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Born and raised in a small and remote village of China with two siblings, Zoe had a childhood with wild freedom in nature. After finishing her education at Dalian Foreign Languages University, she has been living and working in Dalian. A woman of strong feelings and a passion for life, Zoe's first series of vibrant articles will tell you about the rollercoaster ride that was her first serious relationship with a Western man. There is much you can learn from her telling story. After that we'll see where else she can take us and what other wonderful experiences she might share.
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Life Is Tasty 滋味生活    

By Zoe
7458 Views | 23 Comments | 9/27/2014 11:26:19 AM

For a Chinese woman going to university in the West and be loaded with stress.

After Chinese Spring Festival, my visa was issued, the next day I handed in my resignation. One month later, which was March 10th, 2014, I left the company, it happened to be exact 7 years I had been working for this company, because on the 9th of March in 2007, I started the first day of working there, wow, such a completed number! I almost wanted to salute to myself!

In the next two weeks, I handled all the issues related to the government bureaus, that had to be taken care of, like the insurance and other social documents, and I luckily got a young couple who seemed to be quite nice people to rent my apartment. The day when I moved out, I cleaned it completely, and put a bunch of flowers in the vase, to welcome them to move in to this lovely flat. I hoped they would love this place like I did.

With two suitcases I left Dalian, left China and landed in this land.

At the beginning, everything was fresh and nice, I felt like in honeymoon with this country, I loved its green trees, its blue sky, its friendly people. But also it was very difficult, even shopping in the supermarket I had to ask hundreds questions to get what I was looking for, most of the time, looking at those colorful package I didn’t know what was for what. 

More than once I took the wrong train, and got off the train at 11:30 in the night, and found out I had no clue where I was; more than once I got off the bus at the wrong station, then circling and circling for looking for the right street, the worse was that the streets were so quiet here, it could be that more than 20 minutes there was no one walking by that you could ask about; the university system is so different from China, I have been running like a dog with its tongue hanging out in the whole semester and still could not be sure what I have been doing.

In the second month, I found a job in a coffee shop near my dormitory, although it’s a cleaning job, twice a week, I was quite happy about my luck, it’s 50 to 60 Euros a week, with this money I could cover my daily expenses – not to get hungry. When my family knew that I had been doing cleaning, my mom was crying in the phone, my brother asked me to stop it, he could send money how much I need. I knew his life was not easy and he didn’t have the money to send to me, but because he loved his younger sister and he thought I was suffering here.

I told them it’s different from China, doing cleaning work was nothing to be shame about, my roommate was working as a waiter in the shop and his father was working for the finance minister of Germany. Of course my roommate didn’t work in the shop and I didn’t know who was his father, only wanted to make my family feel better.

I limit my material require to the minimum, I wake up every morning with birds singing outside my window, I already have my friends circle here that we hang out and do crazy things together – my life is simple and happy now.

But when I was kneeling on the floor and cleaning other’s toilet, I told myself, someday I would know the value of what I am doing now!





第二个月时,我就在宿舍附近的一个咖啡馆找到了兼职,一周工作两次,其实是打扫卫生。但我庆幸自己的幸运,虽说是小时工,一周也有五十到六十欧元的收入,可以保证我的基本生活 – 也就是不会饿肚子。家人知道我在这里兼职给人做小时工打扫卫生后,妈妈在电话里哭了,哥哥说不要干那个了,你需要多少我给你。我知道他没钱,不过是以为妹妹在外国受苦还给人家看不起。我告诉家人,在这边跟过内观念不一样,没有谁看不起谁,工作也没有卑贱之说,我的室友他爸是德国财政部的官员,他照样在咖啡馆当服务员赚零花钱。当然,我的室友没有在店里当服务员,我也不知道人家爸爸是谁,只是不想家人为我担心。



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#2014-09-27 11:50:02 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

Zoe, you give us a real sense of the good and bad of beginning life in a foreign country. You reminded me of exactly how I felt when I first moved to China. Sometimes exhilarated, sometimes exasperated and sometimes just plain confused.

You had me concerned for your safety when you described taking the wrong train or getting off at the wrong bus stop and being totally lost. In a lot of countries you would have been in serious danger in that situation, and this gives us a sense of how safe Germany must be, or at least the part of Germany where you're living.

Nice read, Zoe, it was a treat to see this experience through your eyes.

#2014-09-27 14:16:00 by fengyan5746 @fengyan5746

(y)j 加油!你已经开始了新的生活,真的太好了,为你高兴,继续努力,让世界大吃一惊的日子还在后面等待着你呢!:D

#2014-09-27 15:47:33 by haifeng @haifeng

嗨,你好 Zoe,看到你的这篇文字我流泪了,请记住今天你的低头是为了明天更好地昂起头,祝福你!

#2014-09-27 17:43:35 by zhangdaisy @zhangdaisy


appreicate this MM, start new life in Germany. I just came back from frankfurt, tiring but enjoy days in Germany, their life style, but also difficulties as you, although many people can speak english there.

I wish you getting better in the future and especially try to join local chinese team, especially tourguide, such as local chinese trader ( from FOBSHANGHAI etc )besides your roomate or guys in the college etc...enjoy lonely, share life with us and full wishes for you.

#2014-09-27 18:18:24 by yiyun2519 @yiyun2519


#2014-09-27 18:26:11 by 2396julia @2396julia

"when I was kneeling on the floor and cleaning other’s toilet, I told myself, someday I would know the value of what I am doing now"
Agree with you Zoe, after making efforts, everything will get better at last. Just like what John said above, pay attention to your safety in Germany...

#2014-09-27 20:16:53 by Jennifercc42 @Jennifercc42


#2014-09-28 08:45:21 by anonymous12042 @anonymous12042


#2014-09-28 11:27:26 by Barry1 @Barry1

"when I was kneeling on the floor and cleaning other’s toilet, I told myself, someday I would know the value of what I am doing now!"

Your continuing story indicates you have a great deal of determination and grit, Zoe. Much more so than the average person, especially the average lady. For this reason alone, I'm sure you'd be a great catch for anyone lucky enough to capture your heart.

Show me a girl with some spunk (slang for courage) and I'll show you a person well worth knowing. More power to you, Zoe. (clap)

#2014-09-28 11:39:57 by aussieghump @aussieghump

That that doesn't kill you makes you stronger!

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