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Ryan Hendry is a former detective and lawyer from the UK. He is now a freelance writer living in the Philippines. Ryan has a Filipina partner and hopes to be married to her later in 2016. He has traveled extensively in Asia and is a veteran of the Asian online dating world. He has experienced online, and physically met, some scammers, including unscrupulous ladies from Thailand and the more obvious scammers from Nigeria. Ryan is keen therefore to share his experiences and uses this platform for his blogs as CLM and ALM is committed to hunting down all scammers. Ryan, despite some of his experiences, respects Asian culture, loves Asian food and is now happy in the Philippines!
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International Dating: My Story - Asian Wedding Traditions    

By Ryan Hendry
1095 Views | 2 Comments | 9/30/2017 12:53:46 PM

Who was the lucky guy who was going to marry this stunning looking woman? It was me, Ryan Hendry! Boy, I was so in love. I had never seen Noi looking as beautiful. The waiting around had been worthwhile just to see her walk out, hold my hand and take our seats at the ‘VIP’ table. There must have been a hundred people or so crammed into Noi’s father’s yard at the family home. Now all I could do was wait some more to see how the Asian wedding traditions would unfold.


Little did I think when starting out on my quest to find Asian love that I would be about to become the center of attention in this Thai village wedding. That attention was to become a tad uncomfortable later in the day, and quite funny, but more of that later.


The ceremonials started in earnest when long lines of guests took their turn to tie white cotton bracelets around our wrists. This cotton thread has been blessed in advance by a Buddhist monk and is known as ‘sai sin‘. The sai sin is supposed to provide protection and good health to the person wearing it. The color of the thread is often white because it represents purity in Buddhism although other colors may be used depending on the region you are in and the circumstances. But the sacred white thread isn’t just worn on the wrist. If you visit a Thai temple on important Buddhist holidays, you may see a mesh of white string stretching between the main Buddha images.


When each guest had completed the tying of the sai sin, he or she would take a step back and perform the ‘wai,’ the traditional Thai show of respect where the hands are placed together in front of the face while bowing. I was not only impressed but was deeply moved by this ritual. There was something spiritual about it. I later learned that you are supposed to keep the bracelet in place for three days. Buddhists believe in the ‘power of three.’


Tip: you don’t have to be Buddhist to accept sai sin. Think of it as a good luck charm if somebody ties the cotton bracelet to your wrist. Never refuse sai sin if it is offered. It would be disrespectful to refuse. Tradition also dictates that after three days it is best to gently untie rather than cut the thread.


This part of the ceremony took the best part of an hour. At last the long line of well-wishers was exhausted. It was now time to eat, drink and be merry! Well, almost. The head of the village was present. He is known as the tambon chief and it is de rigeur for him to attend these traditional village weddings. It’s also compulsory as the head honcho for him to make a speech (yawn!). It wasn’t that bad in that it was fairly short. Anyway, I couldn’t understand a word of what he was saying except for the bit when pronouncing my name. He made it sound exotic and it brought a smile to my face.


Now it was really time to eat, drink, dance and thoroughly enjoy the day. Guests would frequently approach both Noi and me at the ‘head table.’ Some of them would say a lot to me in Thai as if I could understand them. I just nodded constantly and smiled a lot. It seemed that I had many female admirers as it was mostly women who ‘chatted’ to me. Some knew a few words of English. I heard ‘handsome’ being spoken on a few occasions. That made me feel good. Some of these women were older ladies. I could tell from their cackling laughter that they were saying something mischievous and probably involved sexual innuendoes.


Two of these ladies tried to stick to me like glue. One of them was an older lady with barely a tooth left in her head. She was fun and wanted to dance with me. I obliged her and did my best “Mick Jagger’ moves much to her delight. The other lady who ‘stuck’ to me was a friend of Noi’s. She was slightly older than Noi and was an extremely good looking woman. Her name was Satorn. I had previously met both her and her husband. They lived out by a lake a few miles from Noi’s home. I had always been conscious that she was gazing at me whenever I had met her before. I was flattered because she was a ‘looker.’


Yet, today her attention toward me seemed to take on a different direction and meaning. Noi occasionally drifted off from our spot at the table to talk with family or friends. No sooner had Noi departed then Satorn would come to me. No, she didn’t sit beside me but sat on my lap. She would remain there until Noi returned. Satorn did not simply sit on my lap motionless. There was a constant gentle circular movement involved. I could not complain. I didn’t wish to complain. It felt good. As soon as she spotted Noi returning, she would move off my lap but sit close to me. She then caressed my thigh with her hand at each moment Noi’s attention was distracted elsewhere. It was both disconcerting yet pleasurable.


The day’s festivities continued. The unwanted attention from Satorn ended when her husband arrived at the party. It had been a long day and I was ready to retire to our overnight accommodation. We had reserved some rooms at a nearby resort hotel. Frank, Noi’s brother, and some of his friends were also booked in there. It was now about 8 pm in the evening and Noi reluctantly agreed it was time to go. She was reluctant because she was enjoying her day. Noi smiled and nodded when I told her we could carry on partying at the resort.


On reaching the resort, we found an outside table to sit at and enjoy some more beer. Frank, his friends, Som and a female friend of hers all joined us shortly after we got there. Despite enjoying the present company, I was also looking forward to the privacy of our nuptial bed. I was ready to say goodnight.


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#2017-09-30 12:53:24 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

Hmmmm? I am a little surprised to hear about Satorn paying such incredibly sexual attention to you at Noi's wedding to you, especially since she must have been aware that even if Noi didn't notice it herself, surely members of her family would notice.

But I am even more surprised that you didn't put a quick stop to it yourself, if not on high moral grounds then simply out of fear of screwing up your marriage before it had even been consumated.

So I am guessing that for reasons not explained you did not feel that Noi would have been angry if she discovered Satorn doing her version of a lapdance with her groom on her wedding night?

I have dated Thai women, especially one, for long enough to have learned that they are quite capable of breaking out in jealous rages over a lot less than a good looking friend making sexual advances on their brand new husband in clear view if their friends and family.

So why weren't you a little bit worried? I am looking forward to your explanation, if you're intending to explain and relieve me, and I suspect many others, of our curiosity.

#2017-10-01 01:24:23 by anonymous16579 @anonymous16579

wow interesting description of the wedding day. I wonder what Noi's friend was really try to do. Was she in league with Noi to see if you could be led astray? Was she jealous of Noi and tired of her own husband? Was she a player already? Or did she want to see if the myth about western mens size was true? 

Personally I would have pushed her off my lap as soon as she tried to sit on it. Not saying I am better just saying that is what I would have done. Better to show respect to Noi, yourself and self restraint.

The bracelets sound very interesting in their significance in white being purity. I am starting to think that Budhism has it's head on straight and is worth looking into further. If it can help bring you closer to yourself, mankind and the earth without shoving the bullshit of "a non existent deity" down our throats so much the better!

I look forward to your next entry! Also I do not think we have heard the last about Satorn's antics 

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