I recently received a letter from young Chinese man, who I understand to be a born in the UK but in any event has spent his life there, expressing serious concerns that Caucasian women may be prejudiced against him because he is Chinese. He asked for my comments and I responded by asking if he would be willing to let me make this a blog article so he would get not only my thoughts, but hopefully the considered thoughts of a number of other western men as well. He wrote back and agreed that was a good idea. I apologize to him because it has taken me several weeks getting around to writing this. Read more…

After the exchange of letters you saw in Part 1 of this blog, in which MemberX was dating a “Chinese girl” who supposedly resides in the UK but had gone on a trip to Nigeria, I discovered that a letter I had sent to MemberX earlier than the last letter in Part 1 had actually not reached him, so I sent it again. You’ll find it below and it’s valuable because of our recommendations to MemberX on what to watch for, as well as his understandable refusal to want to give up on Kibecky, but his intelligent plan to now test Kibecky more thoroughly to determine if she was real or not. In this letter I am setting MemberX’s responses in bold so they’re easy to separate from my own questions and comments. Read more…

“What are you doing after Christmas?” inquired Amy. I wasn’t going back to the USA then in 2007, nor have I been back any Christmas, or any other time in five years. My curiosity was up since I had not spoken to her in months. Read more…

I've been having an interesting conversation ’off-blog’ with a CLM lady about what is a ’typical' or a ’traditional’ Chinese lady - it is quite passionately personal in nature so I am loath to share too much lest I break her trust in the conversation but an interesting point came up about ’tradition’ and ’culture' in which my correspondent described her condition as a case of the “Emperor’s New Clothes”. Read more…

First let me apologize for my lack of blogs. My gong fu students wish to expand so unfortunately I am in the USA at the moment overseeing the expansion of my martial arts business. However this period of me being back in the US has only reaffirmed my opinion that real Chinese women are light years ahead of American women, and even westernized or nontraditional Chinese girls. Read more…

Time fly by fast. Again, it’s the end of the year. I got messages from both of my brothers. They wonder if I’m going home this year. I’m thinking about it. If I go, it’s jail time. If I don’t go, I will feel guilty. Either way, I’m screwed. Read more…