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By Paul Fox
3010 Views | 18 Comments | 7/15/2019 11:56:32 AM

So, July the 4th has just passed once again. The 'great state' celebrating its independence and freedom, and giving thanks to retired military that have fought for their government....sorry.....'country', in order to gain the 'freedom' that they enjoy today.

Sure, Americans are free to do as they like, as long as they have the government's permission. They are 'free' to have mandatory vaccines, or perhaps 'free' not to own a firearm because their government says so. They are also 'free' to pay their taxes, 'free' to own their home outright, as long as they pay property tax, and 'free' to leave it to their kids when they die, just as long as inheritance tax is paid. Yep, America is the 'home of the free'.

As for being 'independent', yep, that too. America can have its 'independence' just as long as it continues to pay tax to the British government, and the rent on the White House to the Vatican.

How much MORE 'free and independent' could Americans possibly be?

Chump says, 'We are a peaceful nation', but he missed out the part about the government being a bunch of lying war-mongers.

Since its 'founding' in 1776, there have been something like 18 years in TOTAL where America has NOT been at war with another country.

Just a reminder - America is Free; Peace-loving; Independent.

I'm not sure what the ratio is these days, but a decade or so ago, around 65% of Americans didn't own a passport, or so we were told.

These people are 'insular'. They thrive on the BS propaganda spewed out by their government and TV, and they love it.

In the meantime, Chump sends tanks to Washington District of Criminals in order to fool the people into thinking they are 'saluting' America, when in fact, he's just showing the world how big his 'dick' is.

So now that the population of America has been brainwashed into believing they are free and independent, he goes on to demonise China.

The sad fact is that most of the 65% passport-less people probably couldn't even show you China on a map!

Chinese people are also insular to a large extent. Access to Google; Facebook; G-mail; Whatsapp, etc, is not allowed in China. Perhaps it's to keep the lying Western media away, or maybe the Chinese government doesn't want Facebook selling the data belonging to its citizens, like it sells your data.

Whatever the reason, China doesn't seem to be falling apart in the same way as Western countries are, especially America.

I was talking to a Chinese colleague the other day. He's 30 years old, and not married. He told me that he'd love to get married, but he doesn't want kids. Therefore, unless he finds a woman similar to the one I wrote about in my previous blog, (Marry me), then he's going to remain single for a long time.

For you guys out there looking for a Chinese wife, and have never actually experienced China, please allow me to explain something to you.

China is not like the West. The culture is completely different, right down to the family unit.

You live with your parents until such time as you marry. Then, either your parents, or hers, will come to live with you once they retire.

Retired parents get bored, so the pressure is on the wife in order to have a baby.

The baby's parents can work, while the grandparents raise the child - it gives them a renewed 'purpose' in life.

In case you didn't know, all Chinese citizens require an I.D card. In the case of a new-born baby, an I.D card will not be issued unless the baby's parents are married. It's therefore considered 'illegal' to have a baby outside of wedlock.

This is why many kids grow up 'spoiled'. Their grandparents don't discipline them, then the parents, who have been out-of-town working all week, see them on the weekend and don't want to discipline them either. Therefore, 'spoilt brats' are quite common in China.

Families in China are very 'close'. You'd be hard-pushed to come to China, find a 'wife', and then whisk her back to your country in the hope that she will be 'happy'.

Americans are brainwashed and indoctrinated into the same education system that China has - at least as far as 'mainstream subjects' are concerned. Sure, History is different, up to a point, but everything else is pretty-much the same.

It's strange, Americans are oppressed, yet think they're free, while Chinese are not oppressed yet somehow many feel they are, and a lot of that appears to simply be because of the lack of access to Western Internet etc.

Have you seen the movie, 'The Kingsmen'? Awesome entertainment! There is one scene where the 'agent' gets mind-controlled and goes and kills everyone in a church. That scene is totally deleted from the movie if you watch it in China. Is that a 'bad thing' do you think?

Chinese citizens are probably the most victimised people when it comes to travel. They need a visa for just about every country they want to go to.

