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Friendship and Love 友情和爱情    

By Xin73
7667 Views | 23 Comments | 12/20/2012 1:56:14 PM

Everyone is eager to have a profound friendship. Friendship is like our life over the road sides opened full of flowers, that we rush about on the road because of the fragrant diffuse and don't think hard. True friendship lies not in its intermediate dopant many interests, but rather it show sincere and honest will to appease people's fretful heart and purify the soul of the people. True friendship in the nature refused to utilitarian,refused to belongingness, refused to tacit understanding, it is independent personality between mutual echo and validation. Is the so-called a hedge between keeps friendship green, bathed in gentleman the friendship of people, to break the hypocrisy and wallow, become more intellect and deep.

Love is a gift of God to humans, maybe God feel humans life too plain and lonely, therefore put the love as the most precious gift given to humans. Love can make people stand aloof from this mortal life, feel paradise of the passion and wonderful. From friendship to love, not only should have thought, the interest is the same,but also have temper,character,and so on special requirements.The love itself after all, there are many friendship can not reach the place,this does not negate the friendship give love and open up the road, but to really to go on the way of love, and love itself should have many special conditions. Between men and women can accomplish a friendship. but will not necessarily development to love. That is because friendship and love are often confused. Someone doubt whether the presence of pure friendship between men and women.

There is a friendship between opposite sexes, it goes beyond the general friends feelings, but is not the love between men and women, temporarily called dissociate both and between the " the third category feelings ", nowadays called to "the blue yan bosom friend". This kind of feeling make heartbeat but don't estrus, let a person warm but without passions, the dull but is lengthy. This affection is the key to an understanding of psyche,the spirit of the blend. The humans feelings is rich and complex, between the opposite sex friendship and love, if from the emotion set out, between men and women first like each other, can gradually developed into a friendship or love. In my opinion "the third category feelings " is also a development and deepening the friendship, can be said to be a deeper, broader the love.

The love is a very special, very wonderful things, it is not all that exists in the marriage, more often even exist in non-marital state,with social ethics of conflict. The friendship and love between the men and women, what it really is? Someone say: love is one body, two souls; friendship is two body, one soul. " I think this sentence probably meaning that: love is two people who love each other should have the human body the union, but at the same time also have their own independent personality, should respect each other; but friendship must be able to the same heart, induction and understanding,but there can be no body the amphibolous.

Between men and women have a deep friendship and treat each other as bosom friend,this is a kind of soul and the thought and spirit can mutual induction of a friend, they can be loyal in friendship and share happiness and sufferings.Between them do not the secular think any deviant behavior, why there is no presence of deviant behavior? it is because they are more reason, more attention to each other 's feelings, and don't want to hurt each other, so suppress the desire.They exist between is life care for, more is career,work support and in the heart tacit agreement and understanding.

Gone through the prosperous and bustle and gone through the bloom of youth,In the age of 40 can meet a “blue yan bosom friend”, the life can have this bosom friend, what else do you want ?

Christmas will is coming,This article would like to pay tribute to everybody in here whatever it is friendship or love can all be satisfactory! Merry Christmas!

友情和爱情

每个人都渴望有一份深刻的友情。
友情就像我们的人生之路两旁开满的鲜花,使得奔波在路上的我们因为有了花香弥漫而不觉得辛苦。真正的友情的动人之处不在于它的中间掺杂了多少利益,而在于它所显现的真挚和诚恳会安抚人们烦躁的心灵,净化人们的灵魂。真正的友情在本性上拒绝功利、拒绝归属、拒绝默契,它是独立人格之间的互相呼应和确认。正所谓君子之交淡如水,沐浴在君子友谊当中的人,能够突破虚伪与沉缅,变得更加理智和深沉。

爱情是上苍给人类的一种恩赐,也许上帝觉得人类生活得太清苦和寂寞,所以把爱情当作最珍贵的礼物赐给人类。爱情可以使人超脱尘世,感到天堂的激情和美妙。从友情到爱情,不仅要有思想,志趣上的一致,还要有脾气,性格等等方面特殊的要求。爱情本身毕竟还有许多友情不能到达的地方,这并不否定友情为爱情开拓了道路,但要真正走到爱情的道路上,还要爱情本身所应有的许多特殊的条件。异性之间可以成就一份友情,但不一定会发展至爱情。那是因为友情和爱情往往令人混淆不清。有人怀疑男女之间能否存在纯真的友情。

