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Born and raised in Maryland, USA, and attended the University of Maryland, but now living in Pennsylvania, RTByrum is an author and publisher of 9 books but does not make a living at it. His places traveled include Britain and China. His past marriage was to a Chinese woman for 3 years. He since claims to have found the secret to happiness and hopes to share that happiness with someone special, and through his blogs, perhaps also with you.
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Dating Chinese Women: My Ideal Match Part 1    

By RWByrum
2403 Views | 19 Comments | 12/11/2017 5:02:10 AM
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#2017-12-18 13:12:01 by RWByrum @RWByrum

@anonymous16731  Personally, I wouldn't tolerate it.  But then again, I have never experienced any of that, either.  My ex-wife did occasionally make remarks such as "I don't know how you have managed to live this long."  To which I would simply respond, "Yet, obviously, I have."

#2017-12-19 22:12:18 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

just listen to you bunch of materialistic morons - NONE of you have a f*ckin CLUE !

How many of you have been to the POOR places in China (or South-East Asia)

How many of you have experienced what it's lke to have NOTHING, yet be prepared to give all you have?

Where a simple HUG is worth a million dollars - because that's what it MEANS to them.

All you care about is looks - how pretty is she ? All she cares about is her I-Phone and her make-up, because that's all she needs to catch you.....

None of you have got a f*ckin CLUE what a GENUINE Human Being looks like.

Go to the rural areas of China - meet the people who have NOTHING - but will give you all they have.....FEEL the warmth and LOVE from GENUINE people who don't give a flying f*ck about how big your house is or how fast your car goes.....

Then you will experience REALITY on a whole new level.....

Jeez....even writing this make me guys don't have a CLUE.......

#2017-12-19 23:49:01 by anonymous16743 @anonymous16743 experience with those traits..."yet" As you delve into your search and eventually meet a Mainland Chinese woman in person in China you will see these traits all around you and will most likely epereince them if the lady is in love with you. Now these slaps, kicks are not meant to injure, the bites, pinches do hurt even when it is lightly done. The shoving is not meant to hurt just to guide you as to where she wants you to go. Calling you dum dum is a way of letting you know she cares for you. As are the blisteringly hot showers you will have(forced lol) to take everyday before bed. This is all done for you because she loves and genuinely cares about you and your health. Remember like I read in a blog here on the emagazine Chinese women are steel rods covered in roses. Mainland Chinese women embody this saying to the maximum. Western Chinese women born in the west US, Canada etc are not like this as much except they still have the fiery tempers lol

Cheers and may the New Year bring you the woman you seek...


#2017-12-20 22:33:58 by RWByrum @RWByrum

@anonymous16743  This is an interesting comment in so many ways.  You obviously view all Chinese women as interchangable parts.  They're all the same, you meet one, you've met them all.  If I shared this attitude, I wouldn't be here at all.  But this attitude seems to be disturbingly quite prevalent here on this website.  But most of the time it is expressed far more subtly.  What is even more interesting is that you cling to your stereotyping so tenaciously that you are willing to make false assumptions about me in order to maintain its integrity.  You write to me as if I had never been to mainland China and never met a woman from there.  But as my first blog entry stated and it is repeated in the mini-bio under my picture, I have been to China.  I have not only met women from mainland China, but I was also married to one for three years.  If I was inclined to stereotype Chinese women as you do rather than see them as the individuals that they are, I would assume that a relationship with one would not be possible.

#2017-12-21 21:00:45 by sandy339 @sandy339

Interesting but now a surprise, you guys who are attracted to Asian woman are only the available westerners to us.;)

"So for me, online dating provides me not only with the opportunity to meet Chinese women, but also the chance to meet available Chinese women interested in a relationship with a western man.  " That is so true in my searching, internet gives us much more chance to know the relavant people: some are so gentleman, some are so mean...(rofl) thanks for sharing your opinions.



“In America up until 1948 it was illegal for a white man to marry a Chinese woman and in Virginia it remained illegal until the Supreme Court declared miscegination laws unconstitutional in 1967. ”wow,that is sooooo historoty:-)



#2017-12-21 22:33:23 by RWByrum @RWByrum

@paulfox1  The only thing you know about me is what I choose to divulge on this website, so you are really in no position to judge me.  As far as that goes, I suspect that I am far closer to having nothing than you are.  Also, while it is perfectly clear that you admire people willing to give up everything they have it is not at all clear if you would do this yourself.  Sometimes we admire others because they are like ourselves.  Sometimes we admire others because they are the opposite of ourselves.

#2017-12-22 21:44:42 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


How do YOU know what I have or don't have? Like you, I only divulge what I need to on here.

I wasn't 'judging you' - I have no right to do that - I was just trying to make a point that we in the West are materialistic b*stards, while some 7 million people in China are humble and live on less than $1 (USD) per day - yet would give it to you.

I lived there for the best part of 3 years. I have seen it with my own eyes, and I am SO glad that I had the opportunity to do so, because it quite literally changed my life.

I wasn't joking when I wrote my last post. My granddaughter was staying with me and she got quite upset when she saw that I was crying as I wrote it.

I can recount DOZENS of experiences that I had in China that had a profound effect on my outlook in life.

We could learn a lot from their society, but they are 'communst', so TPTB discourage us..............once again, it's total BS !





#2017-12-22 22:27:01 by anonymous16755 @anonymous16755

dear MR.RWByrum, how in any way do my comments come off as stereotyping lol, I comment only on what I have seen with my own eyes. I have been to China many times and I am always wideeyed soaking in as much as I can. I see many many Chinese women in more than just 1 city as well as many outlying farming communities treating their men exactly as I described. I have never said it was bad or that it should be stopped, I have only said these behaviours would not be tolerated in the west and how would a western man handle these behaviours.  As for the scalding hot showers I am sure there is more than one fella here who has experienced this themselves.

You said you have been to China one time for 1 week, did I miss understand you? Yes you said you were married to a Chinese woman previously but you did not state if she was American or from China. All my words here are to help not to criticise nor are they meant to be sterotyping of a culture. 

If I was so negative about Chinese people why would I want a Chinese woman and her cultural background? I too have always been attracted to Chinese women and Chinese culture as long as I can remember, I married a white western woman because coming from a small town there were not many Chinese gals and the ones that were there were forbidden by their parents to date outside of their race. So jump start 30 years and here I am involved with a wonderful Chinese woman. 

So put away your barbed words and realize we are on the same side here.

Zai Jian..


#2017-12-24 07:35:09 by RWByrum @RWByrum

@paulfox1  That's true.  I have no idea what you have, but I still think that the odds that you have a lot more than I do are heavily in my favor ;)

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