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Imi was born and raised in Europe, Hungary. After finishing his school years, he moved to Canada to search for a better life. He lived in Toronto for 13 years and currently resides in Vancouver. He is a romantic at heart with a strong desire to always do the right thing. He would like to give hope to the Chinese and Asian ladies with his story and send a message that love eventually finds everybody.
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Could It Be My Last Christmas?    

By Imi
2912 Views | 13 Comments | 12/22/2016 12:17:50 PM

What could be better than snuggling up on a couch and reading a good book at Christmas time? Well, I genuinely believe that there's nothing wrong with that picture. In truth, there have been times when I preferred being alone to giving up my solitude for anybody. However, times have changed, and I have certainly changed with age—for better or for worse, I can't really say. What I can truly say is that if I could, I would spend this holiday season in a more enjoyable setting.

From my window, I can see a city covered in snow. Vancouver, the radio said the other day, hasn't received a significant snowfall for about a thousand days. However, at the beginning of December, after nearly three years, we got a big one that could last for the entire holiday season. I, myself, have the belief that the Christmas spirit has always been carried the furthest with the white stuff on the ground, so I'm not in the least beefed about a white Christmas. Walking in the snow can bring me a sense of peacefulness, amity, and harmony, which I believe we are all in very much in need of as of late. As a matter of fact, what else could you really feel other than contentment when listening to the snow crunching under your feet while the piercing, crystal clear air fills your lungs with purity?

Earlier today, in the morning, I went snowshoeing. The sun was a golden yellow. The sky was the bluest of blue. And I was surrounded—as far as my eyes could see—by this white mass on the mountain. This scenario, I believe, in some way, could have done magic even to the world's bitchiest person's soul through its ineffable beauty. Along the trodden, narrow path that I followed, small pine trees were bowing down under the weight of the snow. For the shortest time, I felt as if I were the ruler of the forest, taking my morning stroll in my kingdom.

I was at peace up there, but now, as I lie on the couch, I'm having difficulties finding my tranquility. My thoughts are fluttering. The book I'm reading is surely interesting with its sudden twists of plot, but my mind can't and won't follow the storyline no matter how hard I concentrate. I close the book, stand up, and go to the window. The city outside is unusually quiet. The streets are empty; the houses are lit up with Christmas lights; families are having dinner. I surely hope that it isn't only me who's alone. There must be some people like me in this city who are pensively staring out their windows and thinking about loved ones or—do not be so—lost ones.

I miss my wife.

My wife and I thought this Christmas would be the last that we would spend apart. Unfortunately, it may not very well be. In all likelihood, I will still be standing by myself and looking out the window next year at Christmas time. Our case has not even started yet. If it wasn't enough fighting against the bureaucracy of Canadian Immigration and its excessively strict rules, my wife has an ex-husband who refuses to give her their son's birth certificate. She needs a copy of that certificate for her son to be able to visit her, or in the future, if the son decides to join his mother in Canada, he could easily do so with his mother's sponsorship. If my wife isn't able to prove to Canadian Immigration that she's a mother, she can never sponsor her son's immigration, let alone submit a visitor visa for him.

I know everything is going to be resolved one day. It's just sometimes frustrating to know that there are people in the world who will use every means at their disposal to make your life miserable.

It's holiday season. What better time is there to have someone in your life who is thinking about you—and better yet—spending the holidays with you? My wife, at the moment, is working in China, but I'm sure she knows that I'm thinking about her. She has never decorated a Christmas tree. She has never walked in the snow. Nor she has ever felt the indescribable allurement of a snow-covered mountain. One day, she will experience all of those things. But until it happens, I will stare out my window at Christmas time, watch the snow glittering small diamonds in the streetlights, and imagine her sidling up to me and folding her arms around my waist.

“Merry Christmas, baby. I miss you.”

I would also like to wish a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all who are involved in any way at CLM/ALM.

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#2016-12-22 12:30:12 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

Imi, first  I am sorry that you're going through the issues getting your wife over to Canada to live with you. I'm sure you've tried everything already but I am curious. Is it not possible for her to go to the government department in China that issues birth certificates (which are a relatively new thing in China) and simply request and pay for a copy from them?

I lived in Vancouver for 6 years and never saw any snowfall that lasted on the ground for over a day, so if your current one is lasting a month I have to assume it's a colder winter than normal. While I am sure it is creating havoc there to have snow on the ground and in the streets for so long, I would assume it is very beautiful and very Christmassy.

It's a shame you can't spend it with your wife, but based on the photos you've posted, she looks to be both beautiful and very nice, so I am sure it is worth the wait, as annoying and lonely as the wait may be. Hang in there, my friend. Our thoughts are with you.

