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Born in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, Daniel has lived in Toronto, Canada for 28 years. He’s a loving father, practicing dentist, divorcee and a well traveled “citizen of the world”. Having had extensive experience with online dating, travel and life in the Philippines, Daniel will tell it like it is and will no doubt open some eyes. He is currently engaged to a Chinese lady that he met on CLM and will very soon get married. However, he's seen a dark side too. Get ready for the good, the bad and the ugly.
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Asian Dating: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly - Chapter I    

By Daniel Chermont
3903 Views | 4 Comments | 4/1/2011 11:58:34 PM

We are all different and yet, we are so similar. We come from different backgrounds, different racial groups, speak hundreds of different languages and dialects and have sometimes very distinct cultures. However, some dreams are Universal, common denominators to all human beings.

Most people dream of loving someone and to be loved, having a family, a home to call his/her own, to have fun with life, to work on something rewarding financially and also interesting to do.

I am old enough to remember that not very long ago, a long distance relationship would become a novel and a simple trip an Odyssey...

People exchanged hand written letters, that would take in today's terms a long time to reach its destination. They would eventually talk on the phone, an expensive thing in the past for most people. To love someone that lived in another city or even another country, was no easy task.

I have a sister that lived in Brazil and exchanged letter with a young student from Pakistan, being trained in Oxford the prestigious British University, for eight years. They later got married, had 3 kids, 8 grandchildren and lived as one of the happiest couples I have ever met for 40 years, till he passed away 3 years ago. I wonder if something like that would happen today. Probably not. How many people do we know that would have the patience to wait so long to get married to someone? People expect instant results, instant gratification.

In the last decades, with the advent of Jumbo Jets, fax machines, cheap international calls, the internet and other wonderful things, the rules of the game changed totally. The most remarkable difference is the speed in which things happen. I guess we changed ourselves as a result of the fast progress in so many fronts. But in essence, the dreams and hopes remain the same, just the speed, the parameters and expectations changed.

Nowadays, we have dozens and dozens of dating sites that are getting very specific. Some sites are organized to approach people of the same religious group, similar interests, Education, social status, ethnicity etc, which in theory would maximize the chances of people finding someone suitable to be his or her partner in life.

I find the greatest virtue of internet dating, the fact of being somehow safe, make people, specially ladies, more comfortable discussing a variety of topics and also allowing a person to hopefully have an insight in the soul of a prospective candidate. So we can gather as much information as possible, before meeting face to face.

Some might say, well, we don't have the benefit of sharing a kiss, of looking eye to eye, walking holding hands etc. Yes, it is true, but also, we don't get distracted or confused just by appearances. We all know that people can attract us, have all the things we like in the outside, but lack the real qualities and the internal beauty we hope for, that are the real ones that bond people for a long time or even forever. As they say "beauty is just skin deep".

I have been divorced for 4 years and since I love family life and simply do not enjoy living alone, I decided to join some dating sites, hoping to find someone special to share my life with.

I joined a few sites, met some interesting people and also some opportunists and even outright crooks, professional and sophisticated liars and scam artists that join these sites trying to take financial advantage of others. The vast majority are normal, decent and honest people who are also looking for someone to establish a serious relationship leading to a commitment. But it takes all kinds to make the world and not everybody has little wings in their backs and a halo on top of their heads.

From all the sites I joined, some for a longer time than others, the only one Asian Dating sites that apparently really care for their clients are the CLM/ALM sites (soon I am told they will also offer a site for Latino people). They go to the extent of even exposing people that try to prey on their clients and offering tools as instant translation, video cam and also giving clients the ability of checking the last IP location. I also enjoy the hints they give us about Asian cultures and the possibility to send flowers to a lady we like.

I will write about what I have seen and people that I met, in the Philippines, these days one of the countries with a large concentration of people trying to make money from the new industry, "take the foreigner to the cleaners, if possible", get as much money out of him as you can.

I will also write about my experiences with Russian and Ukrainian ladies and later on, Latino girls, that I know so well, because it is my own culture, the people I grew up with.

I believe that the intelligent person learns with his own mistakes, but the wise ones, learn with other people's mistakes. I will do my best to transfer to the reader of such articles, my personal impressions, the way I perceive things, facts and situations I got involved with. The whole idea is to help the reader to avoid being scammed as I was. I paid a high price both financially and emotionally for my stupidity and good faith. I will write about the Good, the Bad and the Ugly.

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#2011-04-02 09:20:01 by mina @mina

Thanks a lot for your sharing! We all look forward to reading more from you.

#2011-04-02 15:05:10 by moonriver @moonriver

i'm waiting...

#2011-04-03 04:36:00 by bmccull @bmccull

Another promising new blogger! I am very much looking forward to your next submissions.

#2011-04-03 23:31:51 by yiyan5715 @yiyan5715

nice article, long for reading.....

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