non-existing loan.

This strikes me as being so far outside the realm of what could remotely considered to ne relevant to Melcyan's blog and to be clearly conspiratorial that it has no place here. I suggest in the future that if you feel compelled to move the conversation so dramatically away from the blog you are on, that you move over to one of your own blogs Conspiracy Corner blogs that is at least close to relevant, and make your comment there.

You can address it to @RoughDiamond or whoever else you are aiming it at and you can open the comment by saying "@UserName - on Malcyan's blog you made such and such comment and it got me to thinking such and such. What do you think?"

This will achieve to things:

1. You'll be getting more eyes on your own blog.

2. You will not be hijacking the conversations taking place on someone else's blog that your comment really does not relate to.

As for moving the comments if the developer has no easy means of moving them then I may seek Melcyan's foregiveness for not moving them.

@Melcyan - I apologize that my original comment above was accidentally addressed twice to Paul and not at all to yourself. That was not intentional. However, since the comment was made on your blog you should have received notice of it anyway so I assume you are aware of the current discussion.

#2019-06-01 13:21:50 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


OK, well may I make a suggestion?

Since all the blogs currently in 'Conspiracy Corner' contain facual information, they are no longer conspiracy THEORIES.

Wny not change the name to 'Contrarianism'?

#2019-06-01 16:53:11 by Barry1 @Barry1



"@Barry1    you realy are a flacid left wing peter with a snowflake mentality"

John, since you mentioned maintaining the integrity and/or relevance of comments upon blogs, can I ask why you approve disingenous, nasty comments such as the above one, written for no postive purpose nor giving any useful  information?


Why would you as moderator not feel the slightest indication to block or withdraw such irrelevant, grubby comments? 

Clearly, they're penned by someone without manners nor respect, their purpose being solely to be smart-arse and vindictive.

All of us have been guilty in the past of acting like a grub, but for most of us, this infantile phase has thankfully passed. I had hoped the tone of CLM also was no longer reflective of a cesspit.

I will be interested to hear your justification or motivation for allowing malicious, irrelevent sentiments like these demonstrably are on your website.

Furthermore, do you think permitting publication of insulting comments such as these directed to a blogger, encourages him to continue blogging?

Once again, I await your explanation. Given that for a long time now, I've done my best to refrain from acting like a bad-mannered bully.


#2019-06-01 18:26:38 by roughdiamond @roughdiamond


Thanks John

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