有一种异性之间的友情,它超越了一般朋友的感情,却又不是男女之间的爱情,暂称之为游离与两者之间的“第三种感情”,也是时下所称之的“蓝颜知己”。这种感情令人动心但不会动情,让人温暖但不会有激情,平淡却绵长。这种感情重在心灵的了解,精神的交融。人类的感情丰富而复杂,异性之间有友情和爱情,如果从情感出发,男女之间首先彼此喜欢,才能逐步发展成友情或者爱情。在我看来“第三种感情”也是友情的一种发展和深化,可以说是一种更深层次,更广义的爱

爱情是一个很特殊、很奇妙的东西,它并不是全部存在于婚姻中,更甚至往往存在于非婚姻状态中,与社会道德伦理相冲突之中。男女之间的友情和爱情到底是什么?有的人说:爱情是一个身体,两个灵魂;友情是两个身体,一个灵魂。”我觉得这句话的大概意思是:爱情就是相爱的人应当有肉体的结合,但同时也要有各自独立的人格,应该彼此互相尊重;而友情必定是心灵能够相同、感应和理解,但却不能有身体方面的暧昧。

男女之间拥有一份深刻的友情并视彼此为知己,这是一种灵魂和思想以及精神都能相互感应的一种挚友,他们可以推心置腹,甘苦与共。他们之间没有世俗认为的任何越轨的行为,之所以没有越轨的行为存在,那是因为他们更理性,更看重彼此的感情,不想给彼此带来伤害,所以压抑了欲望。他们之间所存在的是生活上的关爱,更多的是事业上,工作中的支持以及心灵上的默契和理解。

走过繁华和喧嚣,走过了锦瑟年华,在不惑之年里能遇到一位“蓝颜知己”,今生夫复何求?

圣诞来临之际,祝各位圣诞节快乐!谨以此文祝愿各位在这里无论是友情或爱情都能够圆满!


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#2012-12-21 10:43:31 by anonymous5015 @anonymous5015

其实爱情没那么复杂,就那么几种形式

在一起很快乐。

在一起不快乐。

不在一起很快乐。

不在一起不快乐。

#2012-12-21 13:16:40 by llyz @llyz

可能是因为当我们的出发点是想要去寻求一段爱情的时候, 我们事先给爱情定下了太多的要求。 但现实要真正实现或达到这些要求不是那么容易和顺利的。在过程中,当爱情的发展不如我们期望的那样, 我们就会觉得这不是我们要的爱情,心里会很沮丧, 会觉得对方并不爱我,或者大家相互根本不合适。然后一段爱情就可能走向失败了。

而当我们的出发点只是想要一段友情, 我们就不会给对方过多的要求。只想发展单纯的男女之间的一段友情的时候, 我们的心态也是处于比较平和的状态。在友谊的过程中, 如果对方的做法大大高于了我们对这段友谊的期待, 那我们就会觉得很幸运,遇上了一段好的友谊, 慢慢得就可能会成为“蓝颜知己”,“红颜知己”。大家如果处得一般, 那就是普通的朋友。

虽然对方都是异性, 但友谊”或“爱情”, 我们交往的出发点不同, 对对方的起始要求也不同。么个人对于“爱情”,起点的标准和期望高, 一旦失败失望也越大,造成的伤害也就越深。但“友情”,一般的期望值,就算失败,对自己造成的伤害也不会很大, 而且“友情”可以同时有很多和在不同的level.

当我们去寻求一段爱情的时候,如果把自己的心态也放在像寻求友谊的位置上, 是不是会好很多?当然“爱情”不可以同时存在好几个, 哈哈哈哈, 那是道德了;-)

“友情”和“爱情”都很重要,我们对它们表达的方式不同,但它们的价值对于我们的生存是同等的, 并且它们之间的关系是可以互补的。哈哈,不要“重色轻友”喔;-)

#2012-12-21 21:55:48 by sara1202 @sara1202

人生贵相知。

友情多了几分平淡,爱情多了几分浓烈。淡如水,烈似酒。

#2012-12-23 12:33:43 by anonymous5026 @anonymous5026

人世间只有3种情缘,既:亲情,友情 和爱情!

