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Chinese Dating Via Thailand Part 5: Home and a Chinese Dating Experience to Remember    

By Paul Fox
2697 Views | 5 Comments | 2/10/2015 4:39:45 PM

After arriving at the hotel feeling totally exhausted we finally got the sleep we so desperately needed.Tomorrow was New Years Eve and Amy needed to work.

New Years Eve itself turned into an early night after having a huge and heated argument that essentially threatened to ruin the new year holiday but Amy was off work New Years Day and she had planned a full day, and I'm not a spiteful kind of guy.

The "world-and-his-wife" had already seemed to have hit the road by the time we set off around 8.30 on the morning of Jan 1st. Amy's friend, her husband and young son were driving us all to a famous place in Liuzhou's hills - we were going for a Chinese barbecue!

The typical drive was about 90 minutes but on New Year's Day? ..... Double it! 

It was a stunning place nestled on one of Liuzhou's 2 rivers and set between 2 lovely mountains. The bbq food was included in the admission price, as were the cooking facilities etc - only drinks were extra charge.

After we ate and took some photos there was a traditional Chinese show to watch before taking a boat trip across to the other side of the river.

We arrived at what appeared to be a very old village. Pictures of Chairman Mao adorned the walls of the old buildings and market stalls were selling military merchandise.

You could try on the military clothing and buy it as a souvenir if you wanted to. Amy and her friend took advantage and asked me if I wanted to do the same. Somehow it didn't seem polite for a westerner to don 1970's Chinese military clothing so I politely declined. Amy and her friend posed for some photos before Amy put her cap on my head. My our own party were taking photos of me, all the passers-by were stopping in their tracks and asking for a photo either OF me or WITH me! Obviously the sight of a westerner wearing this Chinese military hat was something to behold - lol

They asked me again if I wanted to put on the full uniform but had i done so, i think i would still be posing for photos 24 hours later haha 

Eventually the boat took us back to the park and it was time to eat more food. I was still full from the lunchtime bbq but apparently this was just a 4.30pm snack before dinner.

As we prepared to leave another of Amy's friends who was also at the park, invited us to join her and some of her old classmates to eat and drink during the new year celebrations. Of course, it's impolite to refuse and although I was absolutely stuffed, we went with her for the short drive to meet her classmates.

We turned off the main road and drove for what must have been 3 or 4 kilometers down an old bumpy farm track before arriving at what was quite obviously a farm. Buildings from several decades littered the landscape and we were welcomed into one of them.

Inside were around 20-30 people, heaps of freshly cooked food along with beer and various other liquid refreshments.

In what I have learned to be typical male chinese style, the guys always want to drink with the westerner lol. As soon as my glass was empty, it was refilled so I could drink with the next guy, and the next.....

I'm full.....well and truly...but these lovely Chinese people kept telling me to eat, dtink....but I physically could not cope with any more food or beer.

It was time to go. 7pm had been and gone, i was stuffed to capacity and I had a headache due to the wine i had drunk in the morning  (i can't drink in the day time)

As we headed back to the car, Amy's friend who had taken us there stood outside the front door chatting to her classmates 

Naturally we assumed she was saying goidnight but alas, we were off to another farmhouse for yet more food and drink.

Once again we were welcomed into the house of these warm and friendly Chinese farmers, food adorned the table and beer was flowing.

Amy pulled a grape from a bunch and offered it to me - i had to refuse because I was scared of vomiting due to the copious amounts of food and drink that I had already gorged - most of it out of politeness.

I began to feel quite bad. These lovely people had invited us into their home to share food and drink with them and i was totally incapable. "How rude" I thought to myself. Fortunately Amy was able to explain that I was stuffed and they accepted the excuse gracefully.

My head was sore and Amy asked if i wanted a massage but a massage on an alcohol related headache is about as much use as a chocolate fire guard.

I  decided that the best thing for me was to retire to the car and try to sleep a while but it was pretty much time to get going anyway and I was silently relieved. I slept the whole way back to the hotel and when I got to the room around 11pm I just crashed and burned.

