距离
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不知道从什么时候开始，每天，当我打开电脑，浏览新闻，总感觉这个世界太小了。怎么地球的每个角落发生的事情，甚至个人极隐秘的隐私都展示在世人面前。但是，这个世界真的变小了吗？人与人时间的距离呢？一个男人和女人呢，我们之间的距离到底又有多远？
一、 工作感悟
上周三下午，有两位客人到访。让我惊讶的是，他们是快70岁的老人，我还以为先前给我打电话的是孩子的父亲。他们一进门还没坐下，就开始述说他们孙子的不是，爷爷一说就是一个小时，我只说了五分钟，破天荒的一次长时聆听。他们恳请我是否愿意到他们家里去和他们的孙子谈谈，我答应了。
七点还差两分，电话响了，我正走在路上，那爷爷奶奶俩人正站在路口向我招手。老远地，奶奶笑着说，“老师，你的笑容太好看了，你可不可以对我的孙子多笑一笑？”她的话真的让我笑开怀。在花园门口，一个妇女正站在那，爷爷说，“哦，那是我孙子的妈妈”。好热情的一家人，我真的很感动。顿时感觉，这个孩子应该没那么糟糕。
原来，当天学校老师打来电话告状，说他们家的孩子不愿意留堂，翻墙跑了。老师要求当晚孩子必须8点前电话做检讨，否则停学三周。爷爷奶奶爸爸妈妈轮流向老师打电话保证让孩子做到。看着他们的焦急模样，我忍不住笑了，然而，孩子竟然用幽默诙谐的语言和表情向我展示了老师的课堂。不过，他当场表示愿意用电话向老师道歉。
我那瞬间的感觉没错，其实，他是一个活泼天真可爱的少年，完全没有爷爷奶奶说的那么不可理喻。但是，是什么让他们一家对孙子感觉那么无助呢？他们之间心与心的距离有多远？
孩子的教育，需要一定的智慧。 然而，我始终坚持，彼此坦诚地面对比任何其他方式都好。很多时候，唯有零距离的接触才能和谐一家。否则，上海机场留日学生刺伤母亲的悲剧还会不断重演。
二、 生活追求
很多年前，跟朋友喝茶聊天时，我说，孤独是一种态度，我选择孤独。那时的我是有意拉远与人的距离，让自己思想和学习。然而，随着时间的流逝，我感觉，孤独不再是一种态度，而是一种无奈。
一个男人与一个女人的距离有多远？哪份距离是最美的，是最让人渴望的？
也许，我们是邻居，可是我们从未谋面。也许，我们有缘同睡一床，但是却同床异梦。也许，我们天各一方，但是心与心早已连结一起 。。。。。。
不管时间流逝多少，也不管世间有多少浮华梦幻，我还是喜欢中国的那句话，心心相印。心心相印，不是雾里看花，楼头望月，而是鱼翔水底，蜂落蕊中。轻轻贴着你的脸，融入你的心房，心心相印，使人融洽，使人亲切，使人幸福，使人与人产生爱的火花，使心与心产生情的雨露，产生真实可掬的美妙感觉。
难道，这不是您愿意期待吗？
Distance
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I don’t know when it's beginning, every day, when I open my computer, look through the news, I always feel the world is really getting too small. Why? We can see everything happen anywhere in the world, even some persons’ privacy are shown in front of people in the world. Is the world really getting smaller? How about the distance between two persons? And the distance between a man and a woman? How far on earth between us ?
一、 Sentiment of work
Last Wednesday afternoon, there were two guests visiting me. To my surprised, they are about 70s years old. I thought the man called me some time ago was a child’s father. When they came into my office, without sitting down, they began to tell their grandson’s trouble. The grandpa talked about one hour, I only talked about 5 minutes, it was amazing long time listening. Then they asked me if I could visit their grandson at home. I agreed.
It was two to seven in the evening, I was walking on the way, my phone was ringing. The old grandparents were waiting for me at the crossing and waved to me. The grandma smiled to me from farway, “Miss, your smile is so nice, could you smile a little more to my grandson later?” Her words made me laugh. At the garden gate, a woman was smiling and waiting for us, grandpa said,” she is my grandson’s mother.” How warm the family! I felt the boy wouldn’t be so bad.
Now I see… On that day, a school teacher called, told them their child didn’t want to stay in teacher’s office for his bad study and climbed over the wall to leave school. The teacher said, if the boy didn’t make an apology before 20:00, he will be punished, stop school for three weeks. The grandparents, parents tried to call the teacher and told her they could ask their child to do it. Seeing they worry so much,I can’t help smiling . But he showed me his teachers in classes humorously. Then he would like to call his teacher.
My feeling was not wrong, in fact, he was a lively, innocent and lovely young boy. He was not like the trouble boy as his grandparents said. But what made their family feel helpless for him? How far is the distance between their hearts?
Children’s education, needs certain wisdom. But I always believe, face to each other frankly is better than any other way. Most of time, only zero distance contact can harmony a family. Or the Young man who study in Japan stabbed his mother in Shanghai Airport, will happen again.
二、 The pursuit of life
Many years ago, when I enjoyed tea with some friends ina teahouse, I said, lonely was an attitude. I chose lonely. I deliberlity enlarged the distance between me and others. I just hoped to think and study more. But with the time flying, I feel now, lonely is not an attitude, it is helpless feeling.
How far is it between a man and a woman? Which distance is best?
Maybe, we are neighbors, but we never meet. Maybe, we were “lucky” to sleep in one bed, but we had different dreams. Maybe, we are far away in the world, but our hearts link together for long ……
No matter how much the time flies, no matter how many fansy dreams there are in the world, I always like the Chinese saying, Xin Xin Xiang Yin, it means mutual affinity in English? (not good English here). Xin Xin Xiang Yin, is not looking at the flowers in foggy(have a blurred vision), or looking at the moon on the tower, it is the fish swimming happily and freely under the water, and the bees fall into the flower stamen. Close your face gentlely, melt in your heart, Xin Xin Xiang Yin, makes you harmonious, makes you cordial, make you happy, make people produce a spark of love, make the hearts produce love rain, make you have a real beautiful wonderful feeling.
Isn't that you would like to expect ?
当你对环境施于爱的时候,环境也会对你展开温暖的笑!有2个礼拜,我心情很差,工作也不顺心,总是回家就坐在电脑面前，抽着烟、玩着游戏!不知道不觉整间屋子充满了浓浓的烟味，而且地上也到处是烟头,给人一种恶劣的感觉！后来的一天，我实在是看不下去了,打开窗重新整理了房间,打扫了地面上的烟头、垃圾!终于地面干净了，空气也清新，然而再次做下来，自己的感觉就完全不一样了！