When Love Is Coming
I have ever asked, “Will you weigh your love?” Some people say, “love is intangible. How to weigh it?” What is real love, then?
An Austrian scientist found out, when a person is in real love, the number of enzymes in the blood will reduce. Modern science has already been able to determine the love is true or false.
A Chinese emperor, Qianlong (1711-1799), asked Ji Xiaolan, a distinguished and admirable man, “ Shen me dong xi zai lan zi li? = what is the thing in the basket?” ‘In the sentence, why do we call the thing dong xi ? why not call it nan bei ?” In English , dong xi means east and west, nan bei means south and north.
Ji said, north belongs to water, south belongs to fire, water and fire can not be put into the basket together. East belongs to wood, west belongs to gold, gold and wood can be put into the basket together.
According to his words, love should be called nan bei. Because love has water’s gentle, and it also has fire’s warm.
On the other hand, if there is something wrong with love, you will be in shui shen huo re (=you will be in dire straits.)
Then, what is love on earth?
Love is, when you walk around and see something good, you would buy it for him, isn’t it?
Love is, when you call, you won’t stop till the last second, isn’t it?
Love is, turn down all appointments, just want to see him and talk with him, isn’t it?
Love is, listen to him quietly, seeing him silly, and put your minds on the bottom of your heart, isn’t it?
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Maybe, love is only a cup of plain boiled water, but, it is an indispensable part of life. Just see how you cheat it.
When love is coming, you will stay alone from the group, because real love is exclusive.
When love is coming, you will want the commitment, because no one wants his heart to fly in the sky all his life. All of us hope to have peaceful, safe and warm feelings in life.
But in real life, when love is coming, different people will have different attitudes.
If a person loves you with true deep emotion, you will have an expectation in your heart, filled with happiness, safety and warmth, never worried，confused or nervous.
If the person you love is a hypocrite, you will be in an illusion, or you will have difficult distraction of depression. It hurts!
So in other words, love is be a teacher, he will teach you to be brave and smart, or he will give you some lessons.
Human is emotional animal. Though there is much pain on the way of looking for love, it is always there to seduce us. After all, we all long for real love in our life.
Love is details. With attractive personality, real love will come to you.
In my opinion, love is uncountable or unmeasured, but, it is tangible . In love, we can see it with our eyes, feel it with our hearts, we can touch it, and we can taste it, just like John says in his words. If the love is true, as time goes by, it will be melt in your blood. Nothing can change it.
当爱来临……
我曾经问过，“你会称你的爱吗？”
有人说，“爱”是无形的，怎么能称呢？
那么，什么是“真爱”？
奥地利的科学家发现，当一个人处于真爱的时候，血液中的酶的数量就会减少，现代科学已经能够对相恋的人作出是真心真意或是虚情假意的明确判断。
乾隆帝皇帝（1711年-1799年）,有一天，提问风流才子纪晓岚：篮子里放的什么东西？在这句话里，为什么篮子里放的物品叫“东西”，不叫“南北”呢？
纪说：南属火，北属水，水火是无法放在篮子里的。东属木，西属金，金木才能够装在篮子里。
按照纪晓岚的说法，爱情应该叫“南北”。因为：爱情有水的温柔，有火的热烈。另外：爱情如果出故障，就会陷入“水深火热”。
那么，什么是爱？
爱情是逛街的时候，看到好看的东西，会想给他买下来。是么？
爱情是打电话的时候，要打到卡的最后一分钟，才恋恋不舍的挂掉。是么？
爱情是推掉所有的约会，只是为了跑去看看他，和他说说话就好。是么？
爱情是静静的听着他说自己的不开心的事，傻傻的看着他，却把自己的心事放在心底。是么？
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也许，爱情只是一杯白开水，但是，它又是人生不可缺少的一部分。只不过看你如何对待。
当爱情来临，你会离群独处，因为爱是排他性的。
当爱情来临，你会想要一份承诺，因为没有人愿意让自己的心在天空漫游，都想拥有一份平和安全而温暖的感情。
但是，现实生活中，当爱来临，不同的人会有不同的态度。
如果一个人爱你是出自心底深处的真情实感，那么，他会让你充满期待，心里装满幸福，安全和温暖，不会有担忧，迷惑或神经质的紧张。
假如你爱上的人是虚情假意，你会生活在幻觉里，甚至会变得抑郁. 那会伤人的！
所以，换句话说，爱也是一位老师，他教会你变得勇敢聪明，也会给你一些教训！
人类是感情动物。虽然在寻找爱情的路上充满着痛苦，它依然诱惑着我们。毕竟，我们都渴望得到真爱。
爱，是细节。只要拥有充满魅力的人格，爱会向你走来。
我认为，“爱”无法称量，但是，爱是有形的。爱，是可以用眼睛看得到，用心感受到，可以触摸到，还可以品味到。就像JOHN 曾经说的。如果爱是真实的，随着时间的推移，他会融化在您的血液里，任何东西也改变不了。
Love is a mysterious and a complicated force. What do a person mean when they say they love someone? Love is many different things. Each of us have our own understanding of Love is, and most of the time we base our definitions from feelings and experiences. The book defines love in many ways. "It is a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties." It can be an affection and tenderness felt by lovers. Love is the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration.
Just when we thought we finally grasp what love is, somebody asks:
"Does anyone really know what 'LOVE' mean? I believe I have a true love, but 'True love' is always hurt, isn't it?"
I scratches my head with this thought and began to wonder. What is the answer to this? "This I have to know!" I said to myself. I looked in the mirror and asked "Is it a true love when you know you want to live with this special person for the rest of your life? Have we reached 'true love' when we are ready to give everything away towards our subject? Or maybe when can go as far as to sacrifice ourselves for our love? What about love as an obsession? Is that possible?
"But isn't love suppose to be an obsession? If it is not, then you'd have to rationalize. If you rationalize then it's not love, because there is always a better rationalization."
"I think the "in love" phase is obsessive but according to Williamson (and backed up by my paltry experience), love does not involve the ego, is selfless and the opposite of obsession."
According to Marriane Williamson, the author of "A Return to Love," there is a "holy love" and a "special love." "The latter type is the obsessiveone; finding that one 'special' person absorbs _ALL_ your attention."
So who is right and who is wrong about love? There is no wrong answer. Love is many wonderful things. Love may not work out all the time but it leaves you a special sort of feeling, like nothing you have ever imagined. Is love a purpose of life? I think are life will be dull without it. But is it necessary? Important? It is a part of life, and forever it will be a part of us.
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"Love is not thinking about your happiness but making others happy." -anonymous
"Our hearts are created to Love." -E. Atienza
"Love is like a roller coaster, it has ups and downs."
"Love doesn't make the world go around, Love makes the ride worth while." -unknown
"Money will buy you sex but not Love." -Simon Vainrub
"The more you cry for the person you really love, the more you can understand real love." -Tsuchida Tomomi
The World without Love would be quiet...there is no sky without clouds....
nothing's perfect....and there is nothing can be eternity.....
Love??...what kind a feeling is that??........so strange's......
yeah.....strange's ......feeling called "LOVE"....