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Melcyan is a Water Dragon. He is also a retired Chemistry teacher and a lifelong learner. He met his Chinese partner for the first time in 2007 while ballroom dancing in Australia. Their relationship started in 2010 and they have been together ever since. His focus on CLM has been to learn more about the implications of his life-partner's culture and language for building a lifelong loving relationship.
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5915 Views | 56 Comments | 4/28/2019 1:35:07 AM
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#2019-05-01 21:49:51 by melcyan @melcyan



I tried "A la wu dong" with my partner. She says "A la" means "we" not "I".

I think she was saying 我不懂 (ngú ban dong) means " I don't understand".


Maybe "ngú wu dong" also means "I don't understand". Is there is someone reading this who can give us the correct Shanghainese. 


Does anyone know of a resource for learning Shanghainese that only uses English and a modified form of pinyin? (no characters)


My partner also asked me why I was wasting my time on this. Surely I had better things to do. She then asked me to repeat a Shanghainese phrase several times and asked me if I knew what it meant. I had no idea. She said it meant "You fool!"

#2019-05-02 12:14:09 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


I have no doubt your partner is correct. 'A la wu dong' was just something I remember being told, though whether or not the person telling me was a Shanghai ren, I have no idea.

I have heard it said, (and read), that there are around 1600 different dialects in China, all of which are mutually unintelligible.

It's difficult for Aussies to contemplate since Aussies don't generally have a different 'twang' depending on which area they grew up in.

By contrast, we're told that the UK has around 44 different dialects. I can mimic many of them, and understand all of them except two, when spoken at normal 'speed'.

As far as your partner's advice goes, I agree, you'll be wasting your time trying to learn 'Shanghai hua', or any other Chinese 'dialect'.

Stick with Putonghua, my friend.

#2019-05-02 19:02:20 by roughdiamond @roughdiamond

@ melcyan

Ring your Super provider

There is a form you need to fill out so you can nominate how your super is distrubited if you pass

if you dont. Your provider dosenot have to part with any of it

its upto there descretion even if its in your will

Remember its Your Money

the only catch is you need to fill this form out every 3 years


#2019-05-03 20:42:23 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Have you ever heard about the Earth being 'over-populated'?

There are supposed to be 7 (+) billion of us, yet in 1900 there were only 1.5 billion (according to the official figures)

1.5 billion people would equate to around 750 million 'couples'

Therefore, in just over 100 years, no-one has died and we all have 10 kids.

The governments of this world are all corporations - they are businesses. They cannot AFFORD to pay our super/pensions because there are not enough slaves, (sorry, taxpayers) to make the 'books' balance.

We're forced to borrow fake money, (that doesn't exist until someone presses a button on a keyboard), and then forced to pay interest on that fake money. In return, when we retire, the govern-ment sends us fake money (that doesn't exist) from the fake interest payments that workers / taxpayers are forced to pay on the original non-existing loan.

#2019-05-03 22:59:54 by melcyan @melcyan



There are differences in the way Australians speak based on regions but you have to be Australian to spot them. Where I am from our accent is closer to an English accent. I also have no trouble with most of the 44 British accents. Scottish accents give me the most trouble. One of my mathematics lecturers at University was Scottish and his accent drove me crazy.


If the variation in accents is ten times stronger in Britain than Australia then the variation in accents in China would be a thousand times stronger. I can cope with a pinyin sound having many different characters but I can't cope with a Chinese character having many different sounds.

#2019-05-03 23:33:04 by melcyan @melcyan



Your advice is very good advice for most Australians.


However, my Super provider is the South Australian government. My Super plan was withdrawn from offer to teachers around 1980 because it was considered too rewarding. I filled out the form for direct payout to my estate prior to my 65th birthday but after my 65th birthday, no payout to anyone is possible. However, if I am married, my spouse will receive two-thirds of my superannuation pension for the rest of her life.

#2019-05-04 15:34:35 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


@roughdiamond is only half-right.

I don't want to appear as a 'smart-ass' here, but when he says 'It's your money' - it's not!

You only have the RIGHT to that money IF your provider says so.

It's the same with everything in the 'West' - we 'own' NOTHING!

You think you own your car? Think again. It's registered TO you.

You think you own your house? Think again. You have a 'Certificate OF Title' - you do NOT have the title itself - ever!

Go to and type your TFN / Social Security number into the search facility. Make sure you include spaces / dashes / etc.

You will then see a list of companies that own a piece of your sweet ass!

(In my case it was 372,000)

You 'own' nothing because your government owns you!

When you were born, your parents 'registered' your birth. The name on your birth certificate will be in all-CAPS, just like your driving licence and passport etc.

You are a 'corporation'.

Whatever you think you 'own' is owned by that 'corporation', which in turn, is owned by your government.

This applies to 'citizens' of the UK, Australia, USA, Canada, et al.

Check out the meaning of 'Straw Man' to learn more.

Think I'm crazy? Go ahead and prove me wrong.

Every westerner has been conned since birth. YOU did not agree to your 'name' - your parents did. That's why it's called a GIVEN name.

When you die your name will be in all-CAPS on your gravestone too - just as all corporations have names in all-CAPS, we all do too.

The word 'person' comes from 'persona'. I surely don't need to tell you the meaning.



#2019-05-04 21:40:53 by roughdiamond @roughdiamond

Still sounds a bit strange to me mate super is your money it's garnished from your wages to be collected upon retirement at that point you can then take a lump sum or have it paid out weekly fortnightly monthly yearly as a pension all of which you should still be able to bequeath to someone again it's your money a pension plan on the other hand such as a returned servicemens pension that's a different story

#2019-05-05 18:37:02 by melcyan @melcyan



You have said all of this sort of stuff before. I willing to listen to and engage what you have to say about Western men / Chinese women relationships, Chinese culture and Chinese language but you can forget about discussing this sort of stuff with me.


If these words are not clear enough for you then read all of my comments in John Abbot's blog -

#2019-05-05 19:23:20 by melcyan @melcyan


It is good to see that you understand your own superannuation well. I think that is very important for everyone to fully understand how their own superannuation works. You said "on the other hand such as a returned servicemens pension that's a different story". Just like the returned servicemen's pension is a different story, so too is my superannuation pension (its availability stopped around 1980 because the rewards were far too generous for anyone who lived longer than 75 years of age).

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