#2012-12-24 11:17:49 by cathyf2012 @cathyf2012

I think this is the way of Chinese people to consider about the love, friendship and soulmate. I was confused with it while my foreigner friend asked me to be his soulmate, or his friend.

Most foreigner don't think like that. They open mind, even had sex they may not start a relationship. They think soulmate could had sex, even friends.

I am not here to give you nagative comment. I just want to tell a truth.

Merry Christmas!

#2012-12-25 21:14:40 by Grace172 @Grace172

在我的交友经验里,“蓝颜知己”只能维持一段时间。因为在大家相互交流中发现大家无论在性格爱好等方面都有很多共同点,对事物的看法很一致,从而容易产生心灵上的相互依赖,而到这个阶段它很容易升华为爱情,最终变为情侣。而另一个结局,如果一方的感情升华了,另一方却没有,那最终也只好终止,以免使对方受到伤害。所以如果你能遇到一个蓝颜知己,真的要好好珍惜,因为“它”能让你有心灵上的依托。如果某一天“它”升华为爱情,那我祝福你。我认为在友谊基础上建立起来的爱情可能比一开始就期待的爱情会更持久稳固吧。
我不可能成为你的蓝颜知己,但我愿意成为你的红颜知己。祝你心想事成!

#2012-12-27 10:54:53 by xin73 @xin73

感谢以上各位的评论。
llyz 哈哈。。。我绝对不是那种重色轻友的人哦。如果有一天你,sara1202 和Grace172 相逢于本市,我定会以东道主的身份热情招待各位,让你们品尝本市北部湾的旅游特色:上山下海又出国。我真的好期待有那么一天能与你们会面。
cathyf2012感谢你的提醒,但我相信十个性开放的西方人,也许会有一个是性保守的。总之而言不怕得艾滋病的尽管让他们性开放去吧。
Grace172 你的观点正确,我深受感同。在生活中,本来就只有两个性别,男人和女人。在社会中因为世事纷扰,人有时候真的需要有一个人,在烦恼时,诉说心曲;在开心时,分享乐趣;在失意时,鼓励你振作……这个人并不一定是你的老公。因为老公爱你,但他不一定懂你。
每个人的内心都有一个属于自己的角落。那里可能是儿时没有实现的梦想,也可能 是生活中无时不在的困扰……如果有一个人能真正地走进你的内心,解读你的失意,明白你的困惑,更懂得你的渴望——如果有这样一个人,那他就可以称作你的蓝颜知己或红颜知己,也就是知心朋友!人生遇到这样的男朋友,真的太不容易。男人与女人,在生活认知上有太多的差异。日久生情的故事无处不在,但男女的交往,只要把握好尺度,我相信会有真正的友谊的。
菩提本无树,明镜亦非台,本来无一物,何处惹尘埃?这佛家偈语,也正是它让世人明白:只要你的心是坦荡无私的,你的眼中的世界也就是清澈透明的。 男女间的友谊也是如此。所以我说人生需要知己,需要知心朋友。如果能让我遇到这样的“蓝颜知己”,爱情和婚姻对我来说已经不再重要。

#2012-12-27 18:25:01 by llyz @llyz

谢谢,xin73, 大家一定有机会碰面的 :-)

#2012-12-27 19:27:06 by sara1202 @sara1202

感谢xin73的盛邀,我必定想要去你生活的美丽的城市观赏。

值得庆幸的是我有一位无话不谈、逢谈必欢的女友。

xin73相信你一定能遇到某位“蓝颜知己”或是心仪的知己爱人,这仅是一个时间问题。来自心灵与精神的吸引远非亮丽外表所能企及, 因此,这就为此种吸引多了“理性”一词的注解。

#2012-12-29 18:33:03 by xin73 @xin73

llyz and sara1202
不客气。能在这里与几位认识也是一种缘分,人生难得相识期待的是欢聚的日子。我会有办法联系到你们。
谢谢sara1202 世事难料。许多既定的开始都有一个想不到的结果,所以才耐人寻味,不管是喜的还是悲的,是自己期待的还是自己拒绝看到的,矛盾和落差给这个世界太多的美丽。
人生几何能够得到知己,失去生命的力量也不在乎。一个人走在这人生的路程,能有谁与你共鸣?但愿,也希望每一个人都能找到生命中的知己,并能到,永远!

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