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Neil Yaun prides himself on knowing a little about everything, despite no formal college education. He is self-educated, with a love of Chinese culture focused on their history and traditions. Growing disillusioned with the direction America is taking and his negative experiences with American women he is seeking a new path in China. He plans to teach English in China. This blog is about the journey to China and all the pitfalls along the way.
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A Dream Within a Dream    

By Neil Yaun
7082 Views | 19 Comments | 5/3/2013 2:26:21 PM

I’d like to thank CLM from the bottom of my heart for being exactly what it’s advertised as, a great place for western men to meet and fall in love with the Chinese women of their dreams. I met Windy on CLM in May of 2010. We hit it off immediately and found we shared a lot in common. It was great to talk to someone who was so honest. I had already decided to move to China to teach English for a year and Windy gave me a lot of encouragement when I hit obstacles along the way in getting my paperwork done in the states.

I arrived in China on November 4th in Shanghai and was China culture shocked within the first hour of stepping off the flight. I spent a week in Hangzhou getting my bearings and exploring the culture around West Lake. Then it was off to Guangzhou to meet Windy.

The weather had been cold in Hangzhou, but as soon as I stepped off the train after a 21 hour ride I broke into a sweat. Part of it was the humidity but there were also the butterflies that had built up in my gut on the trip there.

Guangzhou station was packed with people from all over China. I didn’t know but it was the opening of the Asian Games and the guys in black with machine guns guarding the station was not the romantic scenario I had in my head when I envisioned meeting Windy.

The thousands of people at the station that day disappeared the moment I saw her. It was something out of a movie for me where time stands still and nothing else in the world exists. She was even more beautiful than her photo led me to believe. I gave her a big hug and immediately knew I was the luckiest man on the planet.

We spent two weeks together experiencing all the joys that come with new love. There were many firsts for both of us during that time. She had never eaten with a knife and fork and I’d never had dim sum. Unfortunately life also intervenes in moments of extreme happiness and I had to find a job.

I left Guangzhou after two weeks because I wanted to live in Hangzhou after seeing how beautiful it is there. I began looking for work in Hangzhou and was having no luck. It was a frustrating time for me because I was alone in China again. I kept in constant contact with Windy who supported me emotionally as I went through a rough patch.

My plan was to have her move to Hangzhou after I had settled in and she even offered to come up to join me to try to help early but I was still a bit stubborn about wanting to do this on my own.

It finally became apparent I was a little nervous about getting married again even though I knew she was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I had just finished my divorce before coming to China, so even though she was my heart and soul I didn’t want to rush things.

Windy was extremely understanding about everything, and gave me the strength to work hard to build our future together. After two years together I knew it was time to complete the circle and become one.

I decided just after a month in Hangzhou that it would not be a place I could live for now, so I packed up and decided to try my luck in Guangzhou with Windy.

When I got back to Guangzhou we picked up where we left off and life, no matter how frustrating, had no sway over me because Windy would say the right thing at the right time and my spirits would be renewed and I would keep fighting the fight for another day. It was during this time I got a job with a Canadian school here in Guangzhou. That’s was how we started our life together.

So we went to see her family in Panyu and I got their blessing and began preparations. We filled out the paperwork last October in what would have to be the least romantic part of our Chinese wedding story. I continued to save up for the big day where all of her family and my friends would come together to share in our joy.

That day came on April 1st. Her family used a traditional way of determining the date by visiting a soothsayer which to me at the time almost felt like that was preparing an elaborate April fool’s joke on me but when the day came it was more than I could have imagined.

My beautiful Chinese wife, dressed in a traditional red and gold Chinese dress, took my breath away the moment I saw her. I felt another moment of bliss as I realized that from this moment till the end of our lives we would be together and the happiness washed over me.

Standing on a stage with almost three hundred family members and friends watching us as we exchanged rings and devoted our lives to each other, I couldn’t help but feel like my life had taken on movie qualities again. Only this was the part at the end of the movie when you see the guy and the girl ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after.

Now, I will be honest, I don’t always believe in happily ever after, but I do believe in it when two people love each other the way Windy and I do. You do everything you can to make it work.

Love isn’t about the picture perfect. It is about Compromise and compassion. It’s about trust and tribulation, and if you are willing to take a leap of faith when things seem their darkest. You will find there is someone out there who completes you and will fill that empty part of your life.

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#2013-05-03 14:56:08 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

This is one Success Story that really pleases us here at CLM. Not that all our Success Stories aren't important, but Neil is a special case. I'm not sure how Neil and I came into direct contact, but my best guess is that he had written to us for advice on moving to China or teaching in China, and it got passed up to me to try to answer.

Anyway, we had just started the blogs, and during my communications with Neil I was really impressed with his forthrightness in laying out for me his goals and aspirations that had drawn him to China.

It turned out that Neil had been unable to afford a University education, and as such he was unable to fulfil his dream of becoming a teacher. He had decided to come to China largely because he was aware that countless High School graduates from the west were coming to China to obtain teaching positions in English Second Language Schools. Of course it didn't hurt that he'd met a great Chinese girl on CLM too.

Anyway, it all sounded pretty challenging, and also a very worthwhile goal, so I decided that it would make a great ongoing blog to have Neil contribute his Chinese adventure to all CLM members while he was in the process of living them.

Neil accepted and immediately began telling CLMers about his life. Now what a treat it is to welcome him back so soon after he has married his lovely Chinese bride. It is really great to see that through diligence and hard work, you are achieving all those goals you laid out to me a few years ago.

We couldn't be happier for you Neil. Hopefully you'll enjoy your return to the blogs so much that you'll once again become a regular contributor.

Cheers to you and your lovely Bride, Windy. May you be forever happy together!

#2013-05-03 15:34:48 by kasey @kasey

Much congratulations for Wendy and Neil............

#2013-05-04 01:59:46 by madmac @madmac

Hi Neil, just read your blog entry and I have to say congrats and good luck to you and your lovely wife. I have to admit to telling that I had many pangs of envy while reading your words. You allowed me to feel what it must have been like the very first time you saw the person you loved but had not yet seen in person ( I hope I get to feel the same way someday).

The support you recieved from her, her family and your family sounds wonderful, just like we all can hope for. To share your day with 300 people is amazing and you should be very proud. I would agree you got the movie ending we all wish for! I look forward to your next entry on your new life!

Good luck and good fortune...

#2013-05-04 10:28:59 by anonymous6104 @anonymous6104


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#2013-05-04 14:54:14 by amylu @amylu

哇!看到这好兴奋又点起了我的希望。wow wendy and neil congratulations ! beautiful bride . it make me feel exciting to this happiness and more expectation of my........
wish very one luck

#2013-05-04 14:54:17 by anonymous6111 @anonymous6111

哈哈哈,,此对夫妇 乃绝配!前无古,后无来,羡慕,祝贺, 恭喜!恭喜!!!

#2013-05-04 15:03:22 by anonymous6112 @anonymous6112


#2013-05-04 15:33:23 by dramazing @dramazing

A wonderful, very heart-warming story Neil...I am so happy for you both. Of course, yours is a dream for most of us within this stands as a wonderful example of true love, and the purity of 2 people meeting with only intentions of happiness. It is both extremely moving, and a beautiful tale that I enjoyed reading immensely.
Thank you for sharing this with us all, and may I wish you only the greatest happiness together......with just a tinge of envy! ;)
stay happy always :)

#2013-05-04 19:04:16 by lhui @lhui

congratulations! May you be forever happy together!

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