It is getting harder. My second son is returning home for 12 months. I have 3 areas of my house that are floor to ceiling clutter. I now return to the state where I have 2 adult sons living with me. This will be a truly testing time for relationships. It will test my relationship with my beautiful Chinese wife. It will test my relationships with my two sons. It will test the dark corners of my relationship with myself. 

Every time I visit China I am overwhelmed and embarrassed by the generosity of the people towards travellers.  It's not part of our Western culture, at least not part of the Australian culture, but it is a seemingly sacred part of Chinese culture. In 20 years, 8 trips to China, I cannot remember being permitted to foot a restaurant bill, pay for bus tickets, no matter how speedy I am with the wallet, VISA or Weixin qianbao.  There is a conspiracy it seems between the waitresses and Chinese clients to reject laowai payment!

Decluttering is all about love. Great love is all about presence. Being present is a 24 hour a day activity.

Back in September 2018 John published my blog entitled 'Traditional Misery' Now, in February 2019, I am even more at a loss when it comes to understanding so-called 'tradition'.

This article is a follow up on the previous blogpost. If you haven’t read the previous article, don’t worry. I’ll summarize. For an English class, my wife, Yong, had the assignment to take a survey from a book “Five Love Languages” (5 lovelanguages.com). The premise of the book is that there are five basic ways couples communicate with each other. These five ways are: (1) Acts of service; (2) Quality Time; (3) Physical touch; (4) Giving Gifts; (5) Words of affirmation. A happy relationship is premised on knowing your partner’s main communication styles and working with them.

Hopefully you've read part 1 of this blog, because it kind-of sets the scene for part 2. You can go read it first here...  

We think that ChinaLoveMatch.net is the best online Chinese dating site there is dedicated to Western men dating Chinese women for the purpose of long-term relationships or marriage. But you don't need to take our word for it, because CLM has recently received 3 very positive reviews on 3 highly responsible and popular review sites in the International Dating arena. All of these reviews came about by these sites all approaching us and asking for interviews. We did not approach them.

Life’s a continuing work in progress, full of challenges. Communicating appropriately with ladies, especially ones from another culture, is exactly the same. A learning process, a bit of a minefield, in fact.

For those of you who are familiar with the hit UK TV comedy show called 'Little Britain', you'll already know the character in the main picture.

Part 1 of this blog was published early. By that I mean I hadn't finished writing it at the time John published it. Therefore it's become a 'two-parter'. At the end of part 1 I said that the answer to finding love in the 'right place' is a matter of 'frequency'. So, I guess I should start part 2 by clarifying what I mean by that.