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Born and raised in Maryland, USA, and attended the University of Maryland, but now living in Pennsylvania, RTByrum is an author and publisher of 9 books but does not make a living at it. His places traveled include Britain and China. His past marriage was to a Chinese woman for 3 years. He since claims to have found the secret to happiness and hopes to share that happiness with someone special, and through his blogs, perhaps also with you.
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Dating Chinese Women: My (Almost) Perfect Match, Part 5    

By RWByrum
2253 Views | 15 Comments | 3/10/2018 12:08:55 PM
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#2018-03-13 10:49:31 by RWByrum @RWByrum


Yes, indeed, everyone judges each other by their appearance, myself included.  I believe this is instinctive.  The only real difference with me is that I employ a different set of criteria.  I honestly don't see this as a problem because the woman I seek will not be put off by my profile pictures. I have no doubt that a good many Chinese women are put off by them.  I don't see that as a problem, either.

#2018-03-14 00:25:36 by newbeginning @newbeginning

anon16930, interesting comments. I find it extremely interesting in how women are visual first just like men. Not many people want to admit this yet it is a fact. If you are a good looking man you will always get lots of attention, if you are not a good looking man you will get far less if any attention. Women are the same all over the world when it comes to being attracted to men. It is up to each of us to decide how we want to present ourselves on this site and in our everyday lives.

Personally I would want a woman to be attracted to how I look first before I ever get to know her, that way I know she finds me attractive then gets to find out who and what I am. I would not want to know that she does not find me appealing first yet cares about me because of my personality or my ability to provide(bank account). You will always know she does not find you handsome or is physically attracted to you. 

these old saying always applie.

"Dress for success"  

"thinking outside the box opens up many more opportunities"

"it is hard to catch a fish if you are not using the right bait"

"doing something the same way everytime and expecting different results is insanity"

I like my own Father's advice he gave me when I was a young lad in regards to girls/women, life in general: dress well, comb your hair, smile, be polite and most of all "be a man".


Je te souhaite beaucoup de chance


#2018-03-14 16:01:37 by fj1383 @fj1383


My bad and really sorry about that, I should've used "some" instead. I got carried away but I completely understood you weren't trying to attack the rest of us readers. Personally, I just couldn't find anything positive by reading RWByrum's latest writings but once again you're so right that we can all learn a few things from him. Afterall even from the negative there are a few lessons to be learnt.


Wow! I make one assumption about you and my comment is palpably stupid?? If I remember correctly, you were the one making assumptions about your almost-perfect match (broken laptop, busy at work, on a trip, etc) as to why she didn't reply you when it could've been obviously and sanely argued that she just wasn't interested in you at all.

Anyways, I agree with JohnAbbot that you may be blessed with a high IQ but I'm wondering about your EQ. It would be really interesting to know the circumstances under which your divorce to your ex-wife took place. I mean, Chinese women in general don't give up on their husbands and marriages so easily and 3 years seems very little to call it quits. It would be really eye-opening to know your ex-wife's reasons and your reasons as to why you both couldn't be together any longer.

In my personal experience I had to compromise on some things in order to be happy with my wife, it's been 4 years and the change of mind and attitude have been totally worth it just to have her in my life. I'm sure plenty of married guys here can tell you that the key to a successful marriage is "learning to compromise". Roger, Are you capable of doing that?? You can answer this to yourself.

In the end women will always be women, it runs in their blood their wish to fix and improve things.  So even if a woman accepts you for who you are, this doesn't mean she will accept everything you are....specially not after getting married!(giggle)(giggle). It's up to us guys to figure out whether that woman in our lives is worth all of her demands!(whew)(whew)(rofl)(rofl).

Cheers to ALL single guys out there and the Best of Luck!(beer)(beer)

#2018-03-16 02:09:23 by anonymous16938 @anonymous16938

I think most here are blessed with high IQ's but we lead with our hearts on our sleeves and we get burned easily by women. Most women try change us from what they fell in love with in the first place. Sad but true, talk about insanity right. lol If anything they are the ones that need to accept change in their lives...

I think RWByrum's way of finding his mate by being steadfast in his wants and needs in a partner will either bring him what he wants or he will remain single for the forseeable future, better single than settling.

In the west more and more men are choosing to be single rather than get married or even have a gf because of the all out assault on western males by feminists and far left groups trying to strip us of our masculitnity and rights. I believe that is why we western dudes choose to find Chinese wives....

#2018-03-19 04:39:08 by Sergey77 @Sergey77



@ anonymous16938

High IQ is not a blessing, but a curse. I live in the west and have never seen an attack of feminists. Only the surgeon can deprive man's dignity and this is against the law. And do not judge all by myself, I like the Chinese girls for a number of psycho-physiological characteristics, and it does not matter who dominates me. If you do not have dignity, then you can not bow down before your woman and kiss her legs and have dignity. In a marriage feelings and fidelity are important, and the compromise here is to step on your dignity in order to make your loved one happy and then you will have happiness.

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