Back in September 2018 John published my blog entitled 'Traditional Misery' Now, in February 2019, I am even more at a loss when it comes to understanding so-called 'tradition'.

This article is a follow up on the previous blogpost. If you haven’t read the previous article, don’t worry. I’ll summarize. For an English class, my wife, Yong, had the assignment to take a survey from a book “Five Love Languages” (5 lovelanguages.com). The premise of the book is that there are five basic ways couples communicate with each other. These five ways are: (1) Acts of service; (2) Quality Time; (3) Physical touch; (4) Giving Gifts; (5) Words of affirmation. A happy relationship is premised on knowing your partner’s main communication styles and working with them.

Hopefully you've read part 1 of this blog, because it kind-of sets the scene for part 2. You can go read it first here...  

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Life’s a continuing work in progress, full of challenges. Communicating appropriately with ladies, especially ones from another culture, is exactly the same. A learning process, a bit of a minefield, in fact.

For those of you who are familiar with the hit UK TV comedy show called 'Little Britain', you'll already know the character in the main picture.

Part 1 of this blog was published early. By that I mean I hadn't finished writing it at the time John published it. Therefore it's become a 'two-parter'. At the end of part 1 I said that the answer to finding love in the 'right place' is a matter of 'frequency'. So, I guess I should start part 2 by clarifying what I mean by that.

Fish wouldn't ever be caught on a hook if only they'd keep their mouths shut! In similar vein, some Chinese women would be best advised to do the same and shut their big gobs!

Mike Royko, the classic curmudgeon and commentator of human foibles writing for the Chicago Sun Times, was one of my favorite columnists. In response to a famous survey that found women would rather snuggle than have sex with their partners, Royko commissioned one of his own studies, polling his readers about whether they would rather go bowling with their buddies or have sex with their wives. Sex won, but Royko was on to a larger point that would later be validated by John Gray in his classic, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: Men and women communicate affection in different ways. In particular, men bond by doing and women by talking.

After a long hiatus, due to some personal issues, I offer this article about some of my memorable Christmas experiences in Shanghai. Next time I will post the article I originally planned to publish.