The story comes to here, I don’t want to talk about it any more. I want it out of my system then I can move on. I tried my best but it didn’t work out. I had nothing to regret. I spent a lot of time and energy on him but I don’t get what I expect.
I don’t ask much in life, but the thing I ask for is not easy to get. You can’t buy it, you can’t sell it. If you get it at the wrong time, or wrong place, or from the wrong person it won’t last.
Love, you can live without it, but you don’t want to. Everybody, no matter who they are, where they are from, what they do, how old they are, they all want it.
What is true love? How to get it? How to keep it? How long will it last? How much do we want it? I don’t know. I don’t think anybody knows. It’s the beauty of life.
Like any other single woman in China, I’m still searching for my Mr. right. Maybe I will find him one day or maybe not. If there is no Mr.right, I will be alone. Being alone is not ideal but better than settle with Mr. wrong.
Never the less, I will keep looking and trying. And hope I will do better next time. All the folks on CLM, good luck searching and wish you all get your perfect match in the end.
Below is my favorite poem by a famous Chinese poet Xin QiJi from Song Dynasty (By my translation.) Wish all shall be well, Jack shall have Jill. Wish the world peace.
Fireworks in the night sky,
Like flowers booming in the spring light,
And meteor shower twinkle and shining up high;
Famous horses with precious carriage,
Beautiful faces passing by,
With pleasant odor left behind;
Sound of flute flows like the tinkle of mountain springs,
In the bright and clear moon light,
Time quietly goes by,
Lanterns bloom bright all night;
Aristocratic beauties like flowers moving in the breeze,
Graceful gestures, pretty smiles, soft voices, delicate fragrance,
All passing by,
Where is the girl has my heart and takes my mind?
Late at night, I have searched a thousand times yet not find,
Suddenly a look back,
There she is, stand peacefully in the blinking light.
第八章 后语（结局）
故事进行到这里，我什么也不想说了。我要忘记它然后重新出发。
我竭尽全力但还是没有成功，我没有什么可以遗憾的。我在他身上花了很多时间和精力，但事实不如我所愿。
我在生活中并不奢望什么，但我想要的东西却不容易获得。你买不到，也卖不了。如果你在错误的时间，或者错误的地方，或者从错误的人身上得到，它不会长久。
爱情，没有它你照样可以生活，但是你不想生活中没有它。每个人，无论贫穷富贵，来自何方，无论年龄身份，都想要它。
什么是真爱？怎样得到它？怎样维护它？它可以保持多久？我们到底有多想要它？我不知道，没有人知道。这就是生活的美好。
就像中国千千万万个其他的单身女孩，我也还在寻找我的真爱。可能我会找到它，也可能不会。如果这世上没有真爱，那我宁愿单身。单身并不理想，但总比没有爱的婚姻好。
总之，我会继续寻找并不断尝试。希望下次我的运气会好些。伊甸园里的人们，祝你们好运并最终找到你们的绝配。
下面是我最喜欢的一首诗歌，是来自宋代词人辛弃疾。愿天下有情人终成眷属，愿世界和平。
东风夜放花千树，更吹落，星如雨。宝马雕车香满路。凤箫声动，玉壶光转，一夜鱼龙舞。 蛾儿雪柳黄金缕，笑语盈盈暗香去。众里寻他千百度，蓦然回首，那人却在灯火阑珊处。
Thank you for sharing your story with us here. I preciate your courage and bravery.
By the age, you are just like my little sister. In life, age is just a number, it doesn't mean so much. I do have a sister nearly the same age as you. We often talk about life together. Here,I would like to try to give you my simple answer of love.
As a mother, I know the love is unconditional.
As a girl or a woman, I think, love should be conditional. We can not be blind while we are looking for it. Life is filled with sincere，kind, loveliness, as well as lies, ugliness, and traps, we need to search for it with our bright eyes, need to face it with brave hearts, also need to learn how to protect ourselves.
You are a good girl. God bless you.
Meg
As I said in one my articles, the intelligent person learns with her/his own mistakes. I agree with you, In Brazil we say "better alone than in bad company".
From the I Ching, you get "From the ripe fruit, comes rotten matter, from rotten matter, fertility". Life is an eternal cycle and full of ups and downs, I wish you better luck next time. Don't give up, Mr.Right could be just around the corner ....
Now you can move on, a smarter and a better person for what you went through. And now you know, I think, how to better protect yourself from the parasites of the world, including for sure the online dating world. Next time a guy demonstrates such careless disregard for you and your feelings, for your desires and your needs, dump him in a heartbeat.
There are so many really good men out there looking for a woman just like you, so save your love and your giving nature for one of them, and undoubtedly they will return your love and your giving many times over, which is what you deserve.
I think that Chinese women can be a bit idealistic about love and relationships such that perhaps you didn't have the courage to walk away when you saw the warning signs. That same idealism is incredibly attractive in a woman. So don't give up.
As a caring and good person, you made the classic mistake me and many others have made… staying too long in a bad relationship. We want to “Hang-in” even when faced with reality.
If we can in a small way equate such relationships with economics, there is a basic economic term called “The Law of Diminishing Returns”. You keep investing, with no return, or little return compared to your investment. It has peaked.
Sometimes it’s best to “Cut your losses” like a losing gambler in a casino. Just leave, walkout and go home. Tomorrow may be a better day, especially if any lessons were learned. Even bad experiences should make us wiser.