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Generosity and Hospitality in China    

By LaoGui 老鬼的博客
1191 Views | 20 Comments | 2/28/2019 12:04:37 PM
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#2019-03-01 16:25:51 by melcyan @melcyan

@newbeginning "Positive note: If you have big ears consider yourself lucky........ "

Very funny and very true. For most of my life, I considered that my big ears were a defect and a liability. That all changed in 2010. My Chinese partner believes that I have beautiful ears. After nearly 9 years of hearing the same message from her, again and again, I now believe it too! I now believe that I am lucky to have my big beautiful ears. I find it fascinating that the Chinese see eyes, ears, noses, and general face shape quite differently from Westerners.

#2019-03-02 12:18:35 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@oldghost but also for anyone else who reads it:

You have resubmitted a comment that was, in fact, approved yesterday and is in the comments above.

This normally happens to someone who has let their system become overloaded with cookies. That frequently causes your system to be showing a cached version of our site instead of a live version. Hence you are not seeing anything that went live after your system settled on the cached version.

Please clear your browser and restart your computer. Then log back in and see if the comment is now there.


When you are spending lots of time on one site, you will pick up a lot of cookies from that site. All the more reason to frequently clear your browser and restart your computer.

I might add that Chinese women are frequently guilty of never clearing their browser, including my wife. She never clears her browser. She will spend days fighting issues due to her browser being overloaded with cookies, and never clear it. If one of you ladies would explain this behaviour to me I would really appreciate it, because it is driving me crazy.(headbang)(headbang)(headbang):@

#2019-03-03 17:32:49 by oldghost @oldghost

@John abbot

How do I add a new article?  I cannot see any page control to do so?

#2019-03-03 22:58:45 by annielaw2017 @annielaw2017


I try to reply your question from my personal views.

Theres is some organiztion decide hotel's star according to their hardware and software. That means star costs money.

I can understand the problems you mentioned, but I think Chinese goverment just try to protect foreign tourist's safety  and wealth from some small hotels with poor condition. Besides, if all hotels were opento foreign tourists, they might get more international complaints, that's not good for "face".

I dont hear or see any news or words that foreign people are not welcomed from people I know.

#2019-03-04 13:56:23 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@oldghost - please check your email. I sent instructions a couple of days ago.

#2019-03-10 23:52:51 by sandy339 @sandy339

Yes Lucky you, a wonderful retirment life(y)

#2019-03-14 10:24:53 by oldghost @oldghost

On the other hand, the visa regulations have relaxed dramatically; when I applied for a 3 month 2-visit visa, the consulate offered me instead a 2-year unlimited visit visa, each visit limited to 90 days.  That was welcome and useful.  I am due to renew, and hope I get the same offer again, since I plan to travel to and lecture in Tai'an.  Time to visit Tian Shan too.

#2019-03-28 10:55:45 by spiderboenz @spiderboenz



I’ve been traveling to China regularly for almost a decade, living here for 6 years...

Where is this mythical hospitality, generosity?  Never seen/experienced it.  Never once had anyone offer to pay for anything. Never had a volunteer guide, or even a paid guide.   As far as people giving me a seat...  got hit by a car (IN FRONT OF A CROWD OF PEOPLE), had to walk to the hospital ON A BROKEN LEG because I couldn’t get a taxi to stop, then on the way back from the hospital (AGAIN,with a BROKEN LEG) had to stand the whole subway ride home because no one would give me a seat.  

The hotel regulation has been on the books for at least a decade, but is only being enforced now.  It has to do with controlling the types of foreigners that come to China  (they don’t want poor backpacking students/recent graduates), managing perception/movement within China (can’t go to the more poverty stricken regions if there are no hotels to stay at), and tracking the location of foreigners. Anywhere that a foreigner stays in China has to be registered with the police via a temporary registration permit (what they do when they scan your passport and look for your most recent entry stamp) and the cheap, low end hotels weren’t doing this. 

Bing isn’t blocked. I know this because I’m in China and use it almost daily. 

#2019-03-30 18:46:39 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


I think once you have lived here for a few years you tend to 'not see' the generosity he's talking about - but it DOES exist.

Many years ago some good friends of mine bought a 'beach-block' in West Australia. They were excited! They built a beautiful home there and spent many nights sitting on their balcony looking at the ocean.

That was 10 years ago. Now they just look and say, 'Oh yeah, there's the sea, so what?'

We become complacent.

I've lived in China for the best part of 4 years, and all I see (now), are ignorant assholes pushing in front of me in the supermarket as well as other queues.

Yet at the same time I see very little hostility towards one another. There's no 'hatred', and I am always treated with respect wherever I go.

Even today as I went to my local WalMart (by 'local' I mean 2 hours away), I was approached by an employee who said, 'Welcome to Walmart, Sir. May I help you find the things you need?'

Ok, Ok, Ok, so I'm the only 'gay' in the 'village', and perhaps he was looking for an excuse to practice his English, but nevertheless the guy was genuine and had no 'hidden agenda'

When compared to Westerners, Chinese people are far more 'welcoming' and courteous.

When was the last time you saw a brawl in your local bar, or graffiti under the bridge?

Chinese people get a bad 'rap' for their behaviour abroad, yet if you paid attention to the behaviour of Westerners in China is it any wonder why the Chinese gov want to scrutinise us?

I'm not 'taking sides' here. I'm just pointing out that what the original poster said is 100% correct, and also what you are saying is correct. We have to take into account something called 'context'.


#2019-04-11 15:44:33 by oldghost @oldghost

@spiderboenz the issue of coming to the aid of someone injured is indeed a real blight on Chinese society.  It is partially to do with insurance and their laibility laws.  They have no 'Good Samaritan' law to protect the helpers who go to the aid. There are scams where the helper is sued and made liable for costs.  When I demanded a driver stop so I could go to the aid of a toddler stranded in the middle of a busy road, he refused, later explaining it was a scam with someone standing at the side planning to blackmail me.

However I understand Good Samaritan laws are being introduced into some cities or provinces


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