#2016-12-22 13:30:45 by melcyan @melcyan

Imi, I wish you peace and connection at this time of Christmas. May you live every moment fully in the present and at peace.


Please don't waste any time imagining a fairy-tale future, no matter how tempting that might be. Stay in the present moment and be at peace with yourself and the world. Only this way will you stay alert to everything that you need to do.


Staying peacefully  present best serves both your needs  and your wife's needs.


Wishing you all the very best. 


Your friend, melcyan




#2016-12-24 01:35:01 by anonymous15741 @anonymous15741

Imi, beautiful girl. Congrats on your marriage to her. I'm sure I'll experience the same thing as I'm probably going to China to get our marriage certificate. Then I'll have to return to the US as I'll be on a tourist visa. So, I'll miss her a lot, especially after becoming one flesh. Lift you up during this Christmas season.

#2016-12-24 18:56:11 by Imi5922 @Imi5922





Thank you all for your comments.


You are right, John. There is never a significant amount of snow in the city that lasts for long. We've got a big one again this Monday, but as I write this, only the side roads still have it because it rained yesterday. Anyway, there are a lot of the white stuff in the mountains.


It seems that my wife's ex-husband began to understand what Janessa has been trying to explain to him about the papers. But it wasn't really him who was the problem but the guy's parents. I hope everything will be solved soon, and we can finally start doing our case.


Melcyan, thank you for your well-intended advice. I will try to do my best to manage a family. I've got a very smart and lovely partner to achieve that successfully in the majority of the time.


Anonymous, thank you for your kind words. I wish you luck to obtaining your marriage license, getting married, and bringing your new wife to live in the U.S.A. with you. From the US, you might be able to accomplish that sooner than me from here. You guys at least have a fiancee visa that you call K1, I believe. Canada had the same kind of visa, but after 9/11, it abolished it. Where did actually 9/11 happen? My wife will move to Vancouver without actually seeing the place she might very well spend the rest of her life in. She's from south of China. When I mention to her, it's five above zero, which is very common at this time of the year here, she is already shivering in the camera. I didn't dare to tell her about -10 that we had a couple of weeks ago. I can already see myself buying a huge parka for her as a present for Christmas.


Happy Holidays!              

#2016-12-25 13:25:59 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

Imi, it's certainly a shame that you cannot be together at Christmas time. However, as a Chinese, she probably doesn't really understand how Westerners feel about Christmas, and what it means to the individual, in the same way you do.

Your plight is not unique to you guys either. Thanks to people who essentially abused-the-system for years, we all now face much stricter government rules and regulations when it comes to 'importing' a bride.

It's a classic case of dishonest people ruining things for honest people. Don't let the bastards grind you down!

All the best for Christmas and the new year!

#2016-12-25 20:46:05 by Imi5922 @Imi5922



Unfortunately, our case is being ruined by me. Previously, I had sponsored someone from Hungary with whom I had a common-in-law relationship for four years. That case from the past cast a big shadow on our current case. So, I think our situation is unique.


You're right. Probably, my wife can't grasp the true Christmas atmosphere yet, but she will one day and looks forward to it. 


Thanks for the comment. 

#2016-12-26 00:44:09 by anonymous15748 @anonymous15748

Imi, sorry to hear of your trouble with Canadian Immigration, they sometimes are complete morons but like PF said the previous abusers have ruined it for the present and future applicants. I am in the same boat as you.

If the ex's parents are behind the delay or with holding of birth certificate it may mean they want money to let it go. It happens alot. Just sayin"

I too am missing my Chinese partner this Christmas....



#2016-12-26 16:20:17 by paulfox1 @paulfox1



Ah......that explains a lot! My thoughts are that the government sees you as a person with an ' unsuccessful history' when it comes to sponsoring a partner, so I can see how it would potentially throw a huge spanner in the works!


As I often say; 'It'll all be OK in the end. If it's not OK, it's not the end!'


Keep your chin up!

Good Luck with it all.

#2016-12-26 19:51:33 by meg @meg



Not all people like that want money, I had nearly the same difficulty as this before, but both families helped me do with it after more than one year.

Imi, if your wife's son is younger than 18, the only way is to comunicate with his father, or only when he is 18, he can do anything he likes.

Best wishes to you.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

#2016-12-27 02:18:41 by Imi5922 @Imi5922



Thank you for the comment. It seems now I don't need to pay anything to the ex's parents. That is a great development. However, I still need to go back to China at least twice before my wife could live with me. Hopefully, both of our situations will be solved in the near future. Good luck to you and your partner in the upcoming Year!


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