Perhaps that's why people such as my colleague tell me that traveling overseas is simply 'too hard'. Likewise, getting a visa to stay in China for more than 30 days is not easy.

I have told you before that I am the ONLY foreigner in this 'village', and the other day I had THREE police officers come to my CLASSROOM in order to check my visa and work-permit.

Once they realised everything was in order, they were very friendly and each one wanted his photo taken with me.

So yes, 'insularity' seems to be rife in countries where the population don't do much overseas traveling, but, having spent the best part of 5 years in China, I can 100% assure you that it's NOT what the Western 'puppeticians' tell you it is.

Oh, and one more thing - the 'Social Credit Score' that many Americans are panicking over.

Quite simply, you are penalised for 'antisocial behaviour'. Smoke on a train and you won't be allowed to buy a train ticket for 90 days or so. I see nothing wrong with that, personally.

However, the one that Facebook seems to be introducing.....Oh my.....!

They use the old adage, 'If you won't tell me then you must have something to hide'. Yes, it's called PRIVACY - something that is still allowed in China, at least for now.

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#2019-07-15 11:56:24 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

I must admit that as I started reading this blog in order to approve it I found myself wondering why it was being presented as a CLM blog instead of a Conspiracy Corner blog. The usual references to things like mandatory vaccines, the US paying tax to the UK and rent to the Vatican, the US being a war mongerer and the requisite attack on "Chump" all suggested it was headed in a direction being totally irrelevant to any discussion pertaining to Western men dating Chinese (or Asian) women.  

Not that I agreed or disagreed with the comments, just that I couldn't see any hope for it being a relevant blog. 

But then suddenly a comparison of American culture to Chinese culture broke out. And that is indeed relevant to Western men dating Chinese women.

Not that I agree or disagree with all of the comparisons made or the descriptions of China culture, but they are relevant. And they are well worth considering and discussing.

So let the discussion begin, but please bear in mind that I am not going to approve comments that are intensely critical of China to the point they might get CLM censored. 

To get the ball rolling let me say that I do not believe it is true that Chinese are not travelling outside China very much. Do a Google search using "how much do chinese travel outside china" and based on the titles I got you will quickly discover that for the year 2018:

1. Chinese tourist numbers surge as overseas travel becomes easier...

2. The Chinese travel more and spend more than any other nation...

3. Chinese Tourists Are Taking Over the Earth, One Selfie at a Time...

If you'd like to read about the phenomenal growth of Chinese travel in the past decade you can download a good PDF by McKinsey & Company here:

Chinese Tourists - Dispelling the Myths

So I do disagree with that one point Paul has made, but in fairness he was not basing his comment so much on research as on anecdotal evidence supported by the people around him. He is not in any of the major cities where the more cosmopolitan and/or wealthy Chinese reside, so that may not have been the best resource.

That does not mean I disagree with many other observations Paul has made but let's see what other people have to say before I go any further.

#2019-07-15 13:37:09 by melcyan @melcyan



It is not difficult, John, to Identify the sentences that don't belong in this section of CLM and then ask Paul if he is willing to have them removed. If he does not want the sentences removed you simply post the blog in Conspiracy Corner. I hope Conspiracy Corner is not just exclusively for conspiracy talk. Surely there is room in Conspiracy Corner for useful CLM information as well?


What we don't want is conspiracy talk contaminating useful information or useful discussion in this section of CLM.



#2019-07-15 19:33:38 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

As far as 'traveling Chinese' go, we have what to rely on? The information John cited.

I can't agree with it, nor debunk it - it is what it is.

Joh is correct though, I am talking from experience. I moved from my QLV, of a mere 4 million people, to a one-horse-town of 700,000. It costs 1 yuan for a bus ride across town, and when I take the 50-minute trip to the nearest Wal-Mart, it costs me a staggering 4 yuan each way.

The QLV (Quaint Little Village) that I spent 3 years working in, is a huge metropolis when compared to where I am now, yet is still a fraction of the size of such cities as Shanghai, Beijing, Guangzhou, etc.

