“I’m scared in case I hurt you… Maybe we are both that lucky... But I really do not want to hurt you...” He said.
“Don't worry... I don't think I will ever allow myself to be in a position that if you (or anybody) leave me my world will crash... When people told me that they love me I know some of them mean it and some of them just bull shit. I keep my eyes open and my heart closed and let time be the judge …” I respond.
He is 42; he has almost half century of life experience and from what I know he has achieved quite a lot. Some of the things he wishes to do in a different way if he has the chance to start over again. But who doesn’t?
He is very smart. He is one of the most intelligent engineers I know. I can tell; otherwise I shouldn’t call myself an engineer because we studied the exact same major in university. According to my Google search, he is also a talented business man. But I know nothing about financing or banking so we stick to the subject of engineering.
Part of the fun of on line dating is you get to practice your Google skill and turn yourself into an expert of digging information from internet. Once I was talking to an “innocent” computer program engineer who was “ready to settle down” in Guangzhou. After an hour video chat I got enough key words to Google him upside down and it turns out he is a computer program engineer but he is neither innocent nor ready to settle down in anywhere. He travels a lot for his work and he seems to have fun everywhere he goes. I even found out he got a stupid Japanese woman chasing his ass and asking when he will be free to meet her family.
I’m young, I’m pretty, but I’m not dumb. I don’t have much life experience but I’m not a piece of blank paper either. I have my stories and I learn. I know what I want and I know what I’m looking for.
He said, hey, can we talk? I said, yeah, why not? So here begins the story:
We exchanged more than 100 emails over two weeks, plus several hours of phone calls, video chats and many text messages we became very close.
The beauty of online dating is it gives you a chance to become mind bonded before you actually meet. It’s amazing. And it’s especially good for woman. There is no way a normal man would talk to you everyday for a few weeks just to get you to bed. If he does then he needs to get a life. No people with normal life have that kind of time to screw around. If he is just looking for casual sex he should go to bars and night clubs to mingle around girls with overdraw eye line and skirts that short enough to show their butt cracks.
I think all relationships should begin with long time pure talking before physical meeting. You take your time to find out as much information as you can include his grandma’s name. I’m kidding about finding irrelevant details like his grandma’s name or how many girlfriends his dad use to have but it’s very important to exchange some life stories, good and bad. And always be clear about what you want and demand information that matters to you. For me, I don’t care how much money he has in the bank but I need to know what he does for a living. I don’t care if he is divorced or have kids but I want to know his relationship status and his plans for life. If he is not ready to settle down then I know to not get serious with him and wasting my time…After you all done your homework and have a clue of what you want and what you have then if you are really mind clicked that’s the time to start the physical explore part. I mean if the physical part fail you at least you gain a friend for no harm. But if your relationship begin with great sex and you have nothing in common and can’t even hold a conversation for 3 minutes without your mind flying somewhere else then you may end up staying in a wrong relationship for too long or worse still, marrying the wrong person.
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“我担心我会伤害到你……也许我们都那么幸运……但我真的是不想让你受到任何伤害……”他如此对我说。
“不用担心……我不认为我会允许我自己掉入于一个因为你（或者任何人）离开我而让我的世界崩溃的局面……当人们告诉我他们爱我的时候我知道有些是出自肺腑的而有些只是狗屎。我会擦亮眼睛紧锁心灵并让时间当裁判……”我如此回复。
他42岁，有着几乎半个世纪的生活经验。据我所知他已经成就不少。有些事情如果他可以重来他希望可以以另外一种方式来做，但是谁不是呢？
他非常聪明。他是我所认识的工程师当中其中最富有天赋的一个。我可以看的出来，因为我们在大学学的正是同一个专业。根据我谷歌的搜索结果，他还是一个非常棒的生意人。但是我对金融和银行投资完全外行所以我们的话题仅限于机械工程。
网恋的一个好玩的地方是你可以练习你的搜索技巧并磨练成从网上挖取信息的高手。有一次我跟一个“准备在广州成家”的“纯情”计算机程序工程师聊天，经过一个钟的视频聊天我抓取了足够的关键词并在谷歌上翻了个底朝天，结果是他确实是个软件工程师但是他并非如他所说的那样纯情也没有任何准备在任何地方成家的迹象。他因为工作原因周游众国，而且所到之处都有他寻欢作乐的踪迹。我甚至发现在日本有个傻女人不停的给他留信息问他何时有时间去见她家人。
我年轻漂亮但我不傻。我没有太多的生活经验但我也不是一张白纸。我有我的故事和教训。我知道我想要什么和我在寻找什么。
他问，嗨，可以聊聊吗？我说，当然，为啥不可？就这样，故事开始了：
网恋的美好之处是它给你一个在面逢之前心灵相撞的机会。这相当棒。特别是对女孩子来说。一个正常男人完全没有可能花费数个星期的时间来天天跟你聊天只是为了骗你上床。如果他真是这样那他就不是常人。一个有正常生活的人是没有时间来这样糟蹋的。如果他只是寻找一夜情那他就应该去酒吧和夜店去跟那些画着夸张眼影穿着裙子短到可以看见屁股缝的女孩子鬼混。
我觉得所有的恋情在见光之前都应该始于纯粹的长时间的精神交流。你可以优哉游哉的跟他聊，慢慢的挖出你想要知道的所有信息包括他奶奶的名字。要问他一些无关紧要的信息像他奶奶的名字或者他老爹有几个前女友是开玩笑，但是彼此分享一些生活经历是非常重要的，无论好坏。要非常明确的让他知道你要什么和跟他索取你认为重要的信息。对我来说，他银行有多少存款我不在意，但是我得知道他靠什么过活。我不介意他是否离过婚或者是否有孩子但是我得知道他的生活状况和人生计划。如果他根本没有成家的打算那我就不会浪费我的时间跟他认真……在你们对彼此有了足够的了解并大概知道彼此的所需所有之后如果你们心灵相通那就是需要见面的时候了。我的意思是如果你们见了面但发现生理上不合拍至少你只是认识多了一个朋友，没有什么坏处。但是如果你的恋情是由性开始而你们没有任何的共同语言且没法持续三分钟的谈话不思绪乱飞那你就有可能在一段错误的关系里呆的太久或更惨的是嫁错人。
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The bad point is let you project as fantasy many idea about a future relationship with him or her but in fact it seldom happen as you plan or imagine when you meet the person.
you should meet the person after not too long time.
So, i'm not so sure need so long time and share so much information before to meet. when you meet the person, you can talk more about many things you don't know yet about him or her.