I felt happy and somewhat privileged to experience what i guess most western visitors to China would never get to experience - sharing food and drink on a traditional Chinese working farm, away from suburbia, in the middle of nowhere with traditional Chinese farmers. In a strange way, i guess they may have felt a little "privileged " too - after all, it's not every day they get the only westerner in town visiting them lol.

Although they may never see my words here, I want to publicly thank them from the bottom of my heart for their kind and warm hospitality.

After the farm trip, once again we had a serious and heated disagreement about a huge issue that can often come between 2 people and it was at that time I realized what a huge mistake I had made. I prefer not to discuss the matter further because that would not be fair to her as she can't really present her side.

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#2015-02-10 16:49:56 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

First, we apologize that this post isn't translated but AnnieHow has found herself suddenly moving from one side of the world to another, and she just hasn't had time to get to the translation quite yet.

Paul, I can't count the number of sojourns I took into rural or small town China during my time there, but like yours they always lead to some great times, great food and lots of comradery and fun among new friends downing a few beers. You've really made me miss China with this post.

On the other hand I am saddened, as no doubt are all your readers, by the news that Amy and you did not quite work out. I also respect and frankly much appreciate your decision not to get into whatever it was that did come between you and Amy because, given her status as a member on CLM, I don't think that we could have published it in fairness to her. You've definitely taken the high road and my hat is off to you!

#2015-02-10 22:15:34 by Barry1 @Barry1


"once again we had a serious and heated disagreement about a huge issue that can often come between 2 people and it was at that time I realized what a huge mistake I had made"

Thanks for this, Paul.

You've told us over the past few episodes some rollicking tales of you and Amy traveling to Thailand together, enjoying yourselves immensely. Except for one big argument on the last night in Thailand and now one final big argument in China.

I'm not sure how long you'd been chatting to Amy on the internet before you two actually met each other. No doubt, you both were very polite and friendly on the net, but your story shows that the rubber really hits the road between two people when finally you meet face to face.

Going away to Thailand on your first meeting with Amy was in many ways, a good move. It accelerated the discovery of any potential differences between you two. Thus it served its purpose. You both saved time, by each learning more quickly about the other person.

It's sad though that the relationship failed. It's brave of you however to tell us all here on CLM the story, as disappointing and painful as no doubt it was at the time. Real life isn't like in the movies, where happy endings are the rule. Your tale brings this harsh reality home to all of us.

Thanks mate for sharing it with us. (y)

#2015-02-11 23:10:01 by sandy339 @sandy339

I notice you have changed the pictures here,
I don't know what kind of disagreement you two had, but it is easy to associate(giggle)
You could sincerely talk what is truely in your mind, I think you will get over?
Good Luck!

#2015-02-16 16:33:54 by Anniehow @Anniehow

Hi John I have moved back to China and soon it is Chinese New Year and I will spend time with my family (it has been a few years that I lived away from them).

It will be after Chinese New Year that I could send you translations. Gmail is blocked in China so you have to email me via yahoo. Could you post your email address here? Part 5 is not revised, right? If part 6 is revised please send me the revised version.

Chunjie kuaile everybody!

#2015-03-03 02:08:22 by Grace172 @Grace172

I read your series in one breath. I laugh when reading this serie. Your writing is still so vivacity even when you are dowm for the broken relationship.
In China, the popular way of expressing hosts' warm welcome to the guests is to treat the guests a big meal and "force" the guests to eat and drink as much as they can or even more than they can. Even in our family union dinner, my father always "forces" everyone (except himself) to eat this to eat that despite we have told him many times that we were too full to eat. So when I had foreign friends to eat out with my father, I told him in advance not to do this to the foreign guests as the cultures are different. My poor father then felt uneasy and unconfortable at the table while he watched the foreign guests ate "too little" but could not help. I felt very sorry for him.
I am sorry for you and Amy. But there are still so many ¥100 notes somewhere in the street. I believe you will find out and pick up one note which really belong to you after you look carefully in the street.
Good luck!

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