Whilst I don't believe for a nanosecond that the population of China is 1.4 billion, there's still a hell of a lot of people!

The 'many' that travel overseas, I contend, is still a very, very small percentage

#2019-07-16 17:08:18 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


There is NOTHING conspiratorial about this blog.

If you think differently, please highlight which parts along with your evidence.


#2019-07-17 13:58:38 by JoeM65 @JoeM65

@paulfox1, @JohnAbbot

I do not know how credible these sites are. But...

An article from January 2016 in Forbes reported that 6% of Chinese citizens had passports.

A newer article from March 2019 in China Daily reports that China issued almost 173 million passports between 2002 and 2017. Currently, more than 10% of the population of China has passports.

I will avoid throwing fuel on the fire (with the political discussion above). It will probably come as no surprise that I do not agree with every point in Paul's article. But, I do think he did a good job describing a vocal minority here in America... Social media and commercial news outlets (a.k.a propaganda) have emboldened that minority to mistakenly think they are in the majority.

Now, back on topic...

I want to thank you, Paul, for some of the information you provided in this blog. This statement actually helped me a little:  "In case you didn't know, all Chinese citizens require an I.D card. In the case of a new-born baby, an I.D card will not be issued unless the baby's parents are married. "

I have a few quick questions for you. (These are things my fiance' already tried to explain to me when I was asking for dates to complete the visa application. I can be a bit dense at times.)

When the 'baby' you refer to above got a little older, is it safe to assume that the child would have needed the I.D. card to start (register for) school?  That means that the parents would have needed to register their marriage before their child could start school? 

#2019-07-17 15:54:45 by melcyan @melcyan

@paulfox1 You have repeatedly contaminated blogs outside of conspiracy corner with CC comments. I think your conspiracy beliefs have given you tunnel vision. I made my comment to John Abbot, not you.

You should be questioning John's comment " I found myself wondering why it was being presented as a CLM blog instead of a Conspiracy Corner blog."

His other comment "a comparison of American culture to Chinese culture broke out. And that is indeed relevant to Western men dating Chinese women."  lead me to point out that there is no reason why such comments can't be on CC. The goal is to keep this section free of CC comments rather than CC free of relevant CLM comments.


#2019-07-18 08:20:45 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Yes. No I.D means you are a 'nobody'. Therefore you cannot start school.

I have come across many adults in the farming community that cannot read nor write simply because they received no education. This is likely because their parents never registered them (supposition here). I'm not sure if there's some kind of time-limit as far as registration goes, but leter in life it will cause loads of problems. For example, no I.D means you can't open a bank account, travel on a train, get a passport, etc.

Definitely not a good idea, methinks. Thanks for your comment.

#2019-07-18 13:28:51 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


The goal is to keep this section free of CC comments rather than CC free of relevant CLM comments.

Again, I ask you - where are the CC comments in this blog?

#2019-07-22 20:50:36 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


You have still not answered my question.

In the interests of your 'conspiracy', allow me to guide you.....

In 1896, a man named Ingersoll Lockwood wrote a book called 'The Last President'. In it he named Trump as being the last president.

In the 1950s, a US TV show called 'Trackdown' showed a conman named Trump who wanted to build a wall.

In the early 2000s, a Simpsons episode showed Lisa as being the president who followed the failure of President Trump, and in 2004, Donald Trump addressed a group of university students and said, 'If you encounter a wall, you must go through it; over it; around it; or under it'

Life is a 'script', and you have been fooled hook, line, and sinker!

#2019-07-23 17:37:43 by kalzorch @kalzorch

Not wanting to use the T word here, let's just say that China does a helluva lot of monitoring and control of its citizenry.  Disallowing access to major portions of the internet, censoring public comments, the tens of thousands of video cameras in the cities, and the infamous social credit score are all part of this.  America is hastening to catch up.  Cutting scenes out of movies is treating adults like children, which is what government is all about everywhere.

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