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Ryan Hendry is a former detective and lawyer from the UK. He is now a freelance writer living in the Philippines. Ryan has a Filipina partner and hopes to be married to her later in 2016. He has traveled extensively in Asia and is a veteran of the Asian online dating world. He has experienced online, and physically met, some scammers, including unscrupulous ladies from Thailand and the more obvious scammers from Nigeria. Ryan is keen therefore to share his experiences and uses this platform for his blogs as CLM and ALM is committed to hunting down all scammers. Ryan, despite some of his experiences, respects Asian culture, loves Asian food and is now happy in the Philippines!
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International Dating: My Story - Happy Families    

By Ryan Hendry
1372 Views | 4 Comments | 10/6/2016 10:23:18 AM

Photo Credit: Erawan Falls By Diliff - Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0,

All three of us set off to view the house. It was on the northern outskirts of Kanchanaburi. Despite my GPS, I had difficulty finding the location. The road appeared to peter out. Just a gate and a track to the left where the road came to an abrupt end. I turned down the track.

There were some local kids outside two small wooden built homes. Noi asked them if we were in the right place. I saw them pointing to their left. Noi walked the 200 yards to the three bungalows. I drove there with Kamon all excited in the back seat of the Hilux.

I immediately fell in love with the location. It was beautiful. There were three bungalows but some people would describe them as villas. A little further on there was a larger house. The Aussie lady and her Thai husband lived in that house. The whole complex consisted of trees, flower beds and lawns that swept down to the bank of the River Kwai. It was peaceful. 

We walked to the large house. My heart stopped as I turned the corner to step on to the outside verandah. I turned my head to the right to see what had caused the crashing noise. There was a large cage containing two large gibbons. One of the cheeky monkeys had decided it would be good fun to startle me. It had crashed forcibly into the steel mesh of the cage.

Helen, the Aussie lady, greeted us warmly. She apologized for the juvenile delinquent gibbon and offered coffee and a soda for Kamon. We chatted away about her background and mine. She was married to a local man. A chief of the local tambon, a local government unit. He owned all the land we were now sat on. 

After the coffee, she invited us to look at the villa. She called it a villa. It was ideal. The rooms were spacious. There was air conditioning in every room and a vast European style kitchen. The bedrooms came with fitted wardrobes and solid hardwood bed frames. Outside the solid wood front door was a patio with a hardwood patio set. The wood reminded me of the jarrah found in Australia.

I looked at Noi for approval. “It’s up to you,” came the reply. This answer was one I got used to in the future. At the time, I was a little nonplussed by her non-committal tone. I would hear it many more times from Asian women. It really means, you are the man - you decide. It took me quite some time to acclimatize to that basic aspect of Asian culture.

I decided, as I was anxious to finalize a place to live. Helen and I negotiated a price for the monthly rent. It was more than I wanted to pay but it was about twenty percent of what I would have paid in England. And, it was an ideal location and a beautiful house. I agreed to pay a deposit there and then and three months’ rent in advance. We arranged to move in the next day.

My future was now looking to have taken shape. The next day was a busy one. Noi and I shopped at the large Tesco Lotus supermarket on the far side of Kanchanaburi. Pots, pans, bedding, mattresses, cutlery, crockery and household cleaning wares were foremost on our list. My Visa card became red hot!

The back of the Hilux was full of new goods as I drove back to our new home. I was watchful for the hidden stop signal this time. We started to unload the boxes and carry them into the villa. Kamon helped too. A Thai man appeared and introduced himself as Helen’s husband - the chief. He asked us if we had a TV or refrigerator. “No,” we said. “Okay, follow me. I have a friend at an appliance store.”

The Visa took another battering! One refrigerator and one TV set were added to the bill. The chief helped me strap down the fridge in the back of the pick-up. We set off once more. I noticed that Noi had become subdued in the chief’s presence. I paid no attention. That evening Noi cooked the most delicious meal. A green chicken curry, she knew it was a favorite of mine. It was true - she was a good cook. It was good to sit out on the patio that night. We chatted about nothing. I was happy and Noi was ... subdued. The huge walk-in shower was wonderful after a day of shopping and carrying. I slept like a log on the first night in our new home.

Kamon was eyeing the waters of the river the next morning. I was sat on the patio finishing my coffee. Her English was good enough to communicate that she wished to swim. On walking down to the river bank, I could see the river was prone to strong currents. I didn’t think it was safe. I consulted my Rough Guide and sure enough there was a riverside resort nearby with a swimming pool. Kamon loved it there. Noi and I ate lunch watching Kamon splash about in the pool. Happy families!

These were wonderful days. Noi and I were fine. We had somewhere to live. Not just somewhere, but a beautiful home in beautiful idyllic surroundings. Any uncertainties were fast disappearing.

The remainder of our time together in Kanchanaburi was happy. We explored the area finding delights like the Erawan Falls in the Erawan National Park. The only thing I found to grumble about was the Thai practice of dual pricing for attractions. One price for Thai citizens and a vastly inflated price for farangs. I often wondered about the wisdom of this policy. After all, the Thai economy relied heavily on foreign tourists.

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#2016-09-21 12:48:31 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

I have to say that you did about as well as you could have hoped at starting off your relationship in a great place, both in the geographical sense of 'place' and in the emotional sense. It's a shame that it isn't going g to work out, as you have already suggested.

#2016-09-22 07:50:11 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

"I often wondered about the wisdom of this policy. After all, the Thai economy relied heavily on foreign tourists."


And therein lies the problem. You used the word 'wisdom'.

When referring to any Thai authority, the word 'wisdom' is akin to using the word 'credibility' when talking about dating sites such as Asian Date or ChnLove.

In short, these dating sites have about as much credibility as the Thai government has wisdom. ZERO!


The Thai's in general are waging a war against the industry that has arguably become the largest part of their own economy - Tourism!


They won't realise the damage they have done until it's too late. By which time, many regular Thailand-goers will have found another country in which to spend their holiday dollars.


As I said before, shooting oneself in the foot often has a tendency to blow one's toes off.

#2016-10-06 10:33:22 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

This post was accidentally published out of turn a while back, in explanation of the comments dated a couple of weeks ago.

Reading the post again, I have to say this re-enforces my great memories of Thailand and has me rethinking my rethinking of spending 6 months to a year there.

My wife and I had planned on a stay in Changmai for that period of time on our way back to living in China, but recent political issues deveoping in Thailand that suggest Westerners maybe less than welcome anymore had us suffering second thoughts. But this has me really wondering if we shouldn't go back to that plan.

You've just made Thailand seem so damned inviting Ryan. And it is a country I really miss.

#2016-10-12 23:37:35 by anonymous15608 @anonymous15608

hmmmm "those were wonderful days" I feel a forboding undertone to these words....

Gouging tourists in any country is nothing unusual but making it so much more difficult for tourists to get visa to Thailand is a step backwards.....

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