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In the world of online Chinese and Asian dating there really is nothing quite like them. That's because the blogs are written by real Chinese or Asian women and real Western men, all members of CLM or ALM. The forum is for members to discuss serious cross- cultural issues, and problems relating to long distance international internet dating. But the blogs and forum are about more than that, much more, because we believe that the members' understanding of each other's diverse history, traditions, food, parenting beliefs, and cultural background are incredibly relevant in developing a strong and lasting mutual love. Likewise the sharing of mutual interests, such as travel, cooking, gardening, humour, modes of entertainment, hobbies, crafts, spiritual beliefs, and many other factors are crucial to maintaining a healthy bond. Unlike other dating sites who publish endless fluff that has no value beyond enticing people to join, at and we understand your desire is not simply to meet someone special today, but to join someone special for life. We keep it real, to ensure your newfound Chinese or Asian love lasts forever.
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I have been away for a while but have been checking in every now and then to see what people have been writing on the blogs and forums - one Do Not Change Who You Are!!! in particular caught my eye and I felt I might like to comment on it a bit!
Further to my most recent blog posting entitled “Find Your Chinese Love by Having a Long Term Plan (Part 3)” I’d like to now clarify some points mentioned there about some (not all but SOME) Chinese women. I made the statement that if you start professing great love and commitment to one or even several Chinese woman after only having briefly met her on the internet “all you are doing is guaranteeing yourself that the women you do meet will be among the vast numbers that are under such intense pressure to be married by family, friends and Chinese culture that they will take anyone, whether they truly love him or not. Such a person is far too crippled, emotionally and psychologically, to ever truly "love" you, or to be the type of lifemate that you will love.”
The sands in the hour glass seem to be pouring much quicker these days as I look at the calendar and see that my time is nearly upon me. I feel the anticipation growing with every minute that passes and the frustration of realizing it is not yet time. I go into work wishing to just get the night over with quickly so I can come back home, get online, and sign in to CLM. I’ve had friends who have to tell me to just breathe and relax.
It opens and closes again…the great Chinese Matchmaking Box. Just when you think you understand the secrets inside, it closes again making you more confused than ever. The Box can often beat you into submission until you stop asking why, or even attempting to offer some logical excuse. It reminds me of a joke around the mid-80s in American baseball circles before the Atlanta Braves team became a legitimate championship caliber team;
I’m going to play love guru for the first and only time. It’s because right after I read John’s latest blog my Yahoo home page had a story titled “Are you falling in love too fast?” Since this was partly the theme of John’s blog and I’m a big believer in synchronicity, I clicked on the article. Perhaps the universe was trying to tell me something. God knows I need to hear it. I am as prone as anyone to falling madly in love, acting irrationally and having to live with the fallout. Indeed, I've reached a point where I’d much rather deal with actual nuclear fallout than the shit that hits the fan when what you thought was the real deal heads south. In case you didn’t catch the article, here is a summary with my commentary on how it might apply to internet dating Chinese women. If you haven’t done so, be sure to check out John’s blog as well.
Over the next several months, I’ll be rolling out a series of new articles for my Blog. As you may know, Chinese boxes are a set of boxes of graduated size, each fitting inside the next larger box. In literature, it may refer to a novel or drama that is told in the form of a narrative inside a narrative, thereby giving views from different angles or perspectives.
I originally intended for this to be a two part series, but recent blogs by other people have convinced me that this part should be added before members start the actual planning of a trip to China. I have already suggested in part 1 and on several other occasions that in my opinion no man should plan a trip from some far off place, at great expense, only to come to China to meet only one woman whom he has only chatted with on the internet. That would be a foolish waste of money. It is only reasonable that you should come with a shortlist of Chinese women (the length of the list depends largely on the time you have to spend in China) each of whom you have decided seem to have real potential to be a great friend, lover and long term partner – perhaps even a great wife.
It goes without saying that anyone who is seriously interested in dating a Chinese woman ought to familiarize himself with the social reality of contemporary China. One of the starkest realities in the lives of Chinese women today involves a housing crisis. As a result of an ever-widening income gap, homeownership — and we are not even talking homes here but of people merely owning their own apartments — is now beyond the hope of the average working person. One of the most popular recent television dramas, Snail House (Wo Ju), powerfully dealt with this subject. Set in a fictional city resembling Shanghai, the drama focused on two sisters who became fangnu, or mortgage slaves, desperately struggling to pay their bills in a country where 85% of the population is priced out of the housing market. Recently, a music video by China’s pop singer Huang Zheng (黄征) dealing with this issue has taken the internet by storm. In less than a week since it was posted on the internet, the video of his new song “Sell” (卖) already had over 1.3 million views. Netizens called it “the most hopeless music video in the history.”
Now, I feel I am in my element with my last couple of articles dealing with my feelings toward China and ghosts. I feel it is time to share with you some of my knowledge of Chinese mythology and in particular the idea of the creation myth. The creation myths of the world carry many similarities. From the Norse creation of the world out of the body of the giant Ymer, to the Sumerians and the destruction of the goddess Tiamat.
People are CHI SEEN! They truly are CHI SIN! I have written on this before and it seems it needs to be said again. "Knowing someone for one month online only does not equate LOVE!" How many times must I hear from women who fall for men who profess their love to them after sharing a few messages? They have not even shared a web-cam chat. Where is the common sense in this world? Even if a date is set to actually meet face to face, does it make sense to commit to them before you have met? It is like buying shoes without trying them on to know if they fit! For the millionth time, people, "Spend some time with each other first and know for sure if you truly are compatible." I don't know if I keep meeting women on here who are completely new to dating websites or if they are just so needy or desperate to possess love of a foreigner that they are willing to blindly jump into the swimming pool without looking to see if there is any water in it first. Go back and read my first entry, Love At First Sight (Or Before First Flight) - A Myth!
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