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Ryan Hendry is a former detective and lawyer from the UK. He is now a freelance writer living in the Philippines. Ryan has a Filipina partner and hopes to be married to her later in 2016. He has traveled extensively in Asia and is a veteran of the Asian online dating world. He has experienced online, and physically met, some scammers, including unscrupulous ladies from Thailand and the more obvious scammers from Nigeria. Ryan is keen therefore to share his experiences and uses this platform for his blogs as CLM and ALM is committed to hunting down all scammers. Ryan, despite some of his experiences, respects Asian culture, loves Asian food and is now happy in the Philippines!
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International Dating: My Story - Cash is King in Asian Culture

By Ryan Hendry
482 Views | 7 Comments | 7/6/2017 2:03:49 PM

The two cars that interested me were both double cab pick up trucks. One an Isuzu D Max and the other a Nissan Navarra. Noi was right, today was my turn to go shopping - for wheels.

 

We found the American’s place of business with some difficulty. Even the local cab driver had to get out and ask directions. But we got there in the end. Tom, the American, lived with his parents, wife and their small child in a pleasant soi (street)about 3 miles out of the center of Chiang Mai. It was a large house set in a large lot with a huge driveway. To the right of the drive was a workshop that could accommodate 3 cars. Just beyond that was a Portakabin which served as the office for the business. There was an array of parked cars, about six in all, some with sale stickers on the windshield.

 

Tom came out of the office to greet us. He ushered us into his work office and as we sat down we were offered coffee by his wife. She was from Laos and attractive. Clearly Laos had its share of beautiful Asian women. Their child had the most gorgeous bright red hair. We got to chatting and I discovered Tom’s story. He was from a family of Christian missionaries. His grandfather, now deceased, had moved to Thailand as a missionary about 50 years back. His father in turn became a missionary and the family stayed in Thailand rarely returning to the States.

 

The car sales business was started up by Tom’s father. He was approached on so many occasions by expats along the lines of, “can you recommend some place to buy a car?” He saw the opportunity and filled the gap. It wasn’t long before Tom’s father bustled into the office. A small, cheery man with a warm handshake. He offered to show me around the two cars that were outside. I left Noi talking to Tom’s wife.

 

The black D Max looked beautiful. The history was that it had one American owner from new, another missionary. He had left to return to the States and Tom and his father had undertaken to sell the car on his behalf. It had 108,000 kms on the clock. That’s nothing for a diesel Isuzu. I was long enough in the tooth to think with my head and not my heart about cars. I wonder why I find that difficult when applied to women? Tom’s Dad said, “take it out.” So I did.

 

It drove well. There were no squeaks or rattles. It braked in a straight line and turned corners like it ought to. It was clean and tidy and obviously well-maintained. I decided to have it. “How much for cash?” Tom’s Dad laughed. I said, “what’s funny?” It’s then I learned that cash is king in Thailand and the usual way of doing business. It’s part of the culture of Asia. With that, we returned to the office to finalize the payment and the paperwork for the car. You may ask did I look at the Nissan. Nope, I didn’t like the color!

 

Tom was now free. He had been dealing with another customer when we arrived. He explained the paperwork requirements to me but first we settled on a final figure for the D Max. I agreed to go to the local branch of my bank, the Bangkok Bank, to withdraw the cash. But first we hit a potential hitch with the paperwork and registration of the car. I didn’t have the necessary residence documentation. Tom told me that would not be a problem as it could be arranged but would take maybe a week to do that. I was reluctant to stay in Chiang Mai for a week. So, we used Noi’s Kampheang Phet residence papers and the car was then to be registered in her name. Tom would take care of all this at the local equivalent of the DMV or DVLA if you are a Brit like me.

 

This process, Tom estimated, would take two days then the car was mine to drive away. Now I needed to get to the bank and also some means of transport for the next two days. Like the good businessman that he was, Tom asked if I wanted to rent one of his cars. We agreed on a cheap day rate and I set off in an old Mitsubishi sedan to the bank. Used cars are expensive in Thailand, unlike the UK, so I needed to withdraw quite a bundle of cash. I found the local Bangkok Bank branch about a mile away and parked outside. After producing my passport, bank savings book and showing my visa stamp, the money was counted out. Not by hand, but in one of those machines. The teller feeds bundles of notes in one end, sets a dial and hey presto! There’s your money. I never saw one of those back in the UK but it was part of life in Asia. It fascinated me.

 

The bundle of cash was safely stashed away in a deep pocket. As I came out of the bank I kept my eyes wide open. The last thing I needed was to be robbed. But all was good and we made it back to Tom’s yard and auto shop to hand over the cash. Tom carefully counted it all out and gave me a signed bill of sale for the D Max. It was now officially mine bar the bureaucratic side of registering the car. Noi gave Tom her papers so he could attend to things the next day.

 

We then had some iced tea and Tom’s Mom arrived. The whole family were now there. I liked them and felt they were trustworthy. It was a pleasant day. I was happy with the new car and pleased that I found Tom’s car business. It’s not often folks are relaxed about a new used car purchase but I was totally stress-free. Life was good!

 

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#2017-07-06 14:03:36 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

Like you, Ryan, I was pretty laidback and trusting in my first relationship with a Chinese woman. And, unfortunately, like you appear to be heading for a major fall in this series, I was in for an incredibly expensive lesson to be learned from her.  Reading this series keeps reminding me of the process I went through with her, and how blind I was to her ill intentions. It also reminds me what a large club it is that you and I belong to.

At the same time, knowing you are now settled happily in the Philippines reminds me that once we have spent time with one or more of these Asian/Chinese women, there is no going back. It is just a matter of not being blind to the ill intentions of some of them, and hanging in with eyes wide open until a clearly good one appears.

This is no different in any culture, and frankly it is no different for the Asian or Chinese women as they try to weed out the many bad among the not so many good of us Western males. In fact, I would venture to guess that, especially in Thailand, the percentage of Western men who are hanging out there who are seriously good guys looking for a serious, one woman, relationship is pretty damned low compared to the number who are just looking to use as many of these beautiful women as they can.

I am looking forward with much interest to read about when it all goes south, and how you went about recovering from the emotional pain, the financial loss, and the damage to self that you suffered in this learning process. It will be good to be able to compare notes.

#2017-07-06 23:44:58 by anonymous16347 @anonymous16347

aye aye aye! I am shyting my pants right now....personally I would have waited the week rather than put the truck in her name..legally it is her truck now. I hope this did not come back to haunt you, I guess we will find out in the future blog entries here. 

You realise that bill counters have been around for 50 years right? :D

I agree just over 100,000 k's on a diesel is not much at all.

A close friend of mine met and married a Filipino woman from Angeles City in the Filipines, he married her when she got pregnant(she is now only  25 he is 55) she is drop dead gorgeous, he sends money monthly to her for support, he bought her and her family a house in a gated community, he goes there several times a year, she and their child travel to Canada 3-4 times per year. She and their daughter now have Canadian Permanent Visa's...I and many others have tried to warn him to no avail...she has him hook line and sinker, already gutted and getting ready to be fileted and he does not even know it. He, in the next 3-5 years will be cleaned out and divorced by her before he wakes up....

Guys...if it seems to good to be true...it is!!!!!!!!!

This also happened to my cousin and just recently to my son inlaws best friend by a chinese woman.......

#2017-07-08 02:11:23 by woaizhongguo @woaizhongguo

@John Abbot: Agree that "especially in Thailand, the percentage of Western men who are hanging out there who are seriously good guys looking for a serious, one woman, relationship is pretty damned low compared to the number who are just looking to use as many of these beautiful women as they can." I think this goes a long way to explaining the correspondingly high ratio of bad behavior by the women in that country, an example of which I take it we are in the midst of being shown.

#2017-07-08 14:15:58 by RHendry @RHendry

@JohnAbbot I agree it is a large club. I heard the horror stories before I set off and thought that will never happen to me, lol. 

@anonymous16347 Yes, the truck is hers. Read on ... And hindsight is a wonderful thing.

@woaizhongguo Interesting but not convinced. I think there are many factors at play here including socio-economic and cultural issues.

#2017-07-10 23:20:28 by anonymous16357 @anonymous16357

I do not believe it is just the Western men using the women in these countries for sex, I believe alot of these women choose this profession as they can make far more money than they ever could in a regular day job. The 2 wrongs do not equal a right. Many Asian women will burn a western man any chance they get and we all know this is true....period. We all know alot of western men just want to have sex with beautiful asian women, so the question is how to filter out all the bullshit and find a true partner if you are online or going to these countries.

Here is something that I personally feel...I would never choose a Filipino woman as a wife based soley on the reputation they have....personally I know too many men who have been taken for everything including my own cousin. I think Filipino women are beautiful, humorous, lively, family orientated, religious but this does not stop them from screwing you over any chance they get......agree or not agree. It is what it is.....

Asian women want your money, western women just want you dead....what a choice..

#2017-07-12 13:55:53 by RHendry @RHendry

@anonymous16357 "I would never choose a Filipino woman as a wife based soley on the reputation they have....personally I know too many men who have been taken for everything including my own cousin. I think Filipino women are beautiful, humorous, lively, family orientated, religious but this does not stop them from screwing you over any chance they get......agree or not agree. It is what it is....." according to you. BS! 

I was going to respond more but it's probably an utter waste of time. You have already made up your mind never even setting foot on Filipino soil! 

Reminds me of small children who turn up their noses at food before even trying it! BS!

I think you got the message!

#2017-07-13 01:42:46 by anonymous16364 @anonymous16364

Monsiuer Hendry, thanks for the reply albeit a rude one. Yes I hope one day to see the Philipine Islands. I made up my mind after seeing so many of my friends get royaly destroyed including my own cousin. His story is a long one which is very sad culminating in his death.

I personally have had many talks with filipino women online and in person, even dated a few, lovely girls but after my wallet not my heart. It is my choice as to whom I look to for a potential wife just as it is yours....

Tell me ole wise one will you attempt a relationship with another Thai woman? I truly would love to hear your words and thoughts on that subject.

Carry on my wayward son!

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