Tell me, since when did being well dressed score more points than being good looking? Maybe I spend too much time in the gym and not enough time choosing the right brand of socks?
I was with a woman the other night who said I ought to put a shirt on over my t-shirt, because, after all it was fashionable to dress that way and she was –at this very moment!- being seen on the street with me. The traditional response to such remarks is an equally insensitive “Well, maybe I’m drunk and stupid now, but tomorrow I’ll sober up and be bright again, whereas you my dear will still look like crap.”
Needless to say, I said no such thing. She was buying dinner.
I suppose the answer to my question is that - (until this recent age of easy payment plan cosmetic plastic surgery )- looking good had a considerable marketing value, whereas you couldn’t sell much more than a set of barbells to make people good looking. That has all changed with the rise of cosmetic plastic surgery of course.
What’s my point?
Always look good!
Judging people on what they are wearing and how they are groomed is second nature to our one trick pony human society. It dovetails very nicely with social status and the feminine need to see cleanliness and self respecting predictability in a person. Judging people on whether or not they are good looking (or good hearted, for that matter) is a very double edged sword, best left to Brad Pitt and Lord Buddha.
And, believe me, tropical Asia takes a back seat to no continent when it comes to judging you on your appearance.
When traveling, whether you are about to meet in the flesh those you have met through this international dating web site, or just walking, like Indiana Jones, down the exotic night market street, always be more than just presentable. It’s easy to look good in Southeast Asia; there is always some local bazaar where you can pick up tropical attire, or get what you do have professionally cleaned. Manicures and pedicures are equally cheap, as are barber shops. (Find a barber shop that caters to males, a lot of beauty parlors have no idea how to give you a shave, and if their razors look like they were hastily pulled out of filthy boxes when you walked in, well, that’s because they were.)
Of course, the heat and humidity of tropical Asia tends to drain one, but darling, that is what fake smiles are for.
Clothing accessories count, also. At those same market stalls you can buy well crafted, uh, replicas of every cuff link, belt, wallet, sunglass and wristwatch ever seen in the fashion magazines. We’ve all heard the stories of people who get by for years playing doctor when they are in reality shoe store salesmen. It’s all in the white garments and badge label, its all in the appearance.
People take you to be who you present yourself to be.
You can’t be me, but, don’t be bitter! Just be yourself!
Promise me you will always look in the mirror before